Checking In...

Hi,

Been awhile , wish everyone the best .
Hi S.Cat , best to you and your family .
Had a minor health issue , nothing serious , and will be good in couple days .

You know I think about posting sometimes , but than consider the effort and introspection it involves . It’s not something I take lightly . Also , why can’t I just do what will be the best choice , act the best way for whatever I’m doing .

Another thing is , a lot of it is repetitive / which relates to last thought - just alter your behavior - you complained of that in like 2010! It’s going in circles , having a issue again with something I HAVE ALREADY ANALYZED HOW TO DEAL WITH AND WASTING TIME .

IN FACT THE ISSUES PROBABLY HAVE WASTED BLEEPING DECADES!!!

A few weeks ago , by chance I saw my old therapist in a store in a split second .
Relating to what I said before , I don’t want to repeat myself , so I apologize as I’m sure I’m going to now repeat myself .

First , unimportantly , he looked tiny , wasn’t a big person , but regular , maybe he has been sick ,

But here it goes again : I went on my own free will - so bad on me for being so ignorant .

BUT BUYER BEWARE! SITTING IN A CHAIR SAYING CLOSE TO NOTHING
-LITERALLY OVER FEW YEARS CAN REMEMBER ONLY 2 THINGS THAT RESONATE WITH ME , AND THEY WERENT ALL THAT .

A therapist job is not to tell you what to do , but to help you help yourself . And you have to want to make changes , or no one can help you .

A QUICK GOOGLE SEARCH CAN TELL YOU WHAT YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR IN A GOOD THERAPIST . They should be able to tell you what their plan is , and have goals for you . There should also be a “end game “. In other words - ideally you don’t want to go indefinitely to therapy , so what are you looking for as your goal?

To say it again , the person I saw , did nothing , a review of him described him as talking to a “empty chair ‘ , and that is a perfect description.

Getting bored repeating myself , why am I typing this .., maybe it’s why did I waste time with this idiot .

You go to therapy to grow, to move beyond the obstacles you have .

I told him / asked him my mind is always thinking so it screws me up and can make me look stupid if someone asks a question - his response was a just a stupid smirk.
I went on a job interview , something I usually handle well , and uncharactically became tense where the interviewer asked me if I was ok - I now understand what was going on - but it was a mystery back then , so I told him , and he said I should of asked the guy why did he ask me that.
Great advice , point out the fact your uptight on a interview . Actually , it could make sense if you could make a excuse that I was under the weather - but he did not say any of that .


Let me wrap this up.
I read something that people go years to therapy and have no improvement .
Run the other way if they have no plan or goals in line with yours .
This guy was also a liar , I asked about other types of therapies , and he said he tried them already , never happened.
There was only a “empty chair” on other side .
He said talking is good enough , no it isn’t .

Hi S.C,

Absolutely - It was a waste of time. This was 8 years ago. Actually his office is
close to my physician, and have thought what would I do if I ran into him.
He acted very defensive when I said I was leaving , after I said I had learned
much from reading and this forum , his response was sarcastically , " you
have all the answers."

That is the point , for me to make progress , get answers - which he did not provide
over YEARS, and he seemed annoyed by it. He is a hack, who was just bothered
he was losing a clients money.

I wanted to go over childhood events that could have influenced my adult behavior ,
as i came from a dysfunctional family, but he said it did not matter.