Laziness

I could of written that same post. I am too, lazy with things I know I should do but don't do them. I don't think it is being lazy as so much as it is procrastinating. I procrastinate everything, it doesn't matter how big or small it is.

Scaredy,

If I can get started, I'm good. You hit the nail on the head. I'm an anal retentive perfectionist. It's all or nothing! Lol

You get me.

John

Same here. Procrastination could be my middle name. I've been in a rut this last month and almost have to tear myself out of bed in the morning. If I didn't have my son to support I'm not sure I could find reason to get up. It's tough, I hope you find a way through this.

Hello!
Your post was so well written...thank you for your honesty and willingness to be so up front.
This is how I see all of this ... I just hope I can say it all in the 'right way.'
I think when we feel like this its a sort of vicious circle... when we accomplish nothing...we feel GUILTY...and when we feel GUILTY we believe we deserve punishment... I think part of this punishment is that we self-inflict on ourselves is CONTINUING to 'do nothing' which DOES make us feel badly...
In some ways, it is the same way alcoholics punish themselves... by doing things that result in punishment coming back to them...which is one of the reason they 'hurt' other people so the hurt COMES BACK to them and then they feel 'punished.'
I have discovered one thing that helps...and that is: ta dah!!! FORGIVING YOURSELF...but don't try to 'redeem' yourself by working slave=like all day...that doesn't work ... somehow, this forgiveness works in small ways to help restore the feelings of 'wanting to actually DO something'...
I have a chart with ALL KINDS of stuff I can do in my apt... when I do a certain thing...I put an X in the square... for 3 days in a row I did nothing (but I DO get up, get showered, get dressed always)...and I started in catching myself really criticizing myself and wanting to tear up that chart... Then I said NO... I will NOT tear it up...I just told myself...its OK...its really OK... just be in the moment and don't worry about what you will do and NOT do...
I'm sorry this is so long... I hope I am bit clearer than mud about what I said... One thing I KNOW IS TOTALLY POSITIVE AND TRUE... you make NO progress when you are constantly down on yourself. There is a lot more than just 'pink fluff' in saying: you MUST love yourself and accept yourself just exactly the way you are ... then you CAN make those small steps!
Be as nice and allowing with YOURSELF as I have a strong feeling you would be with others!!... because you DO sound like a nice person!
Sending you love and a big hug,
Bettsann

Post Edited (Bettsann) : 11/27/2014 10:27:44 PM (GMT-7)

John,
Have you ever considered getting a dog or a pet of some sort? Just curious.

I'm sooooo guilty of so many of the same things! Unfortunately a lot of it has to do with my recovery with anxiety. I have a book to read and am only through chapter one. I'm supposed to practice my breathing for 30 minutes a day. Barely happens. This is really something I know I should work on....but I'm so darn lazy!

You absolutely should. I have a little chihuahua/min pin mix-- she is the absolute light of my life. Makes everything just a bit more bearable. This morning when i was getting sick, she put her paw on top of my hand as i was vomiting. it melted my heart. Dog's have a sixth sense about these kinds of things. They just know. She's curled up to me right now, peacefully sleeping.
I have her registered as an emotional service animal. If and when you get a dog, this might be helpful for you, too. This way they can go into places that may not otherwise allow dogs, and it alleviates some stress & anxiety.

If you go to nsarco.com, you can learn all about it and do some research :). And P.S. my dog's name is Blu, hence the user name BlusMama, (didn't realize we could use apostrophe's in our usernames or else I would've included it-- I'm very particular about grammar hehe). My name is Sophie.

Sophie (great name),

In most places, you can't use an apostrophe, so I understand.

I carried my dearly departed Bonnie, a Westie, around Blockbuster once. Nothing was said.

I loathe poor grammar.

All,

My friend invited me out and I came up with excuses. My dog has a bad leg and I don't feel good. These are true. I just don't feel like driving 40 minutes, either. He's very close to my work.

Sophie,

Going out might make me feel better. He and others were going to play my favorite game. However, it's cold and it's far.

I ate some of the things from Thanksgiving. It was a relatively small serving. I need to learn to eat more slowly.

Intriguing. I recently said that when I acknowledge feeling good, I start to feel bad.

Sophie,

Too far. There's a football game on I want to watch, too. darn side is really hurting where I think my gallbladder was.

John