a question

I have a question for you all. Does anyone else notice that their love ones hold you to a higher standard on things that upset you? What i mean is something like, i am bothered by something, even something that is little but really upsets me and sets off my anxiety and panic attacks but my husband tells me that it isn't that important. I feel like i am not allowed to have issues even through i have a legit anxiety problems. Does anyone else find that they have this problem with love ones? I have talked and talked and talked to my husband and come to to conclusion that he just doesn't understand and i understand that but at the same time why am i not allowed to have the issues that the doctors has diagnosed me with? Does anyone understand this or have any advice on what i can do because i feel like i am losing my mind.
Thank you
Krystal

I understand this also! I just think that its because they cannot see or feel what we do. The little things are what is worst for us. For me he cannot understand why I have problems in crowds or sit in middle of restaurants. It seems small to others but its huge to me. Hes coming around but others in family are still clueless why I worry bout the small stuff.

its very common! until they experience it, they have no idea. Ive spent nights sitting in the car crying because of being unable to sit in a resteraunt, days whee ive run out of the supermarket because i cant stand the panic attack coming on and dealing with it "incase" i pass out or similar. They dont get that the fear can be crippling. it took my husband many years to be able to support me through them, now i get a big cuddle and hes finally allowing me to hang onto him when i have the attack, hes a godsend :) and because of this support, the attacks lesson, because i feel safe with him. Ive learnt to now say "Im having a panic attack" or "i can feel one coming on" and am not embarressed about it, its thre, its life for me at the moment, and ive accepted it, so has he. Im sure they dont like it, and prefer we didnt have this "thing" but over time, he will understand. You just have to be honest. good luck!

My husband wants to fix this for me and unfortunately we all know it isn't that easy. I think its more of a matter for me that i want him to agree that what i am upset about is important and that i am allowed to be upset even if it is something silly. He doesn't seem to understand that and most of the time fails at even helping me at all, because he says something along the lines....."They probably didn't mean it to hurt your feelings, and its not that important." I understand that not everyone is out there to do things against me, but the more times he tells me that the more paranoid i feel. And telling me that its not that important just starts a fight because i instantly feel like what i have to say doesn't matter or that i am being stupid. It is annoying, but my mother in law has been recently a big help. I hadnt thought to go to her for whatever reason, but i have been lately and she fills that void that my husband can't seem to fill.
When i am having more than 5 panic attacks a day something has to change, right? I can't take the meds and hopefully will be starting couseling soon and i am praying that that will help.