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Posted 5/25/2022 7:25 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, my name is Rich, a/k/a Older Guy.

I had some strong anxiety about a trip to the car dealership. Car repairs are often fraught experiences for me. Especially at the dealership. I know one part, for example, is that I believe that dealerships are notorious for overcharging and dreaming up charges. Anyway, because of some things in my past (long ago), I still have fear. My anxiety thoughts just chatter a lot when I plan to make a trip to a dealership. And in this particular situation, I realized that the problems I'm having is not that serious. So I made a plan to go today (Wednesday) and then decided yesterday i was just not ready / was way too anxious. So I put it off. Even though I felt disappointed in myself, I am OK about it now. My purpose in writing this is just to get some feedback. Thank you.
Posted 5/25/2022 7:54 PM (GMT 0)
I've also heard dealership repair costs are high.

We had an electric widow go out and took it to the dealership and it cost $600 to repair. This was 15 years ago so I know it would be higher now. There's a guy in the neighborhood who is good with repair or knows somebody who is.

Now, I would check with him before taking my car to a dealership for a repair. Is there anybody in your neighborhood who is a mechanic or knows people who repair cars, etc? I would consider knocking on doors in your neighborhood and asking about that, before I took it to a dealership.

Are you on a network neighborhood group where you can ask, anybody know a good mechanic?

Yeah, I share your concern about a car dealership for repair.
Posted 5/26/2022 10:55 PM (GMT 0)
Independent repair shops are often the way to go.
Posted 7/17/2022 6:18 AM (GMT 0)
TAKE A FRIEND WITH YOU? HT
KEEP STRONG.
Posted 11/2/2022 5:58 AM (GMT 0)
Hi ,

I heard you...and sometimes I feel that way, especially about my upcoming hip replacement...
I am also an older guy with some heart issues..I’ve been cleared for the surgery but still have REFLUX and PVCs galore as time gets near...I’ve been given some wonderful feedback on these forums, but I feel the way you do....if I’m still stressed over this by Friday, I may have to push it back until I can get ready mentally...I hope I’m ok, because I’d like to get this behind me....

Thanks 🙏🏻
Posted 11/3/2022 1:56 AM (GMT 0)
I would be concerned about cancelling the appointment for a couple of reasons:

1. You would be denying yourself the needed medical help.

2. If you keep cancelling, how long will it take for them to figure this out? Hey, this guy is not going to keep his appointments. Tell him to get another doctor.

You won't be a reliable patient. We expect them to be there to operate, then they expect us to be there to operate on.

Both need to keep their share of the bargain. We need them and they need us. Keep your share of the bargain.

The hip problem must keep you in a lot of pain. They are nice enough and talented enough to put us out of that pain. So we need to keep our share of the bargain and show them we appreciate that by showing up.

Once you get there, the nurses will take care of you. They will give you sedatives and everything that's needed to keep you calm.

Put yourself in their hands. If you're nervous tell them that you are nervous, they'll know what to do. You won't be the first.

What you do the first time is what you'll do every time. Bail. Till they won't have anything to do with you. Or the next doctor.

Then you will have a complaint: Doctors won't even treat me! Be glad, be very glad that they will treat you. By showing up for your appointment.
Posted 11/3/2022 2:09 AM (GMT 0)
As for Rich's original problem posted 5/25/2022 at the top of this thread,

he said that he was wary of car dealerships.

I once was in the market for a product and didn't know where to go for that. I could have gone to the computer, but I wasn't raised on computers, so I never thought of that.

I went with a lone wolf and I got ripped off. I've been telling people since, to go with a dealership for that product.

A dealership has an address so you know where they are, a lone wolf has a box number and a phone that doesn't have to answer.

When they say we've been here for 25 years, there's a reason they say that. If they were shiesters, they wouldn't have been in business that long.

I would pick an established company over a lone wolf any day.
Posted 11/3/2022 2:43 AM (GMT 0)
Points well taken....thanks for the reply..😩🙏🏻
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