My da is dying

Just found out today that cancer is in his bones......have never had good relations with him but that's no excuse.  It is hard because I really have no none except my partner to lean on.  I can't afford to fly home and do what I should....but I'm putting my faith out there that I can help him somehow soon.  I Know this is OT but I trust you all to much to not say anything..xxx NM

Meg,

My father was diagnosed with cancer and gone within a week. I never had a close relationship and regret that there wasn't enough time to say all the things that should have been said.

You have your reasons for the differences, but if you feel you'd like to contact him take the chance now while you can......... a phone call or letter is a start.

I'm really sorry to hear about his health.

Meg,

So sorry about what your dealing with *BIG HUGS* we are here for you hunny. I would try to fix things as you can't hold grudges forever... and now is probably a better time than ever.

Let us know how you're doing.

*HUGS*

TG~

My dad went quickly also - 3 weeks after diagnosis. He was an active and healthy 63 years young.

Follow your heart and make peace if thats where it leads. Regrets last a lifetime...

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care.
Karen

How ya making out sweetie
AS was said regret lasts a lifetime ......make some peace now if possible and thats what your heart tells you
We are all here for you
Luvs
Lyn

Sorry you are going through this.......at least you have done whats in your power to do and I hope you find some peace in that. I see where your coming from, my mom is dying from cancer and I lost my sister in august to cancer. It's a hard road, I was really close to my sister but not my mom and now have made peace for the most part.

Be good to yourself you are doing everything you can and that all you can do. I'm sure he will come around. Don't beat yourself up for his judgement, you did the right thing following your dreams, so many people don't. You deserve a pat on the back and a big hug for the steps you have taken.

Hun it may not be lack of interest at all it might be that he is having to face his own mortality
I dont know you know him best
Glad you took the step
Please email me okay and we can talk about the Bottle
Not good but I do empathize honestly
Luvs ya
Lyn

Hi Meg

Wondering how you are doing through all this?

Dads are the first man in a doughters life - and have a lot to live up to.We sometimes feel that we are answerable to them even in adult life. I have always been Dads girl right from the beginning, but there have been times when we just haven't understood each others life decisions..but given time and a little understanding things always work out. Just remember that Your opinion of Him matters too   So even if he appears disinterested over the phone - the fact that you rang will have made an impact on him...besides that he will be going through heaps of stress coming to terms with the news of cancer..Has he been given a time frame for his illness and is it treatable? If he has time on his side maybe you could ask him to come and see you - tell him you really love him to pieces and that you know that being a writer may not be what he had envisioned for you - but it's your chosen field and that you love it - and a reminder that happiness is what life is always about thrown in for good measure lol.

Hope everything works out for the best.

Maree

Meg,

Glad to hear things are going well with reuniting with your Dad. Take advantage of each day together. I have a feeling you both will be able to put the past disagreements behind you.

Best wishes,
Karen

Meg got your email and I will follow thru together we can do this I promise you that
You are a special person in all hearts but in mine a little more as the paths are so identical '
Luvs ya
Hugg your dad sweetie
Lyn

Meg I will hold off on email till I know you are ready let me know okay you have so much to deal with
Remember you are not alone in the world you have your lil family here
Luvs ya sweetie
Lyn

Thanks Bear you are so great with your support we have sure missed you
How are you doing sweetie
Email me when ya get back okay
Luvs ya
Lyn

Hi, I am new to this post and I don't know the background to your situation with your father, but I just wanted to offer some support.  My father died exactly one year ago today.  We had a great relationship, I can't imagine losing him otherwise.  I'm sure I would have had so many regrets.  That is the one thing that I am thankful for and it gives me peace - is that he knew how much I loved him and I knew he loved me.  If you feel like reaching out for your father, now is the time to do it, for the both of you.  You never know the inner peace that comes with it, while they are here and after they're gone.  I think the worst thing you can have in life is regret.  My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time in your life.

God Bless you and your family...