HealingWell
Search Close Search
☰

What can I do to get through school? Having a hard time

Support Forums
>
Anxiety & Panic Disorders
✚ New Topic ✚ Reply
❬ ❬ Previous Thread |Next Thread ❭ ❭
Posted 9/15/2015 4:12 AM (GMT 0)
I'm a sophomore in college and I transferred to a new university this year. My classes started about a month ago and at first I was doing really well, I was attending all of my classes and even participating in class discussions. I missed one day because I felt sick and was nervous about throwing up in class. Since then, I lost motivation to go and haven't kept up with my school work. I basically gave up. I haven't gone to school for about 2 weeks. I'm too embarrassed to go back to class because I think that students will think I'm a slacker and the professors will too, especially since I haven't been getting my work done. On top of that, I'll be very behind. Sometimes I'll go to school and then turn around and go back home once i get on campus. I'm only taking 12 credit hours (4 classes) so I can't drop any classes otherwise I will not be considered a full time student. My adviser understandingly won't let me swap any classes because I have already swapped classes 4 times . My school doesn't offer online courses (only in the summer). I have a 504 plan but it only entitles me to extra test time and notetakers, but I only get a copy of the notes if I attend class. Plus, I live off campus and haven't made any friends yet. If I take a medical leave then i will not be allowed on campus until the second semester and I would not receive any grades, which would put me behind.

I feel hopeless and I want to drop out. I don't know if I genuinely don't like school or if I just don't enjoy it because it's hard.

I'm not sure what to do. I want to drop out and maybe attend an online school, but my current situation is that I'm going to a very very nice private school and the tuition is almost completely covered because of my financial situation.

I'm hoping someone on here can relate and that I can get some advice.
Posted 9/15/2015 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
Hello and welcome!

I am sorry that you are stuck in this place at the moment.:( I know how it is to lose motivation...and then feel like you are hopelessly behind...

However, the semester is still new...and your professors may be more understanding than you think!

Don't worry about what the other students think...it is none of their business...

If you plan on staying in and trying to turn the situation around however, it is important that you make a plan with the professors a.s.a.p. :)

Go to each of your them and let them know of your dilemma...and ask what exceptions they are willing to make for you in order to catch up.

This is the first step. Then if it looks like it is 'doable' for you...move forward!!

If it is not feasable, then you can go with plan B...

...but I think you owe it to yourself to at least try and find out what is involved with staying enrolled. In this way, you will have no regrets.

Have you considered getting help for anxiety and/or depression? Procrastination can be a hidden symptom for both disorders, so I would encourage you to look into it once you have your plan in place.

There is help and hope! Go and get it for yourself.

Know you always have a support team here if you need it!

Scaredy Cat
Posted 9/15/2015 8:16 AM (GMT 0)
Hi

You have received some great support from SC so I just wanted to pop in and welcome you to the group and let you know we are here to support you so keep us posted.

Hibee
Posted 9/15/2015 3:30 PM (GMT 0)

Scaredy Cat said...
Hello and welcome!

I am sorry that you are stuck in this place at the moment.:( I know how it is to lose motivation...and then feel like you are hopelessly behind...

However, the semester is still new...and your professors may be more understanding than you think!

Don't worry about what the other students think...it is none of their business...

If you plan on staying in and trying to turn the situation around however, it is important that you make a plan with the professors a.s.a.p. :)

Go to each of your them and let them know of your dilemma...and ask what exceptions they are willing to make for you in order to catch up.

This is the first step. Then if it looks like it is 'doable' for you...move forward!!

If it is not feasable, then you can go with plan B...

...but I think you owe it to yourself to at least try and find out what is involved with staying enrolled. In this way, you will have no regrets.

Have you considered getting help for anxiety and/or depression? Procrastination can be a hidden symptom for both disorders, so I would encourage you to look into it once you have your plan in place.

There is help and hope! Go and get it for yourself.

Know you always have a support team here if you need it!

Scaredy Cat

Thank you! I'm very private about my anxiety, but as hard as it is to open up to my professors, I think you are right. I'm sure they will make some accommodations since it is a religious school, but even if they don't, I will probably feel a bit better to attend class knowing that they are aware I didn't just skip class due to not caring. Thanks again for your advice, I will post an update once I speak to them
Posted 9/15/2015 3:42 PM (GMT 0)
cool   smilewinkgrin Well done!!

I am proud of you for making this decision.  It is a brave step...but one that I think is a good choice!

You will be in our thoughts and prayers.  Yes, let us know how it goes, and how we can best be in support of you!

S.C.

✚ New Topic ✚ Reply