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Posted 2/28/2015 7:29 PM (GMT 0)
Anxiety and depression has really taken over my life. I am really private with the severity of my condition with my family. I want support from my wife but she seems to be fed up with me. She ignores me and probably thinks I making this stuff up. She just criticized me harshly cause I told her I feel anxious. I just took another .25 mg of Ativan to relax, can y'all give me some advice?, thank you.
Posted 2/28/2015 8:47 PM (GMT 0)
So sorry you're feeling this way. I too always try to hide my severest anxiety and depression from my family because they think I"m the strong one..ha, little do they know. I'm also sorry that you wife isn't more understanding....people who have never suffered with this affliction don't really understand what it's like and how debilitating it can be. And oftentimes we just need someone to talk to to make us feel better, even if it's just for a little while. Today I finally went online and looked up some anxiety/panic groups in my area and I think I"m going to try one. Some are covered by insurance and a few only charge $20-$40/hr so I figure it's well worth it....at least these people will know what I'm going through. Would that be an option for you? I hope you can find an answer to your anxiety..whether it be through meds or a therapist, a group, or all three. There are also various coping skills listed online like meditation and deep breathing exercises but those don't seem to relieve me much. I'm the type that needs to "talk" things out. Good luck to you and keep posting with your progress or if you just need to vent. We all understand here.
Posted 2/28/2015 9:16 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you are feeling like this but just know you are not alone. I feel like this all the time. I hide my feelings from everyone bar my boyfriend but when i talk to him i still feel like such a pest even though he is so supportive. My mum though just has a go and me for everything i do and shouts at me for being quiet and not speaking up. Trouble is whenever i do try and voice my opinion it gets thrown back in my face and now i am too terrifies to talk to anyone. I suggest if you cannot talk to your wife about it then maybe try and find a close friend that you trust that you may be able to talk to. I wish i wasn't so anxious all the time and so scared to talk to people because i really do think it would help.
Posted 2/28/2015 11:21 PM (GMT 0)
SB,

Just keep coming here to talk with us whenever you need to!

My husband does not understand what I experience with my anxiety, so I have found other outlets in which to express myself, and deal with it...mainly volunteering here and talking with this awesome community!! ;)

We have a great relationship...don't get me wrong...I just can't expect him to be able to relate to this aspect of my life, so I have my coping skills and you guys...and therapy previously.

So while it would be nice to have support on the home front...the reality is this is not always the case of a lot of us, and that is where posting here really makes a difference.

Keep talking with us.:)

S.C.
Posted 3/1/2015 1:48 AM (GMT 0)
so sorry too. like Danni said know you are not alone. my husband is very critical of my anxiety too. he tells me he is tired of me being "scared of everything" and that my therapy is pointless and not working. and that feels really bad. for that reason i really try to keep it to myself around him, although mid-panic attack that's not really possible.

but in a way it is liberating to remind yourself it is not something to be embarrassed or feel bad about. with other family, like my parents, I can be more open, and they are supportive and encouraging. i think the support group sounds like a good idea, i've been wondering if there might be one in my area too. because sometimes it helps to just let it out, and be real about how your feeling, instead of trying to hide it.

anyway, just wanted to let you know i know how you feel, and you are not alone. hope you are feeling a bit better.
Posted 3/1/2015 5:06 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for the support and letting me know I'm not alone.
Posted 3/1/2015 4:55 PM (GMT 0)
Hi SB,

No definitely not alone. My husband is pretty good but I know he feels frustrated at me sometimes and thinks that if he tells me that it is in my head then somehow I will be able to get over it!

Big hugs
Posted 3/1/2015 6:12 PM (GMT 0)
You certainly aren't alone! My son is the only one I can really talk to as he's been through it too and understands...but, I don't want to bother him too much with it. He's got his fiancé and baby to take care of. Come here and post anytime you want to or just need to. We're all in this together.
Posted 3/2/2015 6:36 PM (GMT 0)
You are not alone! Have you been able to talk to your Doctor? Have you considered talking to a counselor? With time and effort you can get through this. HUGS!

~Ducktapetherapy77
Posted 3/2/2015 6:48 PM (GMT 0)
I have talked to a doctor about my anxiety, but I don't have a specialist yet to go into detail about me.
Posted 3/2/2015 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
:( trying to deal with anxiety myself...very frustrating...just need someone to talk to. I've had 3 panic attacks in the last 2 months and they are very scary. And I too hate taking meds...side effects of most really suck. Any tips on how to over come this faster?
Posted 3/2/2015 8:56 PM (GMT 0)
What causes all this anxiety? I've never really had it, did have a panic attack in 2005 and know it's due to family stressor, I know it was.

I got so much help via Alanon and their principles and Science of Mind principles....started in SOM back in 80's....was lifechanging for me...I've worked on my life ALONE with help from good friends and the above two. A therapist now and then and it all helps me "make it thru"....

Inositol and Gaba are good calmers and pretty natural. L-Theanine too and 5HTP...I take the first two thru the day to keep a calmness....do some research on them, they could help and why not some good talk therapy.

A dear family member was stuck in a hard marriage, and she ended up so sick...that's all history now and she's much healthier on her own..

I wished my husband was "different" all our years together and I wished him away....

So many get stuck and can't find ways out. J
Posted 3/2/2015 9:24 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Midnighttwilight and welcome!

I am sorry to hear you are struggling with anxiety/panic issues currently.

What if anything have you tried for relief thus far?

There are a couple of options I can personally recommend for you...including one you can get started on right away!

Self help can be very effective if practiced daily.;) Here are some coping skill links you can check out and try. I have had good results with these.

Self Help sites with breathing/relaxation exercises instructions

Panic attack relief exercises:

 

http://www.healthcentral.com/anxiety/c/73076/34334/breathing-lessons/

http://www.healthyplace.com/

http://www.stress-relief-exercises.com/

http://www.ehow.com/video_4405003_breathing-exercises-panic-attacks.html

http://www.psybersquare.com/anxiety/panic_relax_I



If you find you need more help, then looking into finding a therapist who can work with you on your challenges would be a next step to consider. I also had an amazing recover from panic attacks due in a large part to CBT/therapy.

Wishing you the best, and encouraging you to post with us anytime! Please consider starting your own thread of introduction if you feel comfortable doing so.:)

Scaredy Cat
Posted 3/3/2015 5:08 PM (GMT 0)
I am glad that you are in communication with your Doctor. I know of one place that offers free initial counseling over the phone; that might be a good place to start; 1-855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays between 6:00 A.M. and 8:00 P.M. (MT). HUGS!



~Ducktapetherapy77
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