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Posted 5/12/2015 2:08 PM (GMT 0)
Good morning,

I am sitting here at work and my mind is in the gutter, Im thinking of death. I heard someone who passed away very young 24 year old. no reason!!! She was married with a child.  Than im thinking of my kids who are small.  I pray god lets me stay on earth until they are all married with children.  I am terrified!!! Lord Help me

Posted 5/12/2015 2:11 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry you are having those dark thoughts. I too, have those exact feelings when I hear of someone young passing. You are not alone! Try to deep breathe, and think about those special moments with your own children that can distract the dark ones. I sometimes text my husband when I feel that way, and just merely writing them down helps. I am sending you positive, uplifting vibes. Take care!!
Posted 5/12/2015 2:14 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry you are having these thoughts. When thoughts intrude on me, I try to break it down into logical thoughts. I am not dying, and my children are ok. I have no reason to be afraid. I know this is all easier said than done, but I keep repeating it to myself, and I pray. One of my main prayers is this one. Lord, please help me to relax, and know that You are with me. Help me to feel Your comfort, and let go of these scary thoughts. Keep me focused on positive things. Amen.
Posted 5/12/2015 2:26 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for responding.  I just want to cry!!!  Why is life so scary.  I hate the unknown!!!!  Why cant I enjoy it like a lot of people do.  Wish I was stronger.  I pray all the time!!!
Posted 5/12/2015 2:38 PM (GMT 0)
You are strong or you wouldn't keep pushing through.

Keep posting. I'm listening. <3
Posted 5/12/2015 3:19 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Bam,

Think of things this way...(sorry if you have heard me post this previously)

'Magical Thinking' is simply not possible. Hearing about something happening...good or bad...has no effect on us directly.

If you had heard about a person winning the lottery, instead of dying young...

...would you quit your job, and begin shopping for houses and cars...booking vacations and investing in stocks?

Of course not! Because simply hearing about someone's elses circumstance has no bearing on what will happen to us!

So why is it that we only focus on the negative/scary stuff, and internalize it?

Anxiety!!

So, you can put those worries aside, and put anxiety in its place by practicing your coping skills. Don't let it have control of your thoughts...use your postive mantras!;)

You are healthy and well...and no disturbing story can change that.:)

S.C.
Posted 5/12/2015 3:45 PM (GMT 0)
"The fear of death, why does it domonate our thinking". I only assume it's because none of us mortals have steped through that
one way door and came back. When I was much younger i had
this fear just like you folks have described and it can sure ruin
your day, and a lot more unless you take steps to combat the
fear. I started getting stronger when one day I realized that I had waisted days, months, and years worrying about something i could not avoid, it will arive on my door step one day and i must accept it! What I can do and i do, do is stop rehearsing the day of my death. When I realized this is what I was doing i made a decision, from that point on I refused to die every day, instead
i would live, the best I can, harm no one, and be thankful for
what I have "Right Now". I wish all of you Peace!
Larry ***
Posted 5/12/2015 4:43 PM (GMT 0)
SC: I love that quote - no matter how many times you print it, it's still great to read it. It makes so much sense and when our brain finally gets the message, we will believe it! Thank you!

To Bambola: Watch your children play - are they afraid of falling, getting hurt? NO, of course not. You need to accept life, and ENJOY as much as you can. Know that there are so many of us out here that deal with anxiety issues, and are doing just fine. DON'T let IT define you, or rule you. Go play! We are all with you.
Blessings
Reepin :-)
Posted 5/12/2015 6:11 PM (GMT 0)
Im so afraid to LIVE I really am. Im on constant guard! Fear has taken over. Im sitting at my office desk and I feel a pain on my left side keep thinking its my heart . and tightness in my chest.. I have done test and im trying to convince myself its not my heart. This is so hard.
Posted 5/13/2015 5:03 AM (GMT 0)
Bambola is is hard for us to give in to the idea that PAD is causing these problems, I too was one of these
people who's first trip to ER was due to Panic, that was about 40 years ago, i was in much denial and believed the doctors had missed something that was going to kill me. "didnt happen", and i never got better
until i decided to give in to the idea, seek therapy, and take my meds. My life is normal now, Peace

Larry ***
Posted 5/13/2015 3:25 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Larry.  Back at work today, I was fine this morning and now pounding heart beat!!! 
Posted 5/14/2015 4:31 PM (GMT 0)
bambola our mind is very tricky .its a very mysterious thing. And whatever we r saying r just sayings . U are scared at time and i know how bad it is. I know how it feels when the whole world seems to be against me when my body goes against me too and when there aint no cure i wish u all the best
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