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Posted 2/25/2009 10:22 PM (GMT 0)
Please forgive me if I sound like I'm ranting and raving.... This is my initial reaction, as soon as I calm down and think about this rationally I'm sure I'll.... uhh... Not be as angry? //^_^\\'....

Anyway..... I got this letter... It looked like it was from my dad. My dad is in prison. I don't really care for him too much (due to circumstances I would really rather not talk about)

I read the letters mostly for the sake of my other family members... The ones that don't know about the circumstances. But I think my father has probably lost every single brain cell he's ever had. I say this because...

The letter was not from my father. It was from his "friend"....

Guess who? Another inmate.

He gave MY address to another prisoner. The letter was barely legible... I thank GOD it didn't contain anything creepy or weird...

But man... This is seriously messed up... I don't even want to know what all my dad has told him about me. I don't even know what I should think about this.... Or what I should do... I don't know what the hell this guy is in for (I know what my dad is in for)... If he's going to be there long, etc. etc...

Man... this is just awful.... It was such a nice day, too.... Now, I have this to think about... :(...
Posted 2/25/2009 10:43 PM (GMT 0)

Celey,

I am so sorry that you received such a troubling letter from this unknown person. I'm sure it is very upsetting to you, and even more so that your father would disclose your address to someone unknown to you. Please remember that this man is behind bars and cannot hurt you in anyway right now, and no matter what your father may or may not have told this person, is not a reflection of who you are right here, right now.

Take some deep breaths and put the letter up (or throw it away) so it is not a constant reminder to you. I know this is extremely difficult, but try to focus on your surroundings right now, and get back to what it is that you were enjoying so much about today. Focus on the good here and now, and let go of the negative feelings regarding that letter. No one should ever have the power to turn your day into something bad, especially someone you've not met.

best wishes,

megan :-)

Posted 2/25/2009 10:56 PM (GMT 0)
I've already thrown the letter away... I still feel so upset, though... And... Even though, this guy is behind bars right now... What if he's let out in a year or so? I might be gone from this place by then... I live on campus... but... what about the people who would be living there, then?

And I just feel... betrayed... I suppose this is really nothing compared to what my dad has done to me in the past... but... It's just bringing it all back...

It's not suppose to be this way...
Posted 2/25/2009 11:33 PM (GMT 0)

Celey,

I am so sorry and you have every right to be upset as your Father gave your address to a stranger and for what reason?  So this inmate would have a pen pal.........bahhhh.

I am glad you threw the letter away and at this point I am not even sure I woud open anymore mail from my father if he did that.  If your father is sending you mail for the rest of the family then I would tell him to send the mail to the right address as he has broken  your trust.

Go ahead and vent and get the anger out and then let it go. If any other mail comes write return to sender on it and throw it back in a mail box.

Hugs to you sweetie.

Kitt

Posted 2/25/2009 11:52 PM (GMT 0)
If you continue to receive mail you may also contact the prison and inform them that you do not want to receive mail from this person. Every facility is different but the one I worked at would honor reasonable requests.
Posted 2/25/2009 11:57 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks, everyone.... I think I'm feeling better now... I went off to look at some Pug pictures... and found some really cute ones. They always seem to cheer me up..... and I went to get a snack from the snack machine.... And when I got back... I found a dollar on the ground... :).... I guess Mr. George Washington wants me to let it go and cheer up, too... *lol*

Thank you for the additional info, Fitzy, I will keep that in mind... :)
Posted 2/26/2009 1:22 AM (GMT 0)
Celey,
I know the letter is gone but still I would contact your Dad's warden (or whatever
it's called) and let him know that you received unwanted correspondence from a
prisoner who is known by your father.
I would not wait for another letter to take this step.
A lot of it would depend on what the two are in for ... just giving my opinion and
I do hope I didn't upset you by saying it.
Pamela Neckpain
Posted 2/26/2009 2:07 AM (GMT 0)

Celey,

I'm very sorry that you are being put through this uneeded stress, and I agree with everyone on here, because it sounds just ridiculous.  I can not believe any parent would try to set up correspondence with somebody they were "friends" with within the prison system.  I feel so bad for you and I know from personal experience that you can have these letters stopped if you file a complaint like advised by other members.  Please take care of yourself and know you have a very supportive and loving family here my friend.

The best of luck to you.  I hope this situation can be straightened out immediately.

Your Bro Sam

Posted 2/27/2009 4:25 AM (GMT 0)
One more thought for you Celey. Does your dad write you or you write him? Could someone have copied the address w/o him knowing? After thinking about your story I recall one from where I worked (w/ 18-21 y/o boys). Some boys would see other boy's sister's visiting and think they were cute. After mail call they would go to the trash and copy their neighbor's sister's address. Then try to make a "pen pal." There were a few fights over this actually. You know your situation best but I wonder if there is a chance your dad didn't know.
Posted 2/27/2009 4:45 AM (GMT 0)
Just a couple of thoughts here that might help a little.

I know that we PD sufferers are bright, imaginative people ( I mean, we come up with some amazing worst case scenarios for ourselves, don't we? =)
and I know in my own case, I tend to jump to conclusions about things, especially where other people are concerned. I don't know you or your father or your situation, but I wonder if this "friend" might have just seen something with your address and grabbed it or copied it down. Or maybe your dad did actually give it to the guy. I suppose I'd just hate for you to get upset or angry for nothing is all. I've done that way too much myself.

But I do agree that you should follow up on it with the prison officials. Very good advice I think.

Just take heart in that you have friends here that you can vent to, and best of all, friends who always understand your side of things =)
Posted 2/27/2009 11:07 PM (GMT 0)
Unfortunately, no.... In the letter, there were specific details he mentioned about me that he couldn't have known (like how I enjoy using the computer).... He also mentioned specific details about my father and why he was in prison...

This is knowledge he probably couldn't get a hold of, either, unless my father told him... My Grandma is actually the one who gave my dad my address... (She means well, but she often does things that irk me... This is one of those examples) And pretty much everyone I'm in contact with in my family has encouraged me to write back to him... Pressure and all...

I don't visit my dad in prison... I don't think I would be able to handle visiting him after all he's done to me (not just this letter incident)... Besides that, the prison is too far away, and I don't have transportation...
Posted 2/28/2009 8:47 PM (GMT 0)
Yikes, well don't listen to your family and make your own decision. Obviously you don't seem to want anything to do w/ this guy, so don't! No one can force you. I'm really sorry you are in this messed up situation.
Posted 2/28/2009 10:11 PM (GMT 0)
Celey
I would if it were I contact the
prison and have this stopped
This is something that is NOT good at all for you IMHO

PLZ do let us know what is happening and I agree you do not have to give in to the family
TELL them to write him then ..........
Just my humble opinion

Luvs
LYN
Posted 3/1/2009 8:32 PM (GMT 0)
celey it seems hard right now , and the others are right, call the warden where your dad is and let him know about the letter, so they can monitor the mail coming from the person who sent it. smilewinkgrin
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