Posted 10/9/2016 12:21 AM (GMT 0)
I Want:
Well, let me tell you something, if I can do it, anybody can, and I did it, but only by reading the column by Niki Scott.
What helped me was, the column never said, you have to be a positive person. See, that would be impossible.
The column only said, in effect, "Be positive, but only when you have a problem to solve."
See there, right there. I could be positive for 5 minutes. But not the entire day. I said what else?
It said, when you have a problem, go into it thinking you can solve it.
Whoa. I thought the problem was the problem. No, you're the problem.
It said, when you go into a problem thinking you can solve it, it doubles the chances that you can. With the experience I've had with that col. on being positive, I think it increases your chances of solving it by 100 times, not 2.
I had probably been raised in a household where I was taught negative thinking. I'm sure I was. Also, my manic-depression may have helped or caused me to have a neg. unconscious.
It was my unconscious which was negating whatever solutions my conscious, which wanted to solve the problem, would come up with. If the house was on fire, my con. would say, "Walk out the door."
My neg. uncon. would say, "It's locked."
I would then say, "dive out the window You'll get hurt, but you'll get away from the fire." I would dive out the window and get hurt, but saved from the fire. A neg. solution. I would check the door. It would be unlocked.
So now, when a problem occurs, I don't think about the problem. I think about my neg. uncon. tripping me up. To try and correct that, I say, "Think positive, think positive..." several times, to clearn my uncon. of negative. I'm retraining it, right there on the spot.
My con. then thinks of a solution: open the door and go out. I then open the door and go out. I go against all of my childhood training that I am a worthless son of a gun, and can't solve any problems, and that problem are bad. Problems are bad, but the chances of solving them can be good. Two different things.
That's it.
I now think, "One problem at a time, and be positive about that problem."
And I think, "The person you have to defeat is the person you have to look at in the mirror in the morning."
Lot of bad people, that's right. But the one we have to deal with most often is ourselves. The one who causes us the most trouble is ourselves.
You said: "Thank you. I definitely dwell on the negative, I know I need to retrain my brain I just don't know how."
Its very easy in a way. You just have to overcome your old, negative thinking.