Hi Fletch and welcome!
I am sorry to hear about
your current challenges, but glad to see you join us.
As far as you Rx question goes...talking to your doctor about
an off label antihistamine such as Vistaril (hydroxyzine) might be a good step as far as a benzo alternative goes...
...and yes, an anxiolytic, beta blocker or tricyclic A/D as another option rather than an SSRI could be worth looking into.
You don't mention therapy...so hopefully you have, or are still exploring this tool? If not, or if it's been a while since you've been in sessions...I strongly suggest this step!
Finally, please check out our Resources at the top of the main forum page here for great self help material to work with! Practicing the suggested exercises daily will make a big difference in how you feel.
Post with us anytime for support and encouragement!
Scaredy Cat