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Posted 8/11/2011 7:31 PM (GMT 0)
im at a point where i hate everyone and i mean everyone i have no friends that i want to talk to ,my family(aunts & cousins) is so nosy and gossipy i don't want to attend family functions . And i specially can't stand my husbands family it keeps me up at nights thinking about running into any of these people even more so when there's an upcoming party or something because i do hav a 7 yr old and although i don't want to exclude her from having fun it hurts even thinking of sitting a couple hours with all th fake people . i can live a happy life if i never see anyone again but sometimes i do feel like i isolate myself but i can't stand dealing with everyones fonyness i would try counseling or something but i cant afford anything like that i just don't know where to go from here.
Posted 8/12/2011 7:16 AM (GMT 0)
Hi violet, ok you sound like your fed with everything and everyone at the moment... That's ok we all get fed up sometimes with things that go on in our lives.....but you can't live your whole life not talking to anyone....you would be very lonely my friend...come on here and talk to us we are all great listeners and were not nosy and we don't gossip...lol

I'm sorry you can't afford counseling it would probably be really good for you to talk to someone about what's upsetting you and making you fed up with everything...do you do relaxation tapes or anything like that?

Sorry I don't know if I'm being much help to you, I am sorry that you feel fed up with everything, and please keep posting on here it helps believe me...bestwishes to you shannon
Posted 8/12/2011 12:55 PM (GMT 0)
Hi VB, good to hear from you again:) I saw your post yesterday, and wanted to respond, but things got really busy and I didn't get the chance...but I have been thinking about you, and I am sorry that you are feeling so miserable:(

Shanny is right, everybody feels this way sometimes. The negative thinking starts up, then snowballs, until it seems everyone and everything is making us unhappy.

Of course the reality is that we can't change others, or all situations in life, so the change must come from us (why is it always the hard way right? lol)

There is the on-line therapy called Moodgym and Ecouch...it's free and go at your own pace. The site is super easy to navigate (I can do it:p) and it is helpful in reversing the negative thinking patterns into more positve, productive ones. The links are in our Anxiety Resource Guide (main page 3rd post)

Give it a try and see what you think. I hope that things will improve for you soon and you will start to feel better about things. Keep us posted and know that you are among friends here:)

Take care,
S.C.
Posted 8/12/2011 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
the thing is that i've been feeling this way for maybe 2 years now and ur right i can't change others only my self but for instance one thing that really bothers me is my aunts and cousins not only are they gossipy but when i do hav to see them at partys they are (every last one of them!)the type of people who sit and chat all night long while their kids are no where to be seen mind u these children are from age 1 to 8 i hav 21 nieces nephews and cousins in my emidiate family who are never being looked after at these functions and i just can't stand that.i watch my daughter every second, of course giving her th space to enjoy herself but i never take my eyes off of her.and when someone ends up hurt or crying everyone is runing aroung like a chiken with their head cut off asking th kids what happened. how ridiculous !.this is just one of th many reasons why i detest get together with anyone. i do hav my mom and my sister who i'm very close with but thats it other than my hubby and my brother who's in prison but is closer than anyone .i know i'm doing myself a deservice by isolating myself but i just cant bring myself to socialize with people like that. i haven't really done anything to help with my emotions but i'm very willing to try anything at this point.
Posted 8/12/2011 5:52 PM (GMT 0)
I have been at those types of social function, where the parents are acting as if there is some kind of invisible babysitting or something...and I end up supervising the kids, because I can't stand to see the kids in jeopardy of getting hurt, or getting in fights, ect... shocked


It sounds as if you definitely should limit your time with these people, and work on developing relationships with those that you share the same values with, and enjoy being around:)

You can't choose your family, but you can make short and not so frequent appearances, and spend your social time with whom you want to! :-)


Best of luck (and give those sites a try if you can)
S.C.

Posted 8/12/2011 7:54 PM (GMT 0)
thanks for seeing where i'm coming from about not wanting to spend time with them but i don't know where i would find new friends i work for th family business with my mom and sister all week and drive to see my brother in prison almost every saturday i spend sundays with my hubby and daughter i just don't see where i can make new friends unfortunatly so i just keep enjoying my family as much as possible.
Posted 8/12/2011 8:35 PM (GMT 0)
i'm checking out th ecouch as we speak .
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