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Posted 11/11/2010 3:49 PM (GMT 0)
Hi I am new and just wondering how this all works. I have recently been diagnosed with anxiety and depression but kno it has been a life long illness. My anxiety causes severe mood swings sometimes several times a day and ends up into anger often. Right now the anger is centered on a friends boyfriend. I feel like he is wrong for her and I often get thrown to the side when he decides he wants to hang out with her. He is very controlling and it is hard for her to say no even though she knows its hurting me. I am not sure how to handle this situation it is really starting to eat at me and consume me.

I have noticed I am starting to pull away from her and other family members as well as activites I use to enjoy. I am currently taking medicine and it helps as long as I can remember it or take it on time. I have thought about journaling or trying to find faith but right now everything seems so overwhelming. Many of my family members think i am exaggerating or looking for attention but i know the feelings I have are very real..

Any suggestions of how to cope, especially with the anger

Posted 11/11/2010 4:57 PM (GMT 0)
Hi A.C. and welcome! I am glad you have found us. We know very well that what you are going through is REAL. The symptoms you described are definately A/D. Losing inerest in social interactions and interests you previously enjoyed is a classic depression sx. Irritability and anger are both symptoms and triggers of anxiety. I am sorry that you are going through this! I am glad that you are seeking help. Have you considered therapy as well as medication? My anxiety used to literally wring me out with exhaustion, which led to irritability/anger. Through therapy I learned the tools to manage the anxiety/panic for the long-term. It may also help you to manage your feelings regarding your relationships. We can't change other people's behavior (i,.e, your friend's/her boyfriend's) but we can decided/dictate how we react to them. I hope that you visit the site often. This is a great place for support, information, venting, or just sharing. Post anytime, know that we care, and let us know how it's going soon.
Take care,
Scaredy Cat
Posted 11/11/2010 11:56 PM (GMT 0)
Hi AshCan and welcome.

I know you said that you're feeling overwhelmed and that's one reason you haven't tried journaling. But I'd suggest that that's exactly why you should. Whether it's talking, typing, or writing in a journal it helps to get the emotions and thoughts out of your system where they can eat away at you.

And let me ask... why do you feel this boyfriend is wrong for your friend? Is he mistreating her in any way? Do you just have a "gut" feeling? Or do you just miss spending time with your friend? If you have a real reason to feel your friend is in an unsafe situation - then you owe it to her to have an honest and serious conversation with her. If you simply miss your friend - then tell her. I'm sure it'll make her feel good to be reminded that you care. Then perhaps you can "make an appointment" in advance to hang out.
Posted 11/12/2010 2:38 AM (GMT 0)
Hi AshCan,
You sound like my daughter who is 17 and I wish she would go for some help but doesn't or is she just going thru the "teenage years" like some mothers tell me she is and that she will get over it.?
Anyway, you must remember to take your meds and take them the same time every day, perferably. Takes about 3 mths to get into your system. I take meds for same thing and i feel human again. Still have my times though, especially week before period.
Don't give up and if you want to feel better you will remember them.
good luck to you and "Fugs" gave you some good advice.
Take care and god bless.
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