Just want it to stop

Sparky,

I am sorry to read of your break-up and even when you know it is likely to happen it does not make you feel any better when it actually occurs.  I suspect there was nothing you could have done to stop this event.

I have been  in your position more than once and the feelings you are having about your past actions  are most likely warped and incorrect as most of us are good at blaming ourselves for "bad luck". We believe we could have done something to have prevented someone from leaving us and even go so far as to think we can make ourselves more lovable.  

I know this is hard to understand  - you will feel better with time so try not to knee jerk and make any rash decisions at this time in your life.  Give yourself time - let out your feelings of sadness. 

I suggest you read Dr. Phil's Life Strategies and then Eckhart Tolle The Power of Now    It is not helpful to you to hate yourself you so try things you have always wanted to do.............  You have an opportunity in front of you.   You can choose to live life to the fullest knowing that nothing is permanent no matter how much we would like it to be.  

"Life is a succession of moments. To live each one is to succeed." Coria Kent            

Hi Sparky,

I am really sorry to hear of your break-up. :( It is so hard to go through! Know that we understand, and have all been there.

Interpersonal issues are a trigger for me as well. ..so realize that the anxiety that you are feeling regarding your relationship is normal.

I know that it sounds cliche...but time does heal all wounds. Try to keep this in perspective...yes, this feels awful now, but you will get through it, and every day it will get a little easier.

Keep busy with your recovery plan...and find things that are fun and enjoyable to keep your mood as up as possible.

Post with us a much as you need to during this time. We are here to understand and listen anytime.

S.C

Kept busy today, but now my son is going to his moms for a week and I fear I am going to lose it. Anxieties are really bad now and all my exercises, books, breathing etc. don't seem to be working. So alone and scared

Sparky I am very old but I can tell you that all this will pass, and
though a break up is tough it's only that way due to your feeling
and commitment, son someone is out there waiting, just don't
harden your heart, stay open and honest. Peace

Larry ***

Good Morning Sparky, Your emotions can create a panic attack whether you’re sitting in your living room or your place of work. That’s because constantly worrying about your divorce can create a biochemical reaction. Your adrenalin rushes, causing your heart to beat faster and your mind to race. “Ask yourself, ‘Is this thought I’m having right now a productive thought? Is it helping me in any way?  What would help me?” The answer cannot be going back to the way things were as yesterday is over………………..live in the present and give yourself time.   When I am feeling sad or missing someone I often turn to music.   Music can make me laugh or cry but either way it is good. I am going to post a link to a song for you and I hope if it makes the tears flow that it will also put a brief smile on your face. When you listen to the song - set a timer as this is your time to mourn and feel sad.  Once the timer goes off - get out and do something. Do not isolate.................you are a very important person and the world is a better place because you live and serve within it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlG9IiOugCo After listening to a song that speaks to my heart I always laugh as I realize how music can affect me - but in the end it is all good music. Kindly, Kitt