My wife of 17 years has suddenly stopped talking to me and wants to leave me - Part 2

some how the previous thread with the title ( sans part 2) is locked and i cant reply there not sure why but that thread would have given a better context .
Its been almost year since i last posted
Wishing you all a very happy new year
thanks to Scaredy Cat.. this post helped me in many ways
Tim tam i know u are very blunt and honest ..sometimes it did hurt me but yes all that u wrote most times made sense whenever i was retrospective in reading your comments
Its almost a year now since i last posted ..went through some good times with my band and music...and that fell apart sometime 3 months back which was very heartbreaking for me ....lost my best friend for years, almost 10 years...which is something im still trying to digest .....there were some women who apparently claimed they liked me and that they have fallen in love with me and when i said i am going through a phase and i am not quite sure,...they said ugly things and shut me off like they never knew me ...i really don't know how people . do that?
I had some professional success too if i may mention it

since the past 3 months its been quite lonely ....i am not sure how things will change or ever improve ..its slightly different from what happened since my wife left me
i dont use stato pam since almost 5 months i guess now
just that i take .25mg of petril every alternate day before sleeping
i am not ..if i may say happy..i am at peace though i feel .....
i am lonely, i do have the thinsg that i need ..some things that i want are missing ...
how have all of u been?

thanks a lot OQuesh ..i would also have wished that they would ..but somehow i feel that since im 46 already things will only downslide from here ...i try best to keep busy and occupied but i feel that a kinda runaway from my true feelings?
i find myself always questioning how will i live my entire life like this?

scaredy cat is no longer in this forum?

thank you karen ...she has helped me a lot with her words and advice a couple of years ago....i have been struggling with some anxiety of recently of a different kind and hence was looking out for her

strangely i struggled with sleep last night

hello Karen ....what do u think of?
i wasn't particularly thinking of anything.... its just that i get anxious

Today was much better , i think me getting back to work after the holidays is helping
Actually i had forgotten that breathing technique , i was using it a lot earlier when i had really bad time 2 years back
sometimes i wonder what will happen to me if i am left with a space where i was like in the holidays with nothing much to do ...creepy ..the thought itself makes me work more

how old are you i am 46 ..some of the thoughts are related quite a lot to the age i feel , i end up thinking how long will i be alone like this ....what would my life be like once my daughter is also busy with her own life etc ...u know
maybe if you gimme a little background i could tell you with whatever helped me

Hi vkj,

I don't know why I didn't see your post from 1/8 until now. I am glad you had a better day and I hope you still are. I am 62 years old. 46 is young, well 62 is too, but I don't feel so young. In my mind I do, but not the body. I have fibromyalgia and when I was in my 40's I felt 80. You can't get that time back, so I do the best I can now.

Can you get out and enjoy things? Is it cold where you are? We are under a couple feet of snow here. I am in Michigan. I am looking forward to spring. Wont be long as the ground hog didn't see his shadow. LOL...

I hope you are doing good and I am sorry I didn't reply sooner.

Hugs, Karen...

Hi vkj,

Being home is getting to me also. I usually don't go out much so at first it wasn't that bad. Luckily I am going to a therapy session on Wednesday. An hour drive each way. So I will be out of the house for about 3 hours. After that we are going to skype. I am nervous about going but kind of anxious to get out of here for a bit. I am going to carry a mask and gloves.

It really is for our own good. I think it is helping to do social distancing. This is suppose to be the worst week I guess. I wonder how they figure that out. But I guess they pay attention to how it went in the countries before us. Scary and depressing it is.

I walked my dog in the yard today and looked at my flower beds. I have a few things poking through. But my favorite spot still has a foot of snow. I think it is because I have a grape vine there and it shades the flower bed. That will be good moisture for the plants.

Do you know what? I put I was 62. I am 61. I don't know why I thought I was 62. LOL...

It felt good to write. I hope you have a good day today. Keep hanging in there, we will get through this together.

I am glad you have your daughter there.

Hugs, Karen...

So far I have what I need. But soon I will have to shop for toilet paper and I think people are still hoarding. You would think that they would slow down by now as we are getting close to a month of the social distancing. Oh well.

Yes, it is strange right now. I am hoping that we are at least half way through. But it is hard to say. I guess New York is on the downward slope of the curve. I hope so. They got hit hard. I am sure the responders are exhausted.

I hope your daughter can be with you for awhile. It could be some good quality time.

Hugs, Karen...

What kind of music? Do you play instruments or sing? I am curious.

I got out yesterday, had a therapy appointment that went well. From now on we will skype. It is crazy. But doable I think. Not easy. As you say hopefully the whole world comes out stronger.

Have a good day...

Hugs, Karen...

It was mental health therapy. I see a psychologist. She is great. We met in the lobby as there was nobody else there. Sat about ten feet apart. It went well and I felt a lot better afterwards. From now on we will meet on skype.

I know what you mean about feeling tired sitting at home. It seems like it is pretty much the same from day to day. Mine changes with what I cook. lol...

I hope your day is good today.

Take care...

Hugs, Karen...

Yes lockdown extended here too. I heard till the end of the month and I also heard 70 days. So we'll see.

I use to play guitar. I still have mine, just can't do the chords anymore. My hands are too weak and fingers can't press hard enough. I love guitar though.

You are right, amidst difficulties do lie opportunities.

Have a great day.

Hugs, Karen...

I been okay. Going a little stir crazy here but not bad. If the weather would co-operate I could go outside. It has been raining for a couple of days. Suppose to be sunny here tomorrow.

I have a dog and she can be a pain in the you know what. She is still a puppy. about 19 months old. Chases her tail continuously. Keeps me entertained too though.

Have a nice day...

Hugs, Karen...

I am okay, nothing fantastic but good. Taking things one day at a time. That is the best we can do I guess given the circumstances.

It is early, I hear the birds chirping outside. It is quiet other wise.

I hope you are holding up too. I hope soon lock down will be over but I hope it is safe.

Hang in there.

Hugs, Karen...