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Posted 11/7/2015 6:58 PM (GMT 0)
I'm pregnant and have had a migraine for a week, a sinus infection and this morning my eyelids suddenly puffed up. Logically I know it is from sodium and sinus inflammation, but I grew concerned about the possibility of preeclampsia since my doctor checked me this week due to ongoing migraine.

I was sharing my concerns with my husband and when I noticed he was blowing me off, I tried to explain why I was worried and he ended up saying hat I'm basically the boy who cried wolf. Well this struck something with me and I walked away and started crying uncontrollably. I was offended and the worst part was that it encouraged my health anxiety. I feel like if I don't worry about myself, clearly no one else will. It just makes me feel like I will never have someone to rely on.

Sorry. I just needed to get this off my chest in hopes of stopping the irrational tears.

Post Edited (Park12) : 11/7/2015 12:07:14 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 11/7/2015 8:57 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry he said that. It certainly wasn't something to say to an anxious pregnant woman.

I'm sure he regrets it.

You know we are here for you, but I understand that it isn't the same as your main support person.
Posted 11/8/2015 12:06 AM (GMT 0)
I am sure he does regret it. sorry mate.
Posted 11/8/2015 12:21 AM (GMT 0)
Park,
I totally hear you. Sometimes my girlfriend doesn't understand either and tells me to quit whining and that people have real issues. These invisible illnesses (what I call anxiety/ panic disorders) are hard for people to understand because they're not physical in nature even though they manifest that way.

Can you try talking to him and telling him that it hurt your feelings and regardless if it's something to worry about or not you would still appreciate some compassion?

So sorry. Sending hugs.
Posted 11/8/2015 12:31 AM (GMT 0)
sorry you're hurting :(
To top it off pregnancy hormones make us extra susceptible- unless you are a pregnant( or a previously pregnant) woman- you just can't possibly totally relate.
Posted 11/8/2015 1:22 AM (GMT 0)
P.,

Sometimes I feel alone with my anxiety as well...

...but we are not! We have each other here!

You have every reason to be diligent about your health right now...so be confident in asking questions and getting things checked out.

Wishing you a peaceful and happier rest of the weekend. Also sending healing thoughts that your migraine goes completely away...and soon!

Hugs,

S.C.
Posted 11/8/2015 9:51 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Park

Dealing with the level of anxiety that we all do is really hard and it is difficult for people who have not experienced that level of constant anxiety to understand or relate which is why it's good to come here.

I hope your migraine clears soon as they are not fun.

Keep us posted we are here for you.

Hibee
Posted 11/8/2015 10:44 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the compassion and for being able to relate to me everyone. I really appreciate it.

My husband was very apologetic yesterday and told me that it takes a lot of reminding himself that his brain doesn't work the way that mine does and he will try to be more understanding, especially while I'm pregnant and my worries are off the chart.

As for my migraine...I really am still scared. I've never dealt with headaches for long stretches of time like this. I do have a neurologist and have decided that I should probably go see him if for nothing else, but some peace of mind. I have had to take quite a bit of migraine meds this past week and that concerns me while pregnant, but they have kept me from functioning and I also have to care for my son, who has been really sick. I just can't drop the ball and hide in bed right now. I woke up at 3:45 with a splitting headache, so I'll be calling my doctor first thing Monday.
Posted 11/8/2015 4:41 PM (GMT 0)
I'm glad you seem to have worked things out with your husband. A friend shared an article on Facebook earlier, it's good for those closest you to read it.

http://webhealthpaper.com/13-things-to-remember-if-you-love-a-person-with-anxiety-2/
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