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Posted 12/25/2007 3:50 PM (GMT 0)
Due to length of first thread and its helpfulness I am starting number 2 with some of the last ones from # 1 .lol.....am I making sense yet ??

Please post your baby steps your triumphs ....anything that can and WILL help others as believe me it does especially new ppl coming to the forum ...they see there is a LIGHT at the end if this Dark tunnel ............

Merry Christmas and Love to all

LYN

Cowgirl

Big sis

S.I.S.
Posted 12/25/2007 3:52 PM (GMT 0)
Junebug said .........

Finally, some success to share! I've had an amazing 5 weeks or so, feeling great, getting out every weekend, it's been so nice. During this time, I did all the Christmas shopping with my husband. I was able to go every time and be there to pick out each present. Last year, I went out twice the whole month of December, so this is a huge improvement. We've even eaten out three times in restaurants, haven't done that in a very long time! All the presents are now bought, food is in the fridge for Christmas eve and day, so now we can just sit back, make some hot chocolate, watch the corny Christmas specials and relax! Yea!!! Hoping everyone has a wonderful holiday season
Posted 12/25/2007 3:54 PM (GMT 0)
Wen Said ........

I too finally have something good to post. My Christmas presents are all here and wrapped - I ordered almost everything through the internet and I had a friend do the shopping for the stocking stuffers. The internet is just the best thing. With the Agoraphobia, I knew that I wouldn't be able to handle any stores/malls. I knew that I would freak out, so I just didn't do it.

The other success is I have my two youngest kids (13 & 15) making homemade gifts for everyone instead of buying things. My husband and I talked with them and told them that people like homemade gifts because their is more thought and effort put into them and it makes it more special. So they are making pillows and blankets for everyone. The just loving the sewing!! It's been very cool watching them really get into this and be excited and happy doing this.

Thanks for letting me share this with you all and I wish you a very Merry Christmas. May you all have special moments with your loved ones.

Hugs and Luvs to all,

Wen
Posted 12/25/2007 3:56 PM (GMT 0)
Kitt/Lil Sis said .......

Wen,

I loved hearing that your children got into making gifts. They get their talent from their Mom................ That is a great thing.

You have come a long way in just a short time. I internet shop too. Love it. I like to go to the mall sometimes but it is so busy and like you I get anxious after a bit and need to leave.

So happy to read you successes...........you Rock girlfriend.

Hugs

Kitt
Posted 12/25/2007 3:58 PM (GMT 0)
WEN Said .......


Posted Yesterday 7:12 PM (GMT -7)
Here's another success from tonight - at least a partial success:

Today has been a day that I have needed an extra valium because I have been so stressed out. My husband had to actually keep me out of the kitchen for a couple of hours so that I could calm down because I was so close to a panic attack. I was worried all day about going out to my son's for dinner and worked myself up pretty bad. I cannot get over how much this flippin Agoraphobia has taken over my life and how different things are for me now versus a year ago. After talking with my husband, calling my dad and coloring for a while, I was able to finish what I needed to do and go to my son's new apartment.

I was nervous, to say the least, but I was able to stay there for about 2.5 hours before I couldn't take it any more and needed to leave. My son was so understanding, as was my husband. They just amaze me sometimes. The other two kids stayed there while my husband brought me home - my son only lives about 5 minutes from me. I was able to eat dinner, sit and talk for a while, and even played a couple of video games with my son. So I guess it would be considered a partial success - I couldn't get through the day without panicking and couldn't stay until everyone else was ready to leave, but I stayed for a while.

Kitt, my daughter actually told me that she had a blast making the pillows and blankets today. She really surprised me when she said that.

Wen
Posted 12/25/2007 4:09 PM (GMT 0)
SO proud of all of you ..............WEN...AWESOME job Sweetie LUVS .S.i.s.

I got thru this am......with a few tears but am okay now ....lol

Cait had her Big Christmas present in my closet .........walk in closet that is with everything around it ....I bought her a brand spanking new top of the line bike ...........

ThIS is the first yr she has NOT known what she had gotten from Santa plus I didnt have to eat the half of all the carrots and write a note to Santa .......whewwwwwwwww.Dang near killed my self the one year on the roof making reindeer tracks ....yes you are reading it right ..I was on the roof making Reindeeer tracks with 2 X 4's ..............



Cait got me a shirt .......how cute it is

says



"Although the Voices are NOT REAL...........They have some Pretty Good Ideas " .......lol

I got everything I wanted ...even my slight smell of Mom drifting thru my room I swear ..........



Did great with shopping till Christmas eve day and then it was a nope I am going to car here Cait you pay...........I had to take a valium but I am okay now ..........



** BYW she LOVES her ring and all the stuff I got her PLUS now we are same size lol ..I can wear here clothes and her mine .......how cool is that ..........



Howie was here and we watched the Santa movie with Whoopi in it I found it sad at first but it has a great story and it is funny too ..........
Posted 12/25/2007 4:13 PM (GMT 0)
Wen

Merry Christmas to you. I am so proud of you, 2.5 hours is fantastic. You did it, celebrate your success. I am so glad your family is supportive of you, your hubby, and son realizing you made a giant step.

I will have to order a quilt from your daughter when she goes into business.

Bless you today and everyday. You have a friend in MN.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt
Posted 12/26/2007 12:13 AM (GMT 0)
Well, I FINALLY have a quiet house and all the company has gone.  Although it was a very busy day for me, it was a good day.  Not much stress, got to be with my in-laws (my own family live 3-4 hours away), had lots of laughs and good food - if I don't mind saying so myself  LOL.  I didn't panick or need any extra valium - it was really good being in my own house and having lots of people that I love and care about around me.  Now tomorrow I just have to go through the house and put things back in order; just way too tired to do it tonight.   Kitt and Lyn, thank you so much for the support and wonderful words.  Kitt, I decided that I will celebrate my success and not criticize myself for not being able to stay as long as the rest of the family did.  I really am very lucky to have such a support family - including my in-laws, they are just wonderful.  I will tell Heather that you want a quilt from her someday; oh, she's growing up so quick.  She's my youngest and hard to believe she's 13 already.    She got a Webkinz monkey today and is just as happy as can be - silly kid.   Merry Christmas to you both and you both have a friend in cold New Hampshire.   Love and hugs to both, Wen
Posted 12/26/2007 7:17 AM (GMT 0)
hello,

I am staying on my medication... not quitting it this time.

I think it keeps me from flaking out at work. Very stressful there and the powers that be keep piling it on. Without my medication I think I would be saying a lot of crazy stuff in front of everybody.

My brother was in the hospital and doing very poorly (side effect of anesthesia). I was able to visit there, usually I avoid hospitals and funeral homes like the plague. But I did OK visiting him and did not feel real nervous. I was very dutiful about calling his wife almost every day... yes, I have social anxiety even around my family and usually hate to call them.

Thankfully he is home now and doing better. His cancer was caught early and so it looks promising.

Saw all my other relatives at Christmas. OK, they ARE loud and annoying! But I feel like I am changing my attitude and trying to appreciate them for the nice things they do, like putting on a holiday dinner. And the kids ARE cute...

-- mk
Posted 12/26/2007 12:26 PM (GMT 0)
WEN

I know I can speak for lil sis but she will be on WE LOVES you too ..........and so happy your day went so well a couple of great threads my friend............Have another good day and great yakking this am sweetie
Loves
S.I.S.
Posted 12/26/2007 12:28 PM (GMT 0)
mk
YOU know your body and your mind more than anyone In all honesty and I am so proud of you for doing what you think is the best for YOU

CONGRATS on being around family and with SA it is hard for sure
One baby step or steps lead the way ..................

Kudos

Luvs
LYN
Posted 12/26/2007 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
Wen,

What a great Christmas you had, now make sure you journal your success or mark it as a red letter day on your calander and be sure to celebrate it. Recognizing your success is awesome. You are taking the credit you deserve. You enjoyed the day and therefore, kiddo, you stayed in the moment and did not let any anxiety push you somewhere else.

Kudos to you, I am so happy for you.

"Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Love to you dear friend,

Kitt
Posted 12/26/2007 5:14 PM (GMT 0)
mk,

You go and I like your attitude. I believe that staying on your medicine at this point in time sounds like a wise decision.

How proud you must be of yourself to have been there to support your brother and get past the hurdles that sometimes block you from doing what you want to do.

Keep on moving forward. "Don't limit yourself to the possible when you can reach for the impossible." ~ Kim Trinh

We are here to lend a hand and support you all the way.

Bless you and keep posting.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt
Posted 12/30/2007 11:42 AM (GMT 0)
This is the first time in 10 yrs I have not had a sore from the Pyoderma that cannot be controlled by oral meds anyway ( and only small ones) and the first year in 10 at Christmas with NO INTRAVENEOUS


Still doing good with the valim other than after the fall the other day ......lol

I have gone from 88 lbs to 117 in less than a month ....am sure thinking the sundaes ......(so bleeding may a day ) have to get most of credit

I CHOSE last night to get my LAST 6 and thats it as I am finally at a weight I feel great at for me ..........
I CHOOSE NOT to make a New Years Resolution this year .........I feel to bad when I cannot keep it and 9/10 times I cannot ........roflmbo
Posted 12/30/2007 8:50 PM (GMT 0)
WOOHOO - I DID IT, I DID IT, I DID IT:   I needed something at the fabric store today and I knew my hubby wouldn't like going there himself to find what I needed.  So I had him take me to the store - I wasn'tsure if I could do this or not, but I did!!  I was nervous and anxious but I was able to get through the ride there and back and able to go into the store, get what I needed, stand in the LONG check out lane and get back home without a panic attack.   Wow - I can't believe I was able to do this - am I proud of myself??  You bet I am - I haven't been out of the house since last Monday night - not even stepping a foot outside, never mind going anywhere.  So, yes I am proud of me!!   Just thought I would share this with you all.    Wen
Posted 1/1/2008 10:26 PM (GMT 0)

wen4003 said...
WOOHOO - I DID IT, I DID IT, I DID IT:

 

I needed something at the fabric store today and I knew my hubby wouldn't like going there himself to find what I needed.  So I had him take me to the store - I wasn'tsure if I could do this or not, but I did!!  I was nervous and anxious but I was able to get through the ride there and back and able to go into the store, get what I needed, stand in the LONG check out lane and get back home without a panic attack.

 

Wow - I can't believe I was able to do this - am I proud of myself??  You bet I am - I haven't been out of the house since last Monday night - not even stepping a foot outside, never mind going anywhere.  So, yes I am proud of me!!

 

Just thought I would share this with you all. 

 

Wen

Oh wen! Well done, it's quite right to be proud of yourself. :-)

My accomplishment today was going out for a drive with my dad. I'm a learner driver and failed my test 4 times last year due to anxiety. Tonight I drove quite confidently for the first time ever in both the rain and the dark without having someone sitting next to me who has control of the brakes. I actually enjoyed it and felt so in control. My dad lost his temper and shouted at me several times (he's really irrational and loses his temper over practically everything...I don't think having him as a father has helped my anxiety over the years) but regardless I still kept my cool and to be honest it's just made me more determined to actually prove people wrong and show that I can pass my test.

Posted 1/7/2008 4:28 PM (GMT 0)
I have brought this back to the top for 2 reasons - 1 is because I feel it's helpful to tell us about your success stories and 2 is because I have 2 successes to tell you all about . My first success was Thursday night.  There was a very important meeting at my son's school that I really needed to be at.  With the help of a valium (yes I know it was a "crutch" but I was nervous and anxious), I was able to go to the meeting.  I was even able to speak up and ask a couple of questions.  I have to say that I am proud of myself for doing this even though I had to take a valium to even be there.  But I went and that's what counts. The second success was yesterday, I needed to get a printout from the pharmacy of all the meds that I am on as I need this for some assistance I am applying for.  They wouldn't let my husband pick it up because I'm over 18, so I had to go there to get it.  This pharmacy happens to be in a large supermarket and I haven't been in a large store in months because I have a hard time even leaving my house never mind shopping.  This is because of the Agoraphobia.  But I had no choice, I needed the paperwork and I had to get it.  So we went and when we got there, my husband asked me if I wanted him to go in with me, I said yes (I know, another "crutch").  My anxiety was already in high gear because I have done nothing but paperwork for the last 4-5 days and I was grouchy and anxios.  I knew I would only be in there for a couple of minutes to get the paperwork, but I just needed to have him there with me.  I did it, hated it, but did it. Wen
Posted 1/8/2008 12:11 PM (GMT 0)
I have been coming on here on and off for a good 5 months now, and through your help and support and my family, I started to attend CBT therapy, which for me, has been wonderful. My therapist is ace and he has so helped me, more than I think he'll ever know. I haven't had a panic attack for just over 2 months now, and it feels great - sometimes I am still nervous when I go to places but am managing without getting to a full blown attack which is simply superb. I thought my therapy would come to an end when I haven't been having attacks but my therapist wanted to attack another of my phobias which is blood. I had to go the Fermoy unit of our local hospital and watch my therapist have his blood taken and then watch my own be taken - I was so proud that I did it without passing out, and tonight, is my homework from CBT which is to give blood. I am so nervous but my Dad is coming to support me, and I so want to do it. You never know who will need your blood! Happy new year to everyone and I do hope you all had a lovely Xmas. Things are finally on the up for me, I think!
Posted 1/8/2008 5:57 PM (GMT 0)
Chowch
I am so bleeding happy and proud of you
You are doing great
I do the CBT and for me it really has done a good job ya you have to work at it and sometimes it is hard BUT the payoff is the best IMHO

Keep posting plz and sharing success with us it truly does help others
thanks and take care
LYN
Posted 1/8/2008 6:43 PM (GMT 0)
Wow Chowch!! I am so happily proud of you-what an accomplishment!  You have every right to be so proud of yourself!  Keep up the good work and let us know how it goes with giving blood again. Wen
Posted 1/8/2008 8:35 PM (GMT 0)
S.I.S.
YOU did awesome
I am so proud of you
SEE I told ya the whole attitude and confidence would change didnt i .....Am going baking with Cait ..Luvs to ya
Talk in the am and yep I will be up ...........lol for sure
Luvs S.i.s
Posted 1/10/2008 4:22 PM (GMT 0)
Well another phobia overcome! I GAVE BLOOD!!! I gave for the 1st time today and am so proud of myself, I was a bit tearful beforehand and very nervous but the nurses there were great and let me jump the queue to get it over and done with. I am so pleased that today I have saved 3 lives! My therapist will be well chuffed with me! Do any of you give blood??
Posted 1/12/2008 12:30 AM (GMT 0)
THat is AWESOME chowch
YOU are doing great and thanks for sharing
YOU know with your post alone how many ppl you may have helped just today ....it is great .....

WE are so proud of you
Luvs
LYN
Posted 1/12/2008 4:46 PM (GMT 0)
Chowch - you did AWESOME!!!  Congrats on overcoming this phobia, you are moving along really well and I'm proud of you.  I personally do not give blood as my veins as very hard to get into and when blood or IV is needed it usually takes 3 or 4 times to get into a vein.  And I bruise very easily when this happens, I've also had the IV's infiltrate (I think that's the right word) and that ends up being a problem too.  So I don't give blood. Great job and well done!!  Keep up the good work! Wen
Posted 1/12/2008 4:51 PM (GMT 0)
I have another success to share w/everyone.  On Tuesday I had a therapy appt. for the afternoon.  I already was having a really bad day and my anxiety was in full gear and had already taken an extra valium to help calm down.  When it came time to leave for the appt. I took another valium, but was in a full-blown panic attack by the time we got there -about a 25 minute drive.  It took most of my session to calm down and get the attack under control.  I really didn't want to go there and I told the therapist that too - LOL.  But I went and I'm proud that I did. Thanks for letting me share this with you all. Wen
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