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Posted 6/18/2010 8:08 PM (GMT 0)
Ok this may not be all about anxiety but i know it probably has something to with it. You guys are the only people I know that will listen and give me some helpful advice and comfort. Every since I was a teenager(I'm 23 now) I have had a problem waking up in the mornings. My mom had to almost beat me to get me outta bed for school in the mornings. I just always thought that I wasn't a morning person. But now the problem is way more complicated. I have a 3 year old daughter and she wakes up about 10 or 11 in the mornings just because i try to keep her on the same schedule i'm on so she wont be up by herself. Now with most small children, they get up at the crack of dawn. Not mine. And i worry that because we are on this schedule, when it is time for her to start school it will be one big problem for both of us. I want to wake up early in the morning. Like its something i want to do more than anything in the world and I always tell myself that I am going to wake up, i'll set 2 alarms and everything and will either cut them off and not even realize that they went off or just not get up at all...she will wake me up and i will turn on some cartoons until i can get up..If she tells me she is hungry that will get me outta bed and awake but that is the only thing, and she is never hungry right when she wakes up. But I feel like an awful mother and a terrible person for not being able to wake up early in the mornings and i want to so bad, but somehow i just cant. I've tried going to bed earlier and end up just lying there until i can fall asleep which is normally around like 3 in the morning and then i end up sleeping til about noon. and i hate it...i hate it for myself and i hate it for her....I am a stay at home mom so there is nothing forcing me to get up at the crack of dawn right now but i still would like to be up at a decent hour and have a productive day. I dont know what to do. i just really needed to come and vent... I sobbed and sobbed earlier about it and tried calling a friend to talk about it but they didn't answer the phone..so i came here...thanks for listening guys...this is just really bugging me right now and i need to do something about it...i just dont know what...ive even thought about extreme alarm clocks i saw that shoot water at you to wake you up. lol ...anyways thanks for listening guys...any advice would be great.
Posted 6/18/2010 9:46 PM (GMT 0)
Many people do not like getting up in the morning. I am wondering what time you go to bed? Perhaps you could go to bed at 10:00 PM each night and get up by 7:00 Am. I would guess that your 3 year old goes to bed before 10:00 and to keep her in bed until 10:00 or 11:00 does not a appear to be a good habit for her. JMHO :)

You will have to use your conscious willpower to get yourself out of bed each morning. Set your alarm and put it accross the room so you have to get up. open your shades first thing so it is not so cozy to go back to bed. Always get dressed when you first get up and make your bed so your not tempted to crawl back in it.

If you start to get up she will too.

Make plans for you and your daughter each day and set up a schedule. Take her for a walk, to the park, to the store, to the library. Anything that will give you a purpose that day. Make cookies together, just play with her and of course there are your daily homaking chores.

Good Luck,

Kitt
Posted 6/18/2010 10:09 PM (GMT 0)
Hey skitt, thanks for the advice. I try and get myself to bed around 11 but I always just end up lying there until i can fall asleep, which causes the problems for me waking up in the morning. I talked to my hubby about it and he said he is going to start waking me up at 5 every morning when he leaves and I will have to just get up and not go back to sleep. That is the best thing i can think of to do, and then by the time he gets off work and is ready to go to bed, we will be ready too. thanks for listening to me rant, i guess when you have anxiety it makes problems like this wayyy worse because we tend to overthink things lol. but anyways, i am going to try this and i am hoping and praying it will work!! thanks again!! love you guys! :)
Posted 6/18/2010 10:30 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Hay!
My anxiety is usually worse when I first get up. After I get up, it usually gets better. I hate to face the day and sleep until nearly noon except on those occassional days I have to get up early. I have no reason to get up...no motivation. I think the bed is my "womb"! But I can see that in your case, there is a child to consider and you are obviously trying to do that. When you want to stay in bed, remember who it is for that you must get up. If you continue to have trouble, you may want to talk to a psychiatrist about this. Morning anxiety can be treated.
Take care!
jl
Posted 6/19/2010 3:04 AM (GMT 0)
I really think u have been given great input already
there are days that i wanted too stay in bed n days where i was not able to get out being on life support
i missed a few very critical few months with my 16 yr old daughter ..just last yr
the wounds are deep on her but we are working thru it
talk to your doc about the am a/p
i am glad i was able to start working bk on mine n her relationship
i did get my input on how to do this from here n they were spot on
look for something to mk you get up n get her motivated too
post n let us know how you r doing
lyn
Posted 6/19/2010 3:20 AM (GMT 0)
Lyn, Plz check your email. Thanks.
Posted 6/19/2010 1:47 PM (GMT 0)
Will do
huggs
lyn
Posted 6/19/2010 3:28 PM (GMT 0)
I have read some good articles about getting the proper amount of sleep. Maybe you could try some of the tips I've read about to help you develop a better sleep schedule. Experts say that you should go to bed a half hour earlier than you normally do and keep moving it up a half hour until you get to a time that works. So if you normally don't go to bed until 3AM, move it up to 2:30AM, then 2:00AM and so on. You could also set your alarm just a half hour early once you get used to getting to sleep at the usual time. Don't beat yourself up about this. Your child is only three so you have a couple of years until school starts anyways. It sounds like she is used to your schedule and if it's working OK now don't worry about it. I had friends that were late sleepers and their kids got used to going to bed later and getting up later. Once the kids had school, things just had to change. You will do it when you really have to, but it might be easier if you do it very gradually. Other tips about getting to sleep earlier said not to go on the computer late at night. It is stimulating. Read a book or listen to some music instead. Drink some herbal tea to kind of wind down from the day if you like tea. I love the Celestial Tea Sleepytime tea with Valerian. It is very calming.
Posted 6/19/2010 6:47 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks paniccu...that really helps!! I am taking your advice!! I tried searching for some stuff but nothing i found was helpful. you guys rock!! thanks again!! hope everyone is doing well!! :)
Posted 6/19/2010 9:32 PM (GMT 0)
Keep us posted on how yr doing
like kitt said do things with daughter
it would be fun to hv a big calendar you can get at a dollar store n show her that you r gt write stuff on there for her n mommy to do each day
i know hving a/p is rough ive had it all my life just about but yr child has to see that getting up in ams is very important n really you hv to start getting her ready soon but still awhile to go..for school....
its good habit to get up early face the things you hv listed to get done
i know you will feel so much better getting more things accomplished
this also sets example for yr child imho
tk care
lyn
Posted 6/19/2010 10:05 PM (GMT 0)
Hay, Great advice by all and don't worry when you get to be older you have trouble going back to sleep in the morning. ARG ! We are here to support you my friend.

Hugs,

Kitt
Posted 6/19/2010 10:57 PM (GMT 0)
YES
so bleeding true isnt it....
huggs
lyn
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