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Posted 12/27/2009 11:22 PM (GMT 0)

Hi All,

I have been searching the internet for a few days trying to find out what my problem is and have found this website. I'm hoping to help put a name to what I'm feeling, I guess so I can start trying to find a solution.

I know the right step would be the doctor and I do plan going that way but just want to get some advice.

I have always suffered from overly worrying about things but never really effected me greatly, untill the last 2/ 3 years and now the last year has been unbareable.

I guess to describe my main problem is that I worry excessively about things that would not normally bother people, I also over analyse things to a point that I make them into bigger things that they were. This year has been awful. It is now on the brink of braking up my marriage and litterally ruining my life.

It can be anything some one not saying hello, or someone saying something to me that I will literally analyse to death and make it in to something its not. I am even loosing sleep over it. An example would be if someone beaped there horn at me in the cat for instance I would literally go home analse it and then keep looking out the window to make sure they didnt follow. me.... (even when I write this I know what it sounds like)

If anyone says anything to me, i.e the lads joking about things.... I litterally feel bad and analyse it to bits. Even if I text someone and they don't text back i feel uneasy till they do.

Its been a tough year, we had a house fire that took a lot out of us emotionally, and have had a tough time in the past with the loss of a family member, and my wife things it maybe this and I need to talk to people. 

I have always been a strong person, and deal with problems and am always the sturdy shoulder so to speak. Now i feel like ive just cracked up. I know what i'm doing when i'm analysing things, and I know it's prob wrong but doesnt stop the feeling or me doing it. I litterally feel like i'm living in fear and hiding my self away from friends now and feel scared all the time, Which I have never been.  I'm recognising all the symptoms just not sure how to deal with it, which I guess in turn is making me worse. 

I talk to my wife and explain to her what it likes, but i'm not sure talking is helping. I have been feeling like this for a year, and never wanted to go to the docs but thing i will loose everything without going.  My wife says I'm not the same person anymore, I have mood swings when i feel like that. I'm only 29. I litterally want to hide away, when I have always been outgoing person.

I'm looking for any advice on what wrong with me, is it anxiety? stress? I just not sure what I go tell the doc, and what is out there to help me?  I feel like my life is on hold.

I would welcome any advice on what wrong/ what can help/what to say to the doc?

many thanks

Posted 12/28/2009 12:05 AM (GMT 0)
I CAN really relate to what you are saying in fact my daughter just asked me where her mom went..the mom she knew as outgoing fun and willing to try anything once the one that was the stronghold for family n friends.....i was in hospital cait found me in a seizure n on life support but i am getting thru all that day by day and i hv found that i no longer take joy in anything or almost anyways i hv lost all abilty to hear,,,,so communication is tough with ppl...this year i spent christmas day at home and alone after we opened presents there was no real joy for me in it..i forget things so easily i have totallt uncontrolled panic and from that stems anger and frustration i am a shell of what i once was......i hv been told by my doc its due to all the losses i hv gone thru mom dad hubby hearing ect....i want the old me back i miss me very much but it is so hard i am not one that can pretend all is good when its not ya know my eyes truly are windows to this sad soul...is there something that has happened to you and you have not dealt with it i dont mean to be rude sometimes we bury our hurt pain n all emotions for our own reasons that is what i did n finally literally blew a gasket lol...i am happy to say you can make it out that dark place really stick with us and i would really think a doc appointment to talk about this wouldnt hurt..tk care...lyn

I Forgot to mention the way i react to ppl things now as well is totally different i hv to analyse everything like why do they want me to go..really weird things and i cannot help self from feeling of impending doom i hardly ever go out now was always out and about before doing things with daughter..i dont think i remember the last time i really laughed so good n hard my belly hurt...now crying.hrmmff at a drop of a hat i cry i9 was always the decision maker now things get decided for me..to a point anyways as i hv made self get angry at this dd known as a/p kick it where it kicks me and get some of my life back i am not going to keep living like this i refuse too..i and others are here for you hope you come back n read post...huggles..lyn

Posted 12/28/2009 4:28 AM (GMT 0)
When you go to the doctor I would ask about all the treatment there is for anxiety, if that's what you're DX with. It sounds alot like anxiety and I experience alot of what you're going through. I am 18 and am in a 4 year relationship with my boyfriend, and it's really starting to take a toll. Make sure you ask about therapy AND medication. If you don't think you're ready for a medicine please ask about therapy and look for selfhelp books and whatnot. I am really against taking medication for myself, so I am taking the other approach, therapy and selfhelp. Just make sure you discuss the best approach for your personal needs.

Good luck and God Bless.
Posted 12/28/2009 10:58 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for all the advice, I have read some other posts and it sounds like I may be suffering form GAD.

I just wondered if that what you guys think, I actually feel better just knowing other people haver similar experiences and that I might finally know that it is anxiety I am suffering from.

I appreciate your responces.

The question regarding things in my past, i lost my brother about ten years ago but never really dealt with it... and have been told before that I should deal with it. So may this is it all coming out ?

Posted 12/29/2009 1:29 AM (GMT 0)
it could very well be that you hv not really dealt with brothers death..i believe that was my issue as well..it is very very painful to lose a family member especially a sibling or parent...you can start by talking about it here IF you want to only no pressure......remember you are now amongst ppl that know n feel felt what you are you are never alone here..huggles...lyn
Posted 1/1/2010 2:37 AM (GMT 0)
Hpw are you making out...lyn
Posted 1/7/2010 5:10 AM (GMT 0)
Hello, I know exactly how you feel.. I am also really bad about worrying about things...analyzing things way too much... more than normal..I have panic attacks and didn't know what was wrong with me for a really long time until i went to the dr. about it...honestly going to the dr. and telling him everything you  wrote in your post would be the best thing you can do...your dr. will help you and it will save your life and your marriage... because people who don't experience problems like this really don't understand how to deal with them and may just think your crazy...but your not... Right now i just take Xanax when i feel like i have a panic attack coming on or am feeling over anxious.. It helps alot... and you are right just knowing that other people are having the same problems you are helps alot because you don't feel like your the only one... But yeah I really think you have anxiety problems and going to the dr. would be the best thing you can do! I hope things start going better for you & your family. turn
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