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Posted 7/1/2017 4:10 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone i hope you're doing well , can someone please help me.
I only need a good comparison or a way of thinking to get me move with my life ,a way of thinking that you could have thought of and i did not.

i've always been happy my entire life , untill when i had a panick attack about almost 3 years ago , after that i got anxious and little depressed because they were new feelings for me.Happily , i did found my way since many many months ago , i faced and solved my problems , understood how to beat the anxiety trick (total life changment and re-gained my old happy confidednt self)

The problem now is that we moved to a new house (me and my family) and it happened to be in the time where i was still traumatized and stuck in anxiety and bad feelings.The first 2 months that i lived in this NEW house , i was still in the worst part of my life. Just like a perfume that reminds someone of a bad breakup with a partner and he wants to get rid of it , same thing for me with this home.Even if had also many good moments , but THAT bad BEGINNING , i just couldnt forget it ,so i never accepted staying in this house.I explained to my parents this but they didnt accept to move from this house.and its been months since i did nothing new in my life , only waiting untill i move from here and then i can start living the real life.

=> i think this way because i'm afraid and dont want to remember that the BEGINING of a NEW major event of my life took place in this house , and if i were to remember it in the future i would feel very bad

if it happened in our old house i would totaly accept it and that's because it would have happened in the middle ,not at the BEGINNING of living in the house , just like life , sometimes we fall down in life and we continue, all of that makes sense to me , my problem is because it happened at THE BEGINNING.This may seem stupid for you but it is very important and it effects me alot.

i only need a different way of thinking that would make sense to me to save me
Can someone help me what to do or How to think diferently about this beginning obsession ,anyway to view this thing differently ?

Post Edited (brianpaul) : 7/1/2017 2:43:34 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 7/1/2017 6:53 PM (GMT 0)
Hi BP,

I understand your dilemma. Associative anxiety is quite real. It is natural for us to attach feelings...either positive or negative to certain surroundings/places/situations.

You started a new chapter, in a new place whilst experiencing a very difficult time in your life.

Of course there is another way of looking at this...

...which is you also overcame that challenge while living in that same house...

...so if you can turn your thinking around, and view your home as a place of healing, rather than the setting of a negative period...you may be able to break the association with your anxiety.

Positive mantras will help with this process. The words we say to ourselves have power. If you repeat a phrase such as:

"This is a place of healing and personal victory over my anxiety."

...or something similar, it will work with persistence and time.

Please see our Resources at the top of the main forum page here for more great self help material to work with...

...and post with us anytime for support and encouragement. 😊

Scaredy Cat
Posted 7/2/2017 12:51 PM (GMT 0)
thank you Scaredy Cat for your reply smile !
Posted 7/2/2017 1:35 PM (GMT 0)
You are welcome, and keep posting if you find it helpful! 😀

S.C.
Posted 7/2/2017 8:03 PM (GMT 0)
BRILLIANT SC !!! it will work definately..
Posted 7/3/2017 2:03 PM (GMT 0)
any other person ?
Posted 7/3/2017 4:40 PM (GMT 0)
There are many rituals and ceremonies in many cultures for clearing bad energy and blessing a space. Maybe performing such a ceremony, or finding someone to do it with you, would change the energy and the association you have with the house. Here are some ideas:

http://www.clearitual.com/clear_rituals.html
Posted 7/5/2017 4:42 AM (GMT 0)
Personally, I would view this in an analogous fashion to a "slow start" of an athlete's season. You had a slip up at the start, but in time things have gotten better considering the first 2 months were some of the worst months you ever experienced. To add to Scaredy Cat's point, try to use that shift in perception of your house as a springboard to propel you to a new "high point" whilst living in your new house; in other words use the positive of overcoming a terrible slump to inspire confidence in yourself to push for a better feeling.

I use this kind of thinking with my health anxiety all the time.

Hope this helps smile
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