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Posted 11/26/2014 4:12 PM (GMT 0)
So I just left my therapy appt and I feel worse. It started out ok then she said she noticed I was a mouth breather. I've done that my entire life. She made me sit there and only breathe through my nose. I became anxious because it didn't feel comfortable and that I have a fear of dying and the breathing exercise scared me. She then told me that I have a personality disorder because of my fear. She then told me that I will not live long because I'm killing myself with my fears and I will be the cause of my own demise. Then kind of smirked and said that's really sad. Then she asked me if I wanted to live and I said of course. I'm scared of dying. She said really because I wouldn't if I had your thoughts! Umm what? We moved on and I said I think I would actually do better if I went back to work because I have to much time to think right now. She said how are you going to work? I wouldn't hire someone like you! What a horrible experience today! I almost don't want to go back!
Oh I also told her I think I needed an increase on my meds. I see the psychiatrist there next week. She said I need to call my pcp and have him increase it. I said but I see the psychiatrist next week and she said he doesn't handle that. What!!!! What am I seeing him for then??

So frustrated!!!
Posted 11/26/2014 5:12 PM (GMT 0)
BB.,

This is your new therapist, right? How many times have you seen her? What was the last session like?

First of all...call your psychiatrist's office and ask about your Rx increase. She could be wrong in what she told you.

Secondly, inquiring as to whether there is another therapist who you could work with would probably be the best move for you now...before your next session.

Even if she was having an 'off day' that is not a good excuse...and her true colors may have showed yesterday. Also, you may not be able to open up and trust her again at this point...which is completely counter productive to your healing.

I am really sorry.:( Sounds like an awful experience. Know that this was not your fault or issue...but all hers!

Do what you can to find the help that you need and deserve!!

In support,

S.C.
Posted 11/26/2014 5:21 PM (GMT 0)
SC this was my 4th appt with her. She was never like this before and told me that she was anxious because of the snow. Maybe it was just an off day for her but didn't help me in anyway! I think I may go back to my old therapist. I only left because I needed a psychiatrist and couldn't see my current one without seeing their therapist.
Posted 11/26/2014 5:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Bambi Bear

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience at your therapy appointment it sounds to me like she was out of order treating you like that.

I think you either need to raise with your therapist how her comments made you feel and see what her response is or go back to your old therapist.

Keep us updated

Hibee
Posted 11/26/2014 6:34 PM (GMT 0)
Wow, I would of let her have it if that was my therapist. No one should be talked to like that, sorry you went thru it. I would never see her again.
Posted 11/26/2014 6:38 PM (GMT 0)
Goodness, so sorry to hear of this experience. I'm not quite sure about my therapist, but she did notice I don't breath correctly either and told me not to even try the breathing exercises at this time because I may get more anxiety from it because it is a learned method.

She did say to just recognize that I am breathing, whether it is text book or not I'm breathing and that is a good thing.

My heart goes out to you.
Posted 11/26/2014 7:49 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks everyone!! I also forgot to mention, when we were talking about my mouth breathing she asked me what would I do if someone kidnapped me and duct taped my mouth shut.. lol I said well hopefully that never happens but if it did I'm sure that would be the last thing on my mind. Lol yikes!!
Posted 11/26/2014 8:05 PM (GMT 0)
Bambi- I am SO sorry. I'm not going to beat around the bush on this one- don't see her again. Period. And if you have the courage, call whoever is in charge of her (assuming she's connected to your psychistrist) & report this immediately.

I'm not usually a "jump on the bandwagon" & act or speak out of hype, but this is absolutely un professional & ignorant. I wouldn't even tell a stranger the crap she told you. They are supposed to be empathetic, NOT make you worse.

And um, you may or may not have s personality disorder but I can promise you if you did, it is NOT bc you have a fear of dying. THAT is called anxiety, a neurosis but NOT a personality disorder.

Ok I'm posting with a lowered IQ bc I'm so angry for you. I am not a therapist but I was a social worker for 15 yrs & have not only worked with them through my job but have been in individual therapy enough to know this is not only not right, but downright reckless!

The choice is obviously up to you & we will support you whatever you choose. You have to know though (& I assume you do bc you posted abt it), that this is not right, very strange & no good.

Sending you a big hug of support!!
Lisa
Posted 11/27/2014 3:42 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for your advice! I decided that I'm not going to go back to this therapist. I'm still really bothered by my session today. I've been thinking about it all day.
Posted 11/27/2014 3:54 AM (GMT 0)
Bambi,

I agree with seeing someone else. However, don't let what she said slide. Report her, confront her, spit in her face... something. Are you in Buffalo? I could see snow causing anxiety then. We all have comfortable ways of breathing. I breathe kind of shallow. My lungs are perfect, but deep breaths are just unnatural to me. Be well.

John
Posted 11/27/2014 4:26 AM (GMT 0)
Lol John!! I live in pittsburgh. I'm going to see the psychiatrist next week and I will let him know then what was said. I've never met this psychiatrist before and I'm nervous that I'm going to be labeled by what she has told him before he even meets me.
Posted 11/27/2014 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
Bambi,

Well, she should be used to the friggin snow in Pittsburgh!

If that is a concern, you may want to go to a new practice if feasible. They probably do share notes on people. Give the new guy a chance. If he sucks, he's not the only therapist out there.

John
Posted 11/27/2014 4:43 AM (GMT 0)
John, I will give him a try! Hopefully it works out! Also I sent you an email
Posted 11/27/2014 5:02 AM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry you had to go through that horrible situation. I honestly would never go back.
Posted 11/27/2014 9:26 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Bambi,

Sorry about your psychiatrist. It's completely up to you with what you feel comfortable doing but I'm just going to throw it out there that if that was my counselor.. I wouldn't see her again. I'm really sorry she said that stuff. I can't believe she said "I wouldn't hire you" .. Good luck anyway hopefully this doesn't happen again
Posted 11/27/2014 1:05 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Bambi, I am sorry to hear that you went through this but I agree with others. Of course it is your life and you will decide, but if I was in your place, I wouldn't see her again! End of the story...

No one has a right to talk to others like that, especially if they are a therapist, they should act like it. They are professionals and they have to think not only twice, ten times before they say something. They are responsible from everything they advice to patients. She cannot just show the snow storm as an excuse and get away with it...

You can definitely work like other people do. It's not your psychological issues that show your values as an employee, but your experience and talent.
What the hell was she thinking? I became so angry now, just feels like she said those to me...

I really hope you don't get effected by the things she said to you.
And I really hope you find a very good therapist who is "willing" to help! <3 Hug
Posted 11/27/2014 3:13 PM (GMT 0)
I lost all faith in her now! The thing that really bothers me is what if I was suicidal? Could you imagine what damage that could cause? I almost felt like she was trying to talk me into it. Maybe she said those things because she knows I'm not suicidal and was trying to scare me. I'm not making excuses for her. I just can't figure out what else her reasoning could be. If she was trying to scare me, she should understand that scaring an anxious person is counter productive.
Posted 11/27/2014 3:20 PM (GMT 0)
Bambi,

Trying to get into my email.

John
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