Twiggy, my friend !
First of all I am so sorry you are struggling and I have been in your shoes but when I was going through a divorce it was not acceptable............so I was blackball and accused of being a home wrecker as well as causing my ex father-in-laws lung cancer and death. I had 3 children and was just 23...............but I made it and I know I made the right choice way back then.
Relationship breakups are tough. They are emotionally exhausting, and can be incapacitating at times. For some who begin to dwell in regret and sadness, breakups can even spiral into depression. Even the breakups that make the most logical sense are still emotionally painful. And in fact, it is the emotional — not logical — part of ourselves that causes us to dwell in these relationships that we may logically know are not healthy for us.
While a grieving period is expected after a breakup, as breakups are a form of loss, it can be easy to get caught in an emotionally harmful pattern if we don’t actively push ourselves forward in our lives.
It is also important to remember to take care of your daily needs when dealing with a breakup. Go to the gym, jog, swim, walk, cook, etc. Some may feel less motivated to grocery shop, prepare meals, eat, or shower after a breakup. These may require some extra effort at times, but push yourself to continue your daily routines as before.
Seeing a therapist to process the residual emotions and thoughts is a healthy way to deal with a breakup, especially if you’re feeling guilt, regret or starting to dwell in sadness.
I am wondering if a change in your pain med or seeing a pain med physician may help you as pain can cause anxiety. Also you have some wiggle room on your Cymbalta..............I was at 120mg at one time but 90 mg was more reasonable for me. Something to discuss with your Dr. as each of us reacted differently to the meds.
I will be thinking of you all day and do come here and just post, vent or whatever helps you as we are here for you.
Hugs,
Kitt