My brother makes me so mad

Hey Bethers,
Glad to hear that you're on your way to the end of WD. That's great news. As for your brother, it sounds to me like he's in denial of his own issues. Don't let him get to you. You have to be the bigger one here.

Hi Bethers

I'm glad your almost out of the woods with WD. Maybe your brother is having a hard time dealing with the fact that his sister is ill, and in turn is taking it out on you, do you think this might be his problem. If not, you need to take care of yourself, and tell him to deal. Don't let him upset how far you have come. I think your doing great.

Hugs Judy

Dont listen to him bethers, we know better ;) its not worth it to listen and get yourself to feeling even worse, smile and tell him, im gonna feel better than you do!
hugs
shell

Dear Bethers-

I haven't read all the others comments yet. I had to respond NOW. This makes me so angry. Your brother sounds just like my ex-husband! He would tell me the EXACT same thing. He said that people don't need to have these drugs, that it's mind over matter, that I was weak. He would tell me to just "get over it". His mother also had some similar problems and he would refuse to talk to her or visit for extended periods of time. I would get so angry. Who do these people think they are? I really don't understand. Until you walk a mile in my shoes keep your mouth shut. It is a proven fact that these things we all go through are real. They are chemical imbalances. I'm going to school in the medical field and I know this to be true. It's scientific fact. If others choose to ignore this, that's their problem, not ours.

I'm done being on my soap box. Sorry. I really and truely hope that your brother will do some research and come around, for your sake as well as for his. You need each other. Family is supposed to be a support system. Family is important, one of the most important things here on this earth.

As for my ex-husband, this is a part of the reason he's now my ex. May he rot in h***.

Just know you are not alone here we all do understand and know what some ppl may think but we do all know better right
You take care and STAY STRONG
Lyn

I hate when people say its all in your head!  If you were a diabetic would he give you crap about the dependancy on insulin.  Five years ago I was considering killing myself even though I had everything to live for.  Only my religious beliefs kept me from trying but I was totally obsessed with what I was feeling.  Was put on Zoloft and within 2wks started to feel better and within a month was back in my life again.  Tried to give up the Zoloft recently and started to feel crappy again so called doctor and said I would like to stay on it.  I'm on a low dose and it helps me live my life and enjoy my husband and kids, so I really don't care what anyone else says.  As far as your choises for getting pregnant, THAT CHOICE IS YOUR'S AND YOUR PARTNER'S ONLY!!!!   I wish you luck on all fronts and keep your chin up. 

Glad you are feeling a little better each day from taking xanax, but don't forget to give yourself credit too - most of the hard work and courage is done by you..it takes a lot of energy and soul searching to be well again.
Pays to develop 'selective hearing' when it comes to negative things others say! If you know you are feeling better and coping with life..then you are doing a good job.
Well done!

Maree

Hi Bethers,

I think that two trains of thought are present here.

The first one is people who don't have anxiety, don't understand anxiety and are unwilling to believe that we can't just "snap out of it". They tend to think that A/P people are just hungry for attention. Like none of us were hugged enough as children or something. I have met many people like this. I have mentioned to a few people that my future FIL falls into this catagory. Every time I have a PA, he thinks I just want attention. I think unless he can physically see that something is wrong (like I'm wearing a cast or something) he will continue to believe that I make this stuff up in my head.

The second is people who are suffering from anxiety, depression, etc., but don't want to admit it. By admitting to us that they have a problem, some people (I think men tend to more often fall into this catagory) see that as a sign of weakness. I think society makes it very difficult for men to come to terms with having anxiety, depression, etc. It's a strong man (or woman) who can see that they have a problem and get help.

I think your brother falls into one of these catagories. I am by no means saying that these are the only types of people in the world. I'm just saying that your brother may fit in somewhere within these catagories.

I try to surround myself with people who manage to lift me up when I'm feeling down. That's one reason why I come here to HW. Try to find those people in your life and stay with them. If your brother is going to bring you down and hinder any progress that you are making, you will only find yourself resenting him later.

Great advice and input, I hope your brother gets the help it sounds like he needs. Keep your head up. I have to say, kudos to seechell, i know how ya feel ;)
shell

Another day of feeling really good no xanax withdrawals!! Yay

Thanks Shell