Thanks, Kitt! You're the best. *Hugs!*
I really think I'm starting to feel better. Talking to you wonderful people has helped, and I think a bit of my husband's perspective is seeping in. When I'm really calm, I can look a little more objectively at what's going on with me, and I believe that I tend to LET the anxiety completely overwhelm me. In my personal case, I think I have more control over the fear than I let myself believe... it just seems to be what's familiar and deeply programmed, so I'm really trying to reformat my way of thinking.
Of course, I know that the triggers will still be there for a while to come, and I'll likely go through more episodes before I truly get a grip, but... I think I'm making progress on it. The CBT helps, as well as just really understanding what CBT is all about
at its core and applying that to my own methods of evaluation, if that makes sense... I know that the purpose is to essentially reprogram the way we tend to think about
things, and assign a different set of reactions and associations to certain triggers and circumstances. I don't know if I'm explaining this well, but...
Anyway, I think it's helping. I felt a heart palpitation a few minutes ago, and though the instinct to panic was there for just a split second, I calmed myself down thinking, "You know... whatever is going to happen is going to happen. I'm taking measures to correct my life in every aspect that I have control over--like going to get the echo next week and sticking to my healthy diet, so why torture myself over the things I can't control? Why sacrifice my own quality of life in favor of fearing what may or may not happen?"
It's easier said than done, I realize, but it's truly helping. In some ways, I think it's even getting me to look forward to going to the appointment and finding out one way or another what's wrong, just so I can have the opportunity to get myself back to the health I should be in. There's so much that's good going for me--I have an incredible relationship with my husband, I have a neat little apartment with cheap rent, an awesome dog, and I've just lost 30 pounds in my goal to lose weight (still 60 more to go, but it's coming off!). I have my music, my friends, and a job.
Those are the things to focus on.
Thank you, everyone, for doing what you do here. You show lots of care, offer support and useful information, and I hope you all know you're really making a difference for some people.
Of course, I'll be back when those triggers flare up. Lol. But I still think there's been progress.
Post Edited (RisaA) : 1/27/2012 12:26:45 PM (GMT-7)