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Posted 11/22/2014 3:44 AM (GMT 0)
Hi All,

I hope firstly that everyone is ok. My best wishes to all.

I came here some time ago. I am re-visiting now, as I feel sometimes that although there are lots of people that would listen, I don't open up enough to people, therefore I seek support elsewhere.

Having some dilema's at the moment. There is a high chance of redundancy in my job in the near future and I have sought support via my GP to be referred to another service, which I am now to frightened to call, and I'm worried that the whole thing, the seeking the referrral is a bit wasted.

I don't want to bump into people that I know, and I'm worried about being diagnosed with something I don't have, but at the same time, I have the desire to talk to someone, and that hasn't left me for a while.

I think a lot of it is down to not having a partner to open up to, and some of it, that I don't open up to the people who I do have, who are very caring and supportive, but for some reason, I choose to seek help elsewhere.

I want someone else to be able to call the people I was referred to, so that I don't have to, and also to reduce the chance of me talking to someone who I don't want them to know, about my difficulties.

I have until monday, to contact the service, before it's written off and I have to start again.

Please can anyone give any advice in these circumstances? Best Wishes,

HB
Posted 11/22/2014 3:51 AM (GMT 0)
To be clear, the referral via the GP, is nothing to do with the redundancy situation, that is separate and is also something I'd like to talk to someone in depth about, but I haven't as yet. I was earlier very worried about visiting family as I was concerned that I would get upset over the redundancy and I didn't want to.

However, I am very much a person, that under exception circumstances, I can will myself to be a certain way, in order to deal with stress, when it is evident, I don't want to share it with others, therefore I managed a whole night not getting upset in this way, and being able to be strong for others and boosted my own morale. The best way I did this was by making sure that I didn't finish work too late and gave myself enough time to relax before hand. That is a good tip I guess, but in the long haul I believe it is easier on own self to be open and honest.

I hope that isn't too deep!
Posted 11/22/2014 4:56 AM (GMT 0)
Hi HB and welcome back!

I am sorry that you are struggling not only with the work situation, but also with the decision to take the referral from your doctor or not.

It is hard when you feel you can't bounce ideas off of those you trust for good advice. I am sorry that you feel kind of alone in this decision making process.

If you were to ask me...I think I would say go for the referral...at least for an assessment of what you think about the people and process it.

You are not bound to stay on if you don't find it is something you could benefit from, right? Also, you will never know if you passed up a great opportunity for healing...and may regret it if you don't at least check it out!

I also have trouble opening up to people at times. I am pretty social, but have just a few close connections that I truly share in depth things with. This is just a personality thing...and choice that many make...and that it okay.;) Feel validated in who and how much you reach out...that's just what makes you...YOU!

...and we really like our Happy Bean! :)

Let us know what you decide to do, okay?

Talk to you soon,

S.C.
Posted 11/22/2014 6:57 AM (GMT 0)
healing thoughts hb.
Posted 11/23/2014 1:50 AM (GMT 0)
I understand how you feel
I really don't have anyone I'm close to who I can divulge my deepest worries to either
I also have work issues
wishing you all my best
Posted 1/28/2015 2:18 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you S.C, Happy Turtle and wearyRAsufferer,

I appreciate your kind words. I haven't been on recently. I didn't go to the referral, rightly or wrongly.

My job situation, does mean I'm redundant at the moment, but I've done a good job, for one, I am relaxing a bit.

Sometimes I think I'm not doing enough to get a new job, but I am doing a lot of art work, something I usually did at times when I had more time.

I'm thinking of entering an exhibition. I'm applying for new jobs, 'slowly', I'm on my third week of redundancy. Applied for a post today, and hoping to apply for a few others over the coming days.

I hope everyone is ok. I don't have to find work immediately, since I should be ok for money for a little while, I'm just thinking of upping the rate at which I' applying for posts soon! So that, I'm not too stuck later on.

Best Wishes, thinking of you.

HB
Posted 1/28/2015 2:29 AM (GMT 0)
Baby steps HB! I'm taking the same. Wishing you success and all my best!
Posted 1/28/2015 2:48 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you wearyRAsufferer, I really appreciate your reply. :) I hope you are well :)
Posted 1/28/2015 4:12 AM (GMT 0)
Hi HB and welcome back!

I am glad to hear that things in general are well.:)

So happy to see that you are doing your art and possibly entering an exhibition! You must be really good.:) What media and style of are do you like to do?

Best of luck on your job situation. It is good that you have some luxury of taking your time. This will help you to make solid decision and not be anxious about things!

Things for me have been good...and things here have been busy!

Take a look around at any new posts that interest you....

...and keep posting with us if you find it good for you.:)

We like hearing from you!

S.C.
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