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Posted 7/26/2011 1:35 AM (GMT 0)
      I am so lost right now I cant stop crying my heart is raceing I cant think stright, The Good Lord called my Husband home today, As much as I knew this day was coming I am NOT prepared for it, I am a basket case The hospital did there best to save him he crashed 3 times and then they put him on a breathing machine the 4th time he crashed they couldnt bring him back, What do Ido now how do I get through this. I just needed to tell vent I havent slept in 36 hours my panic is overtaking me I just dont know how to handle this.

 

Posted 7/26/2011 1:55 AM (GMT 0)
MzTaz, I am so sorry. You are never truly prepared to lose one that you love so deeply. You have been through so much in all of this.

Can you ask your dr. for something to help you through this, and possibly get some much needed sleep? Your physical health is priority number one at the moment.

There will be a lot to do soon as far as the arrangements go, but for now, you just need to rest.

Do you have your support system around you right now? Lean on them. Let someone take care of you for the time being.

We are here for you too. Anytime that you need to let your feelings get out, we are here to listen.

I know that there are no words that can console you, but know that I and others here care, and are keeping you in thought and prayer. You are an important member of the community here, and we are grieving with you.

Take care of yourself, and post when you can and need to.
Scaredy Cat
Posted 7/26/2011 5:58 AM (GMT 0)
MzTaz,

I just wanted to send my condolences. I am truly sorry for your loss. Is there anyway you Doctor can give you something during this most difficult time?

My prayers go out to you.

Your Healingwell Friend,

Serenitee

Posted 7/26/2011 9:01 AM (GMT 0)
Dear mztaz, I am so so sorry, I don't know what to say to ease your pain...please take care of yourself, you must look after yourself at this time...
I hope you have a good support network around you to help you at this time..

Please know that you are in my prayers and thoughts at this time...hugs to you my friend...xxxx shannon
Posted 7/26/2011 2:06 PM (GMT 0)
MzTaz,

I wish I had words to comfort and sustain you in your grief, but I know there are none that will take away any pain you are feeling now. My heart aches for you, MzTaz.

Although words seem futile now in the midst of your sorrow, they are all I have to give you. Please accept these written words as warm hugs to wrap yourself in, and know that I am holding you in my heart at this sad and difficult time.

Gentle hugs and prayers,

Kitt

Posted 7/26/2011 3:52 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences.

Are you signed up for any grief counseling? It really helps you. Plus you find others like you going through the same situation. Please think about it.

Know that your husband is in a good place now. And he will be wathcing over you with love. Know that we all care about you. And are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

gentle hugs, Karen
Posted 7/26/2011 11:12 PM (GMT 0)
Oh, MzTaz, I am so very, very, sorry for your loss.

Of course you are feeling anxious. That's only natural. A person without underlying AP would be feeling stressed and scared just now, and it's only to be expected that you are feeling that, and even worse.

Grief is hard. Life without a person you love is hard. For a long time, you might find that you just need to concentrate on the basics: pay attention to your breathing and make sure it's centred and slow and deep; try to slow down and rest, even if you can't sleep; eat nourishing food; drink water; try to get some sunshine and fresh air and movement every day. If you can manage to do that this week, then I think you will be doing fantastically well, and will have every reason to feel proud of yourself.

If you are really struggling, you might like to phone your doctor and ask for some extra medication or support or assistance to get you through the first, hard, stages.

Remember, you are not alone, MzTaz. I hope you have your community to rally around you and give you lots of love and support; but even if you don't, remember that you always have us here at HW to talk to and send you love at this really horrible time.

My heart goes out to you.

Ivy.
Posted 7/27/2011 1:33 PM (GMT 0)

        My most sincere "Condolences" to you and your family.

             May you find comfort in the days ahead.

        SE cry

Posted 7/28/2011 2:24 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss. We are all here for you but it takes time to heal. Grieve as you need to and lean on love ones, they want to be with you. Take care of yourself and get your rest.
Posted 7/28/2011 2:54 PM (GMT 0)
Oh MsTaz I am so so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious love. May God's love and comfort surround you and your family and may his grace sustain you in the coming days.

I so wish I could simply hold you in my arms and comfort you. But since I can't, please know that you are in our prayers. Big hugs my friend.

Gail
Posted 7/29/2011 1:43 AM (GMT 0)
i pray God gives your heart comfort through His indwelling Holy Spirit, and He comforts you by giving you certain assurance you will be with him again. Ezekiel 44.25, Luke 16.25,26, St. John 17.24
Posted 7/29/2011 9:58 PM (GMT 0)
 Thank Everyone for your words of comfort, Tomorrow is the funeral, we had to wait till my husbands realatives got here from CA, I dont know how I am going to get through tomorrow, this is the roughest thing I ever had to deal with, I can not eat everything turns to saw dust in my mouth, sleep forget it maybe 2 hours a night,

  I am so thankfull for my Son he has helped me so much through this even getting me apple sauce jello anything I can get down, If I could only stop crying, I cry at everything. Please Pray for me and our families tomorrow as we go through the tough day ahead, I am afraid tho that when the funeral is over is when the really rough part begins, when I am here alone at night with no phone calls or anything to keep me buzy. Thanks Again everyone

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Posted 7/30/2011 12:17 AM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss and I don't know the right words to say. Even if I dd I know they wouldn't change things. If you have a support system lean on them that's what they're there for let them know how you feel and that you need those phone calls and visits to keep you going. Remember were here when you need us also. I'm praying for you and your family during this tough time.
Posted 7/30/2011 3:21 PM (GMT 0)
Our thoughts and prayers go out to you for the services today. I hope that it is a lovely service that reflects the wonderful person that your husband was, and the love that you shared!

I think that you are wise to recognize that the time after all of the preparations and service/receptions is often the hardest. Keep your support system close for as long as you need them.

We are also here. Write and chat anytime...we want to surround you with hugs and support. Many members here have experienced the loss of a loved one close to them. Talk to us anytime you need to.

Blessings,
Scaredy Cat
Posted 7/30/2011 5:22 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry :(

You are in my prayers.
Posted 8/1/2011 1:12 AM (GMT 0)
Praying for your family. Im so sorry for your loss.
Posted 8/1/2011 3:33 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry for your loss. Reading your post brings back horrible memories of finding my husband dead at 48. The main thing I want to tell you is..you'll survive. You'll recover to a degree. It takes time. I'm not going to sugar coat it. It's going to be a long road....You'll still miss him ..still love him.....but you will be ok eventually. If I did it anyone can. If you aren't on meds for you panic attacks, get on them now. The Dr. upped my meds....and it did help get through it. I was the type that got nervous just going to a funeral home...but my husband? I thought if he died , I'd be right behind him. I kept thinking..he wouldn't want me to crack and not get through the funeral or through life for that matter. I wanted him to be proud of me that I could take care of our kids and house. I will be praying for you. It's a pain no one should have to suffer.
Posted 8/1/2011 2:31 PM (GMT 0)
MzTaz

Good Morning !  I know you must be feeling lost and alone now that the service is over.  I understand that feeling and I just wanted you to know that I am here praying for you.

Sending you healing blessings,

Kitt

 

Posted 8/1/2011 10:44 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks to all, the service went good, I made it through that but then the ole panic struck and I was not able to attend the luncheon, everyone said they understand, It is quiet here now lonley, I have to get through the next week and then start to get some sort of normal back in my life I know that's the way Joe would of wanted it., at least I am not crying ALL the time any more just some of the time. Thank you all for the prayers I really need them and appreciated them God Bless
Posted 8/1/2011 10:47 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. I can't even begin to imagine how you feel. I just know that sooner or later we will all experience such a loss and grief is different for everyone. Let yourself grieve and don't try to hold back any tears. Lean on your friends and family as much as possible. I'm glad you are here on this forum because we are all here for you, too.

I agree that you should probably let your doctor know what's going on so that he/she can help you, medically, through this tough time. Keep checking in with us and share when you feel like it. I wish I could reach out and give you a hug right now, because that is what I am feeling for you....so just feel my *cyber* hug right now, ok? ((((((((HUGS)))))))).
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