My wife of 17 years has suddenly stopped talking to me and wants to leave me

hello

yesterday i was trying to talk to my daughter about what she would like to do after she finishes her 10th standard
she didn't talk properly she was watching TV and then got annoyed and she said im watching tv i have hurt my head ..don't you see that i don't wanna speak
she is quite indifferent and at times rude while other times she is kind of ok
was discussing this with my sister and one thing led to another and it led to an argument with my sister too
then i tried talking to my friend and that too turned out to be a frustrated conversation

again waking up groggy..feels like i don't sleep ...started watching ****
don't feel fresh ...annoyed ..not sure what to do

every time is ask family to go out it feels like they are doing me a favor .. never get a feeling that they want to
what should i do... how long should i be punished??..how long should i take all this

u made so much sense yet again...my cognition in this case is weak as i have never been i such a situation and everything is getting amplified yes...but yes she has been indifferent but could be that i am over reacting whatever be my explanations


"Work your coping skills for decompressing"..what does this mean

i need to sleep and wake up well and try to get a grip ...thanks for those guidance

had a session with the counselor yesterday . I had an outburst there right at the counselor when she told that ( i am having a high SPTG count on my liver ) that i am going around telling everyone that my liver is damaged and i am doing it for sympathy. I lost my cool and said to her whom should i tell?.. i do not have anyone around who listens . the counselor came down heavily on me . he said if this is the way i talk ..there is no doubt that then that my daughter and wife choose to not talk to you if this is the way u retaliate for everything. she again told the counselor that she needs more time to heal ( she is trying to she said ) she also said that she will decide to stay away for a while once my daughters 10th grade is over . i din't know what to say . i was very emotional yesterday...i didn't know what to say. whatever i said was being used against me if i remained silent they would ask me what did i have to say. but one good thing was we spoke a lot yesterday in the session whatever was locked inside ...we spoke ...not sure in the house when she came back she asked my daughter to sit in the room with me...she was asking her to talk they were trying to talk

do u agree with what the counselor had to say ?

its been a while ...how have u been Scaredy Cat ..my wife has finally decided to leave me and stay separately ..she said yesterday that she wont be happy with me and she literally begged me to let go

i am having a really tough time dealing with this
doctor has given me anti depressant

sure ...she says she will stay close by so that my daughter can spend time with both of us...although i hate the idea but at least i get to spend time with my daughter and she said i can visit at times...i mean its better than nothing... my doctor told me to be bold and cope with it ...its the best way to deal with it apparently...although it is i am trying hard ...hope time will make it easy for me?

during the mornings i feel somewhat ..my heart races ..feel very empty a feeling of anxiety in the chest...gets a little better in the later half of the day . Why do i have to go through this :-(

thank you...your words are always encouraging but life looks very bleak ..looking at the future makes me depressed and anxious and if i can say scared. Will have to carve out things to do over the time and have enough time to spend with my daughter ....the thought that u said that its going to be very very difficult scares me even more

i think ur right to acknowledge it that its going to be difficult . that way ill be prepared .
thanks for the encouraging words ..i do look forward to coming out of this strong and happier hopefully?

i was brought up with the feelings that family comes first maybe i am deeply affected each time i think that its all getting destroyed . i need to find a way to tell my self that all is well

Hi, yes.

How are you doing?

VKJ,

I would get involved with a volunteer group, or a hobby/social club...something to give you a break from the challenging aspects of your situation you are experiencing.

Change can bring about good things...even if we view it as negative at the time. Getting involved with new groups/people could be the beginning of some great new connections/friendships that you may have never made otherwise.

Stay encouraged and know things are going to get better...different, sure...but less difficult in time.

S.C.

Hi VKJ and welcome back!

So a mix of good days and bad, huh? Well it is something that you are continuing to have productive days, and that you are continuing the work that you are doing to feel better and manage your anxiety. That is really remarkable...and with time, you will find those good days increasing and the not so good ones becoming more rare.

Are you able to see and/or talk to your daughter? I hope that this is the case, as I am sure that goes a long way in keeping your mood lifted

Keep working towards your goals as you have. I am really impressed with the progress I sense just from reading your posts. I know it may not seem as obvious to you, because you are living it everyday...but it is apparent with every new entry you make here.

You are doing great...keep up hope and be encouraged!

S.C.