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Posted 6/17/2014 4:59 AM (GMT 0)
First time to the group, and we will just say I have a few issues 1: why we are is my anxiety 2: I have epilepsy 3: chronic migraines and last 4: depression. I am a cna and a first responder soon to be getting my emt and none of my issues get my way of them because I love helping others. My anxiety is probably my worst of all because I freak my self out when I'm by myself at night I do Iive in the middle of woods were an axe murder could just break in and kill me and noone would know. I can't let other people drive in bad weather or busy places because I don't trust them with my life that family included that are all emts (it run in the family) and I want to live on my own but I'm scared someone will break in and kill me or rap or I will have a seizure and no one will be around to help because I don't feel them coming on. I just really want to not want to be afraid to home alone at night. shakehead
Posted 6/17/2014 7:28 AM (GMT 0)
hi angel. have you thought about in engaging a specialized therapist to help you with these fears? maybe you are seeing a therapist, but i don't think you mentioned one. i have blurred vision at the moment, diabetic retinapathy, thus i miss things easily. kinda sucks as i can no longer read long posts. i find therapy very beneficial. you can learn excellent coping skills as well. have you talked this over with your doctor? tell me to butt out if you want, i just though that having options and treatment options and referal options would be of help.

welcome to the forum. know that we care about you. we understand anxiety. i send warm healing thoughts your way. keep strong and keep posting.
Posted 6/17/2014 7:49 AM (GMT 0)
Hi turtle and thank you for some thought I have talked to my neurologist about some of this he mention seeing a therapist but in my family its always suck it up can stop being a bawl baby because people have worst out there then we do so I don't plus I kinda feel a shame that I can't be perfect like they want
Posted 6/17/2014 2:12 PM (GMT 0)
Hi. Although not ideal, what if you got a monitored alarm system? Or won't it work "out in the woods"? You might feel more secure knowing no one can break into your home or if someone does, help is on the way? If not, you can purchase a system that doesn't include monitoring but has alarm sensors on the windows that will activate when they are opened. Finally, although you aren't old, what if you purchased a medical care alert pendant? You could wear it at night or when you're home alone. That way if you had a seizere you could sumon help quickly. I agree that a therapist can be helpful. And no one needs to know you're seeing one unless you tell them. Just a thought.
Posted 6/17/2014 2:22 PM (GMT 0)
Yes I have concerns about living alone. I didn't so much until my 15 year old car was broken into (I have the oldest crappiest car in my neighborhood!!). They didn't get anything, and this is not the first time over the decades I have lived here that minor things happened, but what I did to be PRO active was:

Got a fence around my front yard.

Will be planting spiny thorny bushes all around the front fence.

I keep my house BLAZING at night with every room lit. I don't care what my neighbors think.

I use a lot of those solar outdoor lights.

Getting a "beware of dog sign (No dog yet, but still...)

And either home alarm signs or the system itself.

The funny thing is, I have the ... Err... How can I say? "Shabbiest" house on the block (almost), so you'd think robbers/bad guys would go after my neighbors with richer cars etc, but... You never know.

I know this is a personal choice, but I am also armed.

Doing these things made me feel better (and I really should get a dog soon).

They have dogs trained to detect oncoming seizures by the way, not sure if you knew about these. A warning system just for that.

It's normal to feel anxious about your safety, we women need to be more aware than men, I think. But do all you can to take ACTION, that will help ease the anxiety,. hopefully.

Hugs!
Posted 6/18/2014 3:48 AM (GMT 0)
Hello and welcome!

It will never cease to amaze me how we can all have anxiety, and yet have completley different fears!!

I could never work the type of job that you do (trauma is a huge trigger for me!) and I so admire your strength in that area!! Injury/illness is just a huge NOPE for me.

However, I have no problem being alone at night, driving in cars, ect...

I do however, understand and respect other's fears...because once you have had anxiety and understand how it feels...you can empathize with others, no matter what the differences in our phobias.

We have had others with similar fears to your post before. There are a few tricks and solutions such as the ones mentioned above...those are all great and smart ideas...but often the fear can remain, even when all precautions have been taken.

This is where professional help is usually needed. Exposure therapy and/or CBT can both be useful for monophobia/autophobia. You can seek this either through a therapist, or look into self-help material for treatment. (if you would like me to research some self-help resources, let me know and I will do that)

Keep talking with us. We understand how you are feeling, and are here to support anytime!

Scaredy Cat
Posted 6/18/2014 5:49 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for your advice it is very warm and welcoming . Some of the ideas/ things that some of you suggested we do already have. Like the motions lights and solar lights the motions work well it will go off all the time when any kind of animal comes in are yard. We do have a big dog who does bark that's it and we are hunters and I'll leave it at for that part. I really don't need to put up any fance or bushes because my house is surrounded by trees its self. So in that self is all covered. The others things like the life alert button I haven't thought of. Or the self meditations. I don't mind driving as long as I'm doing it because I don't trust other people with my life. And I wish I could feel more safe with myb surroundings
Thank you Angel
Posted 6/18/2014 1:56 PM (GMT 0)
Additionally, you can get the life alert pendant that has 2 way talking. You push the button and someone comes on the line to inquire what you need. The pendant works like a walkie/talkie. You can have them call 911, a neighbor, family member, etc. But it seems as though you have taken many precautions. Seeking help from a therapist would be a good next step to deal with the remaining fears.
Posted 6/18/2014 6:03 PM (GMT 0)
Actually, I think MAL wrote another exceptional post filled with great ideas!

I was only going to add a comment about that pendant you wear around your neck and can press if you're in trouble. My MIL has one as well as that automatic voice system, so someone, a real person, will talk to you.

We can only fortify the outside so much,...ultimately it comes down to why we have these fears, and what can we do to strengthen our internal self? What can you do to help you feel stronger and more in control "if" something were to happen? What would it take for you to feel safe enough that you do not feel consumed by this fear?









M.
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