Does anyone else feel like this?

I know this can be linked to depression, but I'm looking for a new job as the one I currently have is just a start, I get interviews but I never seem to get the job, inside I feel my nerves and I panic and I'm scared that it shows in my interviews, I've been to the doctors and been on medication and done everything I can think possible to help myself over come this but then I think what's wrong with me if nothing works?

I really want a new job and don't get me wrong I do really try my hardest to answer the questions but I just never seem to get anything?

When I do get an interview my partner tells me he doesn't want me to d that job and then I think I can probably get t and when I don't he looks pleased with himself.

I don't know where my life's going and I'm so scared that this is the job I'm going to be doing for the rest of my life, btw I'm 19 and I'm a waitress in a local pub. Any advice would be more appreciated

Interviewing is a two way street. You need to know as much about them as they need to know about you.

Instead of sitting there waiting for them to ask you question - YOU need to ask them questions.

Tell me about the job.
Tell me what you expect of me.
What does a typical day in this position look like?
Are future promotion based on seniority or performance and ability?

Asking really good questions makes you look good to them.

Never ask dumb question like "do I get a lunch break - or when are lunch breaks."

Hi Emma,

I am sorry to hear of this challenge, and the frustration it is causing you.:(

Do you have trouble with social anxiety outside of interview situations? Or is this something just to do with talking with a prospective boss/authority figure?

Also, I am curious to know if you have an idea of why your boyfriend would be discouraging of you in any way in regards to a career change?

And finally...to put things in perspective. How many total interviews have you been on...and what is the job market like in your area currently?

It could be that you are not alone in not receiving a callback! Many people are going to numerous interviews currently before landing postitions. The market is still really tough in most areas.

If you like, I can make some recommendations for self-help in building confindence during interviews/meetings...

Let me know a little more about the questions above, and we'll talk soon.:)

S.C.

Okay, these should keep you busy for awhile! :)

The first two are simply on bolstering self confidence.  The second pair of links is for self help for social anxiety...and the last two are specifically tips of successful interviewing.

I hope you find them helpful.  Please keep posting and keep us updated.  We will be here to cheer you on anytime you'd like to talk with us.:)

Best luck!!

S.C.

http://zenhabits.net/25-killer-actions-to-boost-your-self-confidence/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201205/building-confidence-and-self-esteem

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/social-anxiety-disorder-and-social-phobia.htm

http://www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/shynesssocialphobia.asp

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/work-career/interviewing-techniques.htm

http://biginterview.com/blog/2013/10/interview-anxiety.html