Asking for some compassion or something...

Hello Tammy,

I hope you will be able to try some of these suggestions to decrease your anxiety now. OK?

First of all I do not believe that you have Cancer and I am sure that your Doctor will verify this.

I do believe that your anxiety level is rising because you are anticipating the worse to happen at the clinic. Now what is the worse that could happen..you cry, you need a minute to get yourself together.  This happens to many people in fact I have done it.  The Doctor walks into exam room and asks whats  going on with you ? I burst into tears and usually say something like I am just crazy.  Then he calmly starts talking to me wanting to know why I feel that way.  Here is where you get to tell him or her what you have been going through.

Write down a few notes to take with you so you don't get home and go "shoot, I forgot to ask------"

After talking to you the Dr. will probably have you sit on exam table and do a brief exam and continue to ask more questions.  He will listen to your lungs, and to your heart.  He will look in your ears  and your throat.

The nurse will probably already have done your BP, Pulse and temperature.  It is a very painless exam.

Your scared, yes and that is normal, but now I would like you to try to stay in the moment. Don't anticipate what will happen or try to guess which dreaded disease you may have.  Let that wait until your appointment.

Today enjoy what is happening, plan something fun and if your Drs. appointment pops into your head let it go on through and stay in the moment. Don't worry that you have to face the appointment today.

It is a waste of your energy and will just snowball out of control.

Can you trust that you will do fine?  I believe in you and trust you will be just a normal clinic patient coming to see your physician for an exam and advice.

Gentle hugs to you and deep breaths..................(((((HUGS)))))))))

Tammy please try to calm yourself down!  I know how nervous you are.  You will be FINE!

You had a bad day now let it go.  Don't keep dweeling on it!

I highly doubt you have anything life threatening going on with you.  It is so easy to think of the worse, especially when your in a state of panic.   I know because I did the same thing. 

I had the same symptons as you.  When my anxiety was at an all time high, I could not breath.  All day, everyday, I was short of breath.  I could not yawn or even sneeze the proper way!  I was always trying to take a deep breath. 

A hot shower or bath can be relaxing especially before bedtime.  I do that sometimes and it helps me fall asleep. 

Hang in there sweetie, your Dr. visit will come and go quickly.  Everything will work out for you!

(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

Mary

I want to thank everybody for you kind words and advice! Kitt, you took a lot of time to tell me what to expect, and I appriciate that so much. My nerves are a wreck, and as usual, your words helped to calm me!

Harry, thank you for the reply, and I am trying my best to pay less attention to my body...boy is that hard to do!!!

And Mary, thank you too. It was comforting to hear that you also couldn't breath all day everyday when your anxiety was high. THat just makes me feel a lot better to know that anxiety could seriously be the cause of everything I am feeling.

Anxiety is horrible, and scary, and I am tired of it. THat iw why I am going to the doctor finally. Agoraphobia or not, I will be there!!!

Thank you all for the advice! I will update you Tuesday evening as to waht the doctor says. My appointment is at 4:30 p.m. and I am in Ohio. I will also probably be back with more before then...hope no one minds.

Now, I am going to go outside for a few minutes. My bf is washing the windows on his car, and I could use the fresh air.

Thanks again...EVERYONE!

Hey Tammy,

I know exactly what you are going through being the nutty hypochondriac that I am.  Everyone is giving you good advice and I would suggest the same.  It will be okay.  I will pray for you and be thinking about you.  Let us know what happens.

As Bob Marley would say...

 Don't worry about a thing, cos every little thing gonna be alright!!!                        

 Tammy,

I understand your feelings and fears.  I was convinced (thanks to Google) that I had cancer and/or other terminal conditions and went to the doctor with a legal size piece of paper filled with my "symptoms".  I had recently had a full physical and all blood work, x-rays, ekg, whatever was normal...good in fact.  But, I was sure that they must have missed something.  I was so anxietal when I went to the appt., that when the nurse checked my blood pressure, it was way high.  My doctor gave me a piece of paper that explained all about anxiety and panic and it had a long list of "symptoms".  Of course, it described me to a T.  Once I began to truly believe THAT is what was wrong with me, I was able to begin a course or way of treating it.  Medication really helped for me personally, but meditiation and prayer help keep my mind on positive things.  I still "fight" the negative thoughts and fears that plague me, but I am more able (with the help of the meds and counseling) to kick those horrible thoughts out of my head.  Awfulizing is my enemy, but I will fight it to the end.  Goodness and happiness WILL WIN THE BATTLE.  I'm sorry if I seem to have been babbling...I just really felt for you when I read your post and wanted to share.  I believe that your appointment is going to be positive, you will find that you are HEALTHY and you will begin a road to recovery.  Hang in there and I will be praying for you.

septembergirl

September and Kitt, thanks to you both for the support! I woke up today feeling sad. My appointment is scaring me. I know it will be ok in the end, but still, working up to going is scary. I am trying not to think about it at all, but sadly, I cannot help it. I want tomorrow to come fast, just to get it over with, but in some ways, I want tomorrow to not come too quickly. I guess getting it over with would be better.

Ugh. I appriciate you all listening tome and helping me! I truly do. I am so thankful that I found this board. Thanks for all the love and support!!!

Thank you kindly for your prayers September...that means a lot to me!!!

:)

Anticipation does stink...and these past few days have been horrible. I hate to think of what tomorrow brings. Will I be nervous up til the appointment...or what? UGH. Thanks for thinking of me though!!!

Thanks a million Licho!!

Miles, thank you so much for your kind and comforting words. The clock is ticking til my appointment, and I am getting nervous, but I will think of my healingwell friends, and of course, I will have my boyfriend, and everything will be alright!

Thanks again for your words. They meant a lot to me!