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Posted Today 10:39 AM (GMT 0)
Was thinking of having a small get-together at home. it was something that i felt happy abt. but when we start on planning the date and stuff, it was still ok when i hv someone at home with me. but when husbnd goes to work, then i'm alone and i dun understand i get anxiety/uptight abt it :(

from time to time, this kinda thing happens, tho the triggers are over different matters, some which may not even make much sense... but when i have someone to talk to, it kinda subsides... but i kinda miss those times when i could be alone and not worry abt getting anxious or uptight abt something and just enjoy time alone doing my stuff...

replies much appreciated...

Posted Today 10:45 AM (GMT 0)
i'm also trying to wean off ativan which i been taking since late last year...manage to go off it for abt 3mths before i took it again... and with the on and off bouts of anxiety that i get when i;m alone, i guess i still need time to get off it ....
Posted Today 3:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hi S.M. I had the same struggle with being alone. For me, it was health-anxiety related. I worried that if something physical happened to me, I would be alone with no one to take me to the hospital. Therapy helped ease my anxiety in general, and I can now be alone comfortably.
It may help to determine what about being alone bothers you. Are you afraid of having an attack, or like me, a health episode? Maybe it is just the lack of distractions around you? Once you have pinpointed the cause, you can then take action to make being alone easier for you.
If you have a general unease when you are alone, maybe try keeping the radio or t.v. on as a background filter. Having a list of friends and family that you can call might also help. open your shades and let in a lot of light, or light some candles to set a cheery mood for yourself.
I hope that you will be able to feel better about this, and that your party goes well. Post back and let us know how it went,
Scaredy Cat
Posted Today 4:54 PM (GMT 0)
Good Morning,

I weaned off of Ativan completely going very slowly and I mean over a couple of months slowly.  I worked very closely with my Psychiatrist who was extremely supportive of my weaning.  I was only prescribed enough Ativan to use through the weaning process.

As for how to deal with the anxiety I am wondering how the EFT (Emotional freedom tapping) is working for you ?  You mentioned you had a site on YouTube that was very helpful.

Coming here and sharing your feelingss can be one way to not feel quite so lonesome, it helps me when I am home alone like I am this weekend.  I know how you feel.

Kindly,

Kitt

 

Posted 12/5/2010 6:55 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much for the replies. you guys are a warm bunch! :))

S.C ? i'm sure there's a lot of courage and wisdom behind that nickname...

i guess u r ritei do get health anxiety sometimes..i lost some weight and am currently a little on the underweight side..

 it all started when i had my first bout of panic attack sometime mid last year while going thru a rough patch in life, and not knowing it was a panic/anxiety attack, so i went to the A&E to be diagnose with this and that, but eventually my family doctor said those 'scary' physcal symptoms i had was smiliar to anxiety and i had some phases of depression as well..

 

time and months had passed since then...am learning to put the past episodes behind..slowly learning to cope and learn abt myself too.. the tips shared here has been useful in helping to understand myself better and makes me feel not so alone...

 

i decided to postpone the gathering for time being, till i get my own issues sorted out..tho i would still very much love having a few friends over now and then for a cup of cofee or simple chats...

 

i have not seek therapy yet besides reading self help articles online or motivational books...am still thinking abt it,

my family doc did gave "gentle reminders" tongue   that it might help to see a pscyhologist if i still have trouble with the anxiety issues... he tinks i i do not need to rely much on ativan and just need to learn to relax more and and maybe learn some coping tools...

 

before i had panic attacks, i could be alone for extended periods without being worried or feeling out of sorts, used to enjoy time alone to do my own stuff.. and i still hv those moments now when i'm not feeling anxious or depressed...the small little things like just stepping out and enjoying the sunshine...watching ppl...

 

Kitt, thank you for sharing. i luv reading your postings! :)

I tried the EFT while at work..coz i hv a little cubicle and when no one's popping  by the workstation, i'd sometimes take a little break, put on my earphones plugged to youtube and be tapping myself away..hehehe

but at home, its not so convenient, coz the computer is located in the open, in the living room area and i have tenants going in and out of the room, so i don't want to freak them out if they see their landlord tapping her face or head away..haha.. just kidding..

i guess i couldn't concentrate that much on eft at home, compared to work where its more privacy... :) but sometimes i'll do it when its quieter...

 

Sending positive thots to everyone...

 

 

Posted 12/13/2010 9:15 AM (GMT 0)
Hi. My name is Debbie and I'm new to this forum. I'm a member of Recovery International, 73 year old self help system founded by psychiatrist, Abraham A. Low. He teaches that we stay anxious because unconciously we attach danger thoughts and catastropic ideas to our anxiety symptoms. The reason we feel secure around people is because we believe consciously or unconsciously believe they can "save" us if we have a panic attack. His cognative system teaches its members to see through their fear reactions and to stop attaching those thoughts danger (fear of illness or death) to scary anxiety symptoms. Once we become truly convinced that our anxiety symptoms are harmless or, "no big deal" (not easy to do)...the recovery process begins and the anxiety symptoms and sensations begin to subside.

This system gave me my life back for those ten years and taught me to stare the "dragon" in the face and not react. Once I could do that (and it took time), the anxiety symptoms lessened in intensity and gradually faded. Then I had a major setback a few years ago due to unresolved trauma issues being triggered. I dealt with the trauma with my own personal faith and my support system. In may of this year I made my first breakthrough during a panic attack for the first time in 3 years. I didn't run for help. It's like the coping skills I was re-learning from all the repetition and finally kicked in. Then out of that breakthrough came more breakthroughs.

I'm not where I was after the first recovery but, I am much better since the setback and I'm no longer housebound. I can travel downtown again and travel in and out of state by myself.

I no longer have to hide in my room anymore and lay on my bed until my adult son or daughter come home because of my fear of being alone. During one trip out of state, I stayed alone in my sister's apartment with the exception of 2 difficult days where I stayed with relatives. Then back to my sisters' I went.

I blog about my recovery experiences and I put the link in my profile for anyone who is interested.

Best wishes to you.
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