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Posted 3/30/2010 12:26 PM (GMT 0)
Hello, I'm new to the forum.

I have recently started getting anxiety attacks which are triggered by mine and my boyfriends relationship.
We have had many problems and we're just sorting things out, but I get really anxious thinking about him being dishonest and hiding things.
In the past he hasnt particularily done any of this before. I just have a huge paranoia and a lot of discomfort when I think about it.

I don't know how to stop myself from feeling this way when it happens, I find it hard to calm down and think of other things. I find it difficult to sleep and find my time apart from him very uncomfortable.

Can anyone suggest anything to make me feel less anxious all the time?

Thank you.
Posted 3/30/2010 1:39 PM (GMT 0)
Good Morning and welcome to HealingWell.



Discovering infidelity, or deception by a loved one, creates a lot of uncertainty and anxiety. I am not sure what your problems are but perhaps if you step back and take a break from each other you will be able to focus on how to deal with your anxiety issues.



From time to time, our intimate relationships can become complicated and complex - full of contradictions and inconsistencies. Remember, you are in control of your life, look for ways to decrease your anxiety and take care of you first.



May I also suggest you look at ways to increase your selfesteem. Perhaps even see a therapist to help you sort through your feelings.



Again a warm welcome,



Kitt
Posted 3/31/2010 9:37 AM (GMT 0)
thank you, I will definately consider seeing someone.
Posted 4/5/2010 4:40 PM (GMT 0)
Hoping you do come back n read
i twas left by hubby and went thru hades but like was said my self esteem really took a big blow

i have come to terms with it and now know i am not the one who did this

i had couselling and i think it might be a good idea for you as well
you need to put you first n know you are a good person this anxiety can suck the life outta ya if you let it
keep us posted
lyn
Posted 4/5/2010 7:39 PM (GMT 0)
hey, thanks for the advice, yeah i have noticed it does suck the life out of ya.
im sick of feeling like this person trapped inside the person i used to be.
have you ever tried the samaritans e-mail counselling?
I was wondering if anyone knew if it was ay good...
i dont know if i can face talking to someone face to face about this.

thanks again for the advice
katie
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