Feeling overwhelmed

Hi everyone ♥

I am feeling so overwhelmed right now. I have been having issues since August with my breast and saw a specialist yesterday to have a biopsy done. I had so much anxiety leading up to the appointment but as soon as I talked to the doctor I started feeling better. He was very patient and listened to all of my concerns. He looked at the area of concern and thought it was best to biopsy - he told me that he only thinks there is a 1 and 10 chance that it is cancer. 1 and 10 .. I wish he said 1 and 1 million.. ;) and even then I'm sure I'd worry I was that "one". I am only 31 years old. I don't want something to be wrong. I feel really afraid.

I have an appointment on Monday to have stitches removed and to go over the results.

I am in a fair amount of pain today - feeling very sore and keep having stabbing pains in the nipple where he did the biopsy. My heart has felt like it has been beating extra fast all day - not sure if it is from pain or anxiety (or both).

I am also feeling worried about my oldest son(12). He started having nausea on Sunday-Monday. Tuesday and today he has a sore throat/stuffy nose and has been complaining of feeling dizzy. I hate when he is not feeling well. It sends me into panic mode (my anxiety started when he was diagnosed with a very rare disease - so I always get extra afraid if he isn't 100% well)

Worrying about my youngest son (almost 11) - he has been having bouts of "feeling sad for no reason" (his words) where he will cry and not know what is wrong. He also has expressed worrying about getting old and being alone. Breaks my heart. I talked to my counselor about recommendations for someone who specializes in kids.

My husband and I have been fighting a lot lately.

I just feel overwhelmed and tired. If you could send positive thoughts and prayers my way I'd really appreciate it.

Is you son or sons reacting to you and your husband fighting?

Do the kids hear you fight?

My wife and I had a verbal fight, one, many years ago when our only child was 13, and he has never gotten over that.

And he's now 40, and I finally had to just recently quit having anything to do with him.

Hi Cheri,

I am so sorry to hear of all the stressors that you are facing currently. I can imagine how this would feel very overwhelming!

When looking at it all at once...it is quite a mountain of concerns to stand before, so I encourage you to break it down into manageable challenges...and only face one at a time.

For your biopsy concern. Keep positive! You have the odds in your favor (2/3rds to be exact) that this will turn out to be nothing to have worried about. You will very likely either hear that the results were favorable, or neutral...so keep telling yourself that you have nothing to fear at this time.

As far as your sons go....well, worrying about our kids is natural...but there are things you can to do keep your worries productive rather than destructive!

If your oldest is coming down with something...keep him as healthy and comfortable as possible by being proactive with whatever is necessary...dr.s appointments, medication, natural remedies...ect. He will get through and over it soon.

With your youngest...it sounds like he may benefit from some self help coping skills for anxiety/depression. I am NOT saying that he has either of these issues...everyone gets stressed and sad from time to time and could use some tools to help them get back to feeling their best, right? Help him through the exercises, and you will really have an amazing bonding experience I am sure.

I am sending encouragement, thoughts and prayers! Keep us updated...we will be here in support.

S.C.

Sending some positive thoughts your way!