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Posted 11/5/2023 4:55 PM (GMT 0)
Im not used to things like this. But im learning to reach for better. I lost my father within the year. Im still replaying every last moment. I come from a big family but none that act as if they are. Daily struggles i just wanna vent i dont know how 🥺
Posted 11/6/2023 2:58 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Iheartjeeps, I don't usually post in this forum but happened to see your post & wanted to respond. I am sorry for the loss of your father, losing a parent is so hard. I remember losing both of my parents.

I've read your other couple of posts on here too. Don't compare yourself to other family members, everyone grieves differently. Be kind to yourself & do the best you can for you.

This forum is very slow, but feel free to vent any time, reaching out is a good sign. In the meantime, check out the Resource Pages pinned at the top.

Take care.
Posted 11/7/2023 2:44 AM (GMT 0)
I appreciate your response. I wasnt comparing myself to other family members or anything in that sense. We all do grieve differently. But my family has been torn for the longest time theres so much i could vent about. Im learning to let go and let god thank you again 😔
Posted 11/13/2023 12:50 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry your loss. I lost my Dad in Jan 2020 and my Mom in June 2022 and am still grieving both. I totally understand replaying their deaths over and over. I was present when both of my parents were removed from life support. It was pretty traumatic, but I wasn't going to let them go without me being there. Everybody grieves differently and at different times. When my Dad died, my younger sister was a mess and ended up taking antidepressants. When my Mom died, my older sister was a mess. Through it all, I was the tough one. Several years later, both my sisters have worked through their grief and are feeling much better. Guess who is having the hard time now? It's me. Everybody grieves in their own time and in their own way. Take meds if you need them. Keep busy during the day so you are tired and can sleep at night. Most helpful for me is to get out in the sunshine every day. Best of luck
Posted 11/13/2023 4:06 PM (GMT 0)
Definitely. See when my father died i was the first one to his house watching them resuscitate him and they reported him deceased to me at 9:30 am feb 21rst. My older sister did arrive at the house but i didnt let her inside or even see him get carried out in a bag. These are the things that replay. I deal with a lot or trauma’s . As before my father passed away i helped with cleaning a family members car wreck that also impacted me. I know that everyone has there own way in grieving. Im still trying to find how. And to find peace .. thank u for sharing your experience and i am a ear to listen as well !
Posted 11/17/2023 3:58 PM (GMT 0)
Iheartjeeps, I understand your situation much better now. Witnessing a parent or loved one pass is hard to tuck away in your mind for quite some time. I walked into the ER that my dad was in, saw the flurry of people working on him, he had a massive heart attack. I remember the look on his face today, he was in so much distress. It was a very traumatic experience. For quite some time that image haunted me, but in time that went away. When I think of him now, it's all good memories.

My mother had terminal lung cancer, I was sitting on the bed next to her when she took her last breath. In her situation her passing was peaceful. She suffered enough, so it was a blessing that she went peacefully.

Be kind to yourself.
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