Dad Leaving Rehab

Hang in there! He loves you. He's just adjusting with everything. Try to relax. Take a hot bath, deep breath, and try not to get upset. I know easier said than done. Sending prayers your way. 🙏🏻

I'm very sorry you're going through this. I imagine it is really difficult. I'll keep you both in my prayers.

Mama, as one who lived in a constant war with my Dad over his drinking i commend you for your tough
Love, I went through all this pain as well, they always have a victim somewhere to blame for their troubles
what i found out the hard way was my Dad Loved to drink and he knew it was killing him. He could go for
months and not touch it then one of his grand old buddies would come by and "one drink" and he was off
and out of his mind, He died after a two week episode after a year sober, i got to work one morning and
my best friend said Larry you need to call the operator. I looked at him and said, my Father has died, he
said who told you, I just knew.
Mama there is more to this story, I had been suffering from deep depression and actually thought i was
dying, the night before i found out about him i was laying in bed and got the feeling that i needed to Pray,
I told God that the one thing i wished i had been able to accomplish was to explain to my Dad that in
spite of all our fights "I Loved Him", suddenly i felt like a great weight was lifted off me, I got up and
went into the living room where my Family was, "they were terrified that i was dying", and asked if
they had anything i could eat, i ate a little and went back to bed, slept like a baby and got up to go to
work, you know the rest. "One thing though, driving back i felt like a million dollars and it made me feel
guilty, then I realized that most of my life i dreaded a phone call, afraid he was in jail again or something worse. "They will do as they please as long as they live", we can't stop them, just Pray for the strength
to be what God will's you to do, then do your best! We are with you all the way, Mama the county coroner placed his time of death at 9pm, the same time i got out of bed to eat. Peace
Larry ***

Sorry Blu's. I know it hasn't gone the way you had hoped so far, but don't give up hope. Old habits die hard. He probably doesn't know how to live any other way.
I'm sorry he's so emotionally abusive to you. You don't deserve it.

He ended up deciding to stay after he realized I wasn't messing around. I told him I would not pick him up or interact with him unless he completed the treatment.

SC,
The boundaries we initially set were exactly as you described. Contact and relationship comes with and only with completion of treatment. I told him it's a no go if he leaves 15 days early. I thank God he ended up staying, but it really is time for me to back off and realize that I didn't cause this, I can't control it, and I cannot cure it. It's up to him to want the treatment, and in turn, its the treatment team's responsibility.

Larry,
Thank you for sharing your story and your beautiful words. You are absolutely right. All we can do is pray for strength.

SupaFunk,
Thank you. I have to keep reminding myself that the reflections are not of me, but he is in control of his own actions.

Rspwed,
He really doesn't know how to live any other way. It will take a lot of work, and introspection to reverse 60 years worth of thinking a certain way.

John,
Insurance companies are the worst. Thank you for being here <3.

I'll keep you all posted.

Wow Blu's. That's great. I'm glad he decided to stay. I hope the next 15 days bring positive steps in his recovery.

I'm glad you had the strength of conviction to stand tall in your beliefs. I'm sure it can't have been easy.
You really can only control your own actions. There is always hope when you're trying to do the right thing.

sending many healing thoughts.