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Posted 2/14/2013 5:47 PM (GMT 0)
Just stopping by to say hi  turn  I see so many new names and I hope everyone new knows that this is a great place to get answers, support and comfort. I have been doing really well and keeping anxiety down to a minimum. I do have one major stressor coming up but I'm handling it really well.....I am having  surgery in a few weeks. It's taken several months for me to accept that I need surgery but now that I have and have found a surgeon I'm comfortable with, all is good.

I hope everyone has a wonderful Valentines Day yeah

Take care.

Posted 2/14/2013 7:40 PM (GMT 0)
Wow thats great the your anxiety is down to a minimum! Congrats on that! That is a huge accomplishment! Gives some encouragement that this anxiety can be beat. Best of luck on your upcoming surgery!
Posted 2/14/2013 8:34 PM (GMT 0)
Controlling my anxiety was self taught. I think you have to come to peace with what is causing it and even then it takes time. I spent many hours in tears. I understand the doom. The feeling that it won't get better. Watching everyone else having a life while you don't. I lived it and I still fight to keep it away and probably always will. This forum reassured me that I wasn't alone, so many people are hurting the same as I did and were there for me. Yes there is hope, I lived it and now I look forward to waking up in the morning.
Posted 2/14/2013 9:00 PM (GMT 0)
Hello,
It's great to hear you are doing well with your anxiety and that you are prepared for the stresses of surgery. I have only been here a short time but I really love this forum. The people here, even newer than myself, are really supportive and it's great to have a community to help resolve anxiety.
-Rxclusion
Posted 2/14/2013 9:14 PM (GMT 0)
I truly believe in these forums. I think the most help you will ever get is from people who have lived it or are living it. I don't care if health related or problems with your children or fixing your car. The people that are living it are most helpful. I had health anxiety. Imagine that and now I'm looking at surgery actually two surgeries back to back and I not even stressed about. A few years back I don't know how I would have handled it, I had a hard time going on vacation at one point in my life.
Posted 2/14/2013 9:49 PM (GMT 0)
Hello,
Health anxiety is what I'm currently dealing with in lieu of a close friend dying unexpectedly. He was just a year older than me and passed in November of last year. It's been a journey since this all started in December. I am now in therapy (again) and have faith things will look better in the future. I'm not sticking myself to a deadline because I think the best way to treat this is to let it run its course as I recover. I mostly recovered from another form of anxiety 'social performance anxiety' just months before my friend passed. I wasn't completely better because I was wild and reckless with my body up to my friend's death. It mostly scares me because I could have easily been on the same dark path he had ventured on to his demise. Since then I've been conscious about my health, overly so, and I'm stuck inbetween getting healthier (which I surprisingly am fairly healthy) and feeling like I'm completely unhealthy. I look forward to the days I no longer feel daily pain from my anxiety.
-Rxclusion
Posted 2/14/2013 10:18 PM (GMT 0)
If you are prone to anxiety, it seems to come from nowhere. One day you feel fine and then bam, it hits you. The more you try to force yourself to get over it the worse it gets. First you need to make sure there is nothing to your fears. If you need to take a trip to your doctor and get some tests done, do it. Don't let the fear of "what if" stop you, that will only add to anxiety. Once that's not an issue, don't do anything that you are uncomfortable with. Take baby steps towards your goals. Mourning a friend is hard especially when you are putting yourself in their place, you have been reminded of your mortality. You need to remind yourself you are not in that place and take control of your life. What kind of social performance anxiety to you have?
Posted 2/15/2013 1:19 AM (GMT 0)
Hello,
I've been through the gauntlet with medical test; multiple EKG's, a Halter monitor, an Echocardiogram, multiple blood work, and a CT Scan of the ol' noggin. So far nothing has come back aside from slightly abnormal in the chest area. I had a strange performance anxiety that comprised of slightly sociopathic behavior. The way I best described it was that I wore multiple "masks" for each and every social situation. It was a social barrier I had developed as a "survival" mechanism. It came with benefits, mainly that I could relate to almost anyone and in social situations I could morph into whatever "mask" I felt would benefit me most. It was a great ability but the price was that my body was in constant distress because of the behavior. My introduction to full on Anxiety came with one of my best friends taking advantage of me to the point I literally broke. Like I said with therapy I recovered fairly well but my friend's death triggered an even worse anxiety (to me). Before I would have sizeable attacks but they weren't everyday like mine are at the present. It's gotten a little better lately (only feeling unwell 60% of the day. I look forward to recovering but understand it takes time.
-Rxclusion
Posted 2/15/2013 5:13 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Carly and welcome back!

I am so glad that you have been doing well.;)

Keep posting with us as much as you can. You have a lot of experience to share...and we can support you through your upcoming surgery.

Talk to you soon...and again, good to see you posting again!

S.C.
Posted 2/15/2013 2:27 PM (GMT 0)
HI SC!! I have come back from time to time to read some of the posts but I felt that I didn't have much to offer. I suppose just the support we can give each other is huge.

Rxclusion, we have gone that same old path....thinking we are about to have a heart attack or that our hearts are just going to stop. I do have a lot in common with you. I went through all those tests too. I had some doctors that were very caring and sympathetic and others that basically thought I was crazy to keep coming back to be told the same thing. I finally had a cardiologist that suggested an MRI of my heart to make sure there was nothing wrong and that was the big test that calmed me after all the other tests and years of palpitations. Like I said earlier, I still do feel palpitations from time to time, I know it's anxiety again trying to come back.

I understand your social anxiety too. You are trying to satisfy everyone by fitting so you transform yourself into what you feel they will like. You know that you can't do what you promised while "being that other person" but you do it anyway.

Dealing with death is huge when you have anxiety issues. It sounds like your friend was a major part of your life and that he was only 1 year older than yourself, how sad for his family and friends. How old was he? And do you feel comfortable telling the story of what happened?
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