DAd's death anniversary

having bad anxiety today.  took half a xanax and not working very well.  heartrate is still 95.  ugh  only had 1/2 left.  have some klonopin and not sure if i can take together but so tired don't really want to. 

it is my dad's bday today - he died 9 years ago.  does anyone have anxiety remembering someone who has passed on anniversary dates? or am i just too sensitive?  ugh

 

Hazel,

SC is right on - sometimes an anniversary of a death or loss weighs heavy on us when we are already struggling with other problems.

Be kind to yourself today, don't expect so much of yourself and remember the good times you had with your Dad.  I know you were a good daughter.

Kindly,

Kitt 

Hi hazel, I know exactly how you feel, I lost my dad and two brothers in a short space of time and anniversaries are very hard for me too.....and your not too sensitive, better to be sensitive than a cold hearted person i think....you loved your dad and you miss him...and when you lose someone suddenly it takes a long time to accept that, I know....and yes if your not happy at your job that will increase your anxiety, especially on those days were you are preoccupied with other thoughts....as kitt said. Be kind to yourself, we are all only human and remember the good times with your dad...hugs to you...shannon

Hazel,

One of my old wishes, " I wish I was more laid back" !  Now I make my own wishes come true and if I am having a bit of high anxiety I go with it, let the feelings out, give myself breathing space and remember what matters most to me.  

 

Many people spend their entire lives trying to prevent bad things from happening. But guess what? They happen anyway. And life goes on. That's not to say you shouldn't take any kinds of precautions in life, but if the majority of your thoughts are consumed in contingency planning, you're not enjoying life. You're preventing it. When you're feeling threatened by things that haven't happened yet, remember these words by Ralph Waldo Emerson:

Some of your hurts you have cured,

And the sharpest you still have survived,

But what torments of grief you endured

From the evil which never arrived.

Be well and blessings,

Kitt