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Posted 10/12/2014 7:55 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everybody
I have major anger and anxiety problem which is now affecting my life.I love my husband and cant even think that I can I live without him but this anger is ruining my relatonship.I had angr problem when I wasn't married but I wasn't aware about its severity.I thik I had one anger attack every 6 month but now I have 2 or 3 every month. I went some counceller as well bbut doesn't seem to be helpful . Can any body please help me.
Posted 10/12/2014 8:54 PM (GMT 0)
Please contact a pdoc and let them know how your feeling, we can help you with support but you need medical advice that we cannot give you.
Posted 10/12/2014 9:07 PM (GMT 0)
Haro

Thank you for posting with us!

It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. I can surely relate with you.

Have you ever considered going to anger management classes/ therapy. I really think you could benefit from this.

But more than that, you need to do some deep soul searching to figure out where this anger and resentment is coming from. Once you get to the "source" then true healing can take place.

Please.check out our coping skills on our resource page (1st page, 1st post) and apply them when the anger begins to brew.

As far as the suicidal feelings go, that is a permenant solution to a temporary problem. Our moderators will better direct you concerning this.

You will find all the support and encouragement you need on here concerning your anger and anxiety. Post any time. We are here for you!

God bless

Cornell

Post Edited (Cornell) : 10/12/2014 4:06:46 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/12/2014 11:56 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Haro and welcome.

First of all, I would be remiss if I did not post these resources for you, since you mentioned thoughts of self-harm.  So here is a list of numbers in case you need immediate help.  If  you are not in the U.S., please find your local crisis numbers...and call a  family member or friend right away.

I also echo the above advice of seeking help from your doctor.  He/she can advise you in treatment options.  Medication and therapy can help.  Please make an appointment A.S.A.P.

Post with us anytime for understanding and support.  We care and are here to talk with you anytime.

Scaredy Cat

 

 

National Suicide Hotline
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
This is a combined network of the Amerian Association of Suicidology, the National Hopeline Network, CONTACT USA, and many other organizations. Call are automatically routed to the nearest crisis center to the phone from which the call for help is placed.

Helpful Web Sites:
Suicide Hotlines (listed by state)
Suicidal.com (includes Suicide Crisis Center and Depression and Suicide)


Crisis Information

  • If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

  • If you believe you may be suicidal, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) immediately, or consult their website at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. They are available 24/7 for anyone in suicidal crisis in the United States.

Posted 10/13/2014 12:08 AM (GMT 0)
Most certainly if you are thinking of harming yourself, call a hotline and get yourself to a Dr immediately.


My anger problem is my bi-polar mania coming out. Just something to keep in mind.
Posted 10/13/2014 1:53 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everybody thnx fr ur suggestions. My husband nd me decided to see some counceller next week.I think she might help me.
Posted 10/13/2014 2:21 PM (GMT 0)
Haro,

That is wonderful news...great job on taking this step!!

I am glad to hear that you and your husband are working together to help you to feel your best.:)

If you run into any rough spots with any feelings of desperation or self-harm before then, please get in to see a doctor of course...but otherwise, this sounds like a great plan.

Please keep us informed of how you are doing.

We understand, care and are here to support you along the way to healing!

S.C.
Posted 10/13/2014 3:23 PM (GMT 0)
Glad to hear that you are going to counseling! Finding the right counselor can be a challenge, but when you find the right on, it can be life changing! I have also struggled with anxiety and depression, but I am so thankful that I hung on through the hard times! It is tremendous what I have learned with the aid of counseling. HUGS!!

~Ducktapetherapy
Posted 10/13/2014 9:47 PM (GMT 0)
I need to ask you. Do you think my husband should come with me or I should go by myself?
Posted 10/14/2014 12:46 AM (GMT 0)
Haro

Don't worry, we know that you are in fact experiencing issues with anger and anxiety. A lot of ugly emotions can accompany GAD, not sure bravery plays any part here.

You may benefit from individual therapy in the beginning. You will learn coping skills and breathing exercises to apply when the anxiety/ anger arise. And just simply talking with someone with a "listening ear" can be very therapeutic and healing.

Do you attend church? A lot of churches offer marriage counseling. Just a thought.

The most important thing here is that you have made that very important first step to getting yourself better and to saving your marriage. We are very proud of you!!

Please keep us informed on your progress as everyone here is praying for you!

God bless

Cornell

Post Edited (Cornell) : 10/13/2014 6:55:19 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/14/2014 1:04 AM (GMT 0)
Haro,
Are you taking any anxiety medications? I have a hard time with them because they seem to take my inward turned anger (i.e., self-destructive thoughts) and change it into outward turned anger (yelling at people, blaming people, etc). My psychiatrist said that while it is not a very common side effect for anxiety meds, I am by no means her first patient to experience that as a side effect. Honestly, I don't even realize how terrible I am being to people while I am on them. We've now severely limited dosage & how often I can take them and I take care about whom I am around when I do take a dose.

Not at all saying that's what's going on -- please do talk to your own doc. Just sharing my own experience. Hang in there! I know how frustrating it is not to have answers and not to get better as soon as you'd like, but I truly believe that if you keep seeking help and keep working on making some small progress, it will all come together with time.
Posted 10/15/2014 4:15 PM (GMT 0)
Haro,

You are certainly doing the right thing by reaching out for help! I agree with Tirzah, individual counseling is a great start. There are a few free (confidential) counseling services that will talk to you over the phone initially.
In my past I had a great one that was the beginning of my journey. You can simply do an internet search for something like "free focused family counseling".

~Ducktapetherapy
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