I feel like running away!

Deborah...I'm so sorry you are having a bad time...I wonder if you are getting any breaks? respite? I don't know the situation you are in but being a carer is really stressful at the best of times and you are only one person and you need down time for your own health as well. I don't know what to tell you but we are here so come here and let it all pour out and it may help some....remember deep breathing exercises as well....hugs to you.

Thanks friends I really appreciate your kind words. I lean on God for my strenght, I just get so depressed sometimes, and need to vent. I have no one else besides my husband to rant to

Deborah I can understand how hard it is for you and I feel for you really.

Is there any news in finding a person who would love to help you?
I remember you said you asked a couple people around, including your sis, but turned down.
I really hope you manage to get some help so that you can have it a bit easy.
It's really tough, I hope you receive support from family members and/or friends soon <3
You are very strong, I've always believed that.

Hey Deb, I know exactly how you feel.. I took care of my cousin who is wheelchair bound off and on for 7 years. At times.....well most of the time he was very difficult to handle. Its a mentally stressful job to care for someone especially a loved one under these type of circumstances. Its very important not to wear yourself out. Ask for help.. If there is know one to help at this moment then put in prayer. I hope this situation gets better for you in more ways then one. Stay strong and try to stay positive.

I had a choice once, I was told I could have someone come into my home and care for him or I could place him in a group home, or I could be his full time care giver and he could stay at home and I would be paid instead of someone else. I never wanted to place my son or have some stranger in my home all the time so I became his full time care giver and because of that Im not able to get respite. I do have a 4 hour break in the mornings because he goes to a local adult program 4 days a week.  Believe me I cherish those 4 hrs but usually sleep them away. One week a year he goes to a camp for disabled adults and that give me and my husband a break.

D.S.

I am sending my support. You are amazing. I can only imagine how exhausted you must feel at times. You work selfLESSly!

Although he may not be able to express it...I know that your son loves and appreciates being at home with you to care for him. He is blessed to have you as his mom.

I think you have made a wise decision regarding the holidays!! Good on you! Take care of yourself, and guard your energy and mental well being.:)

I applaud you in all that you do!

S.C.

Hang in there. It must be very frustrating and hurtful to be treated by your son like that. I'm sure you know deep down he can't help himself and it isn't to be taken personally and then feel guilty for feeling a normal reaction of wanting to just run away. I hope you get some respite. I wish you all the best.

Janet, he has cerebal palsy and cannot walk, his mentality is that of a 10 yr old and he is 29. He cannot read nor write, but he can talk just like you and me. He has somesight problems. In his adult day care program he is sweet as can be to everyone, in act I mentioned his attitude at home to the lady who runs the program and she was shocked that he acts like that at home. For some reason he is just plain nasty and demanding towards me and his dad. We have tryed talking to him and he says he is sorry yet it continues. I know that if anything ever happened to my husband I would have to place my son in a group home because there would be no way I could handle him totally alone.

So true weary. I just want to thank all of you for all the support here, it means so much. Hugs to all of you