Please POST Your Sucesses....IT DOES HELP.............Part 2

SO proud of you
Thanks for sharing this with us
Every success has its way of helping another person as well as you ...

It is truly needed in support
KUDOS to ya
S.I .S.

Sadsong
KUDOS and thanks for sharing with us YES I do remember how bad you were at thanksgiving and I am so glad that you had a Great Christmas
Telling your Mom and Dad you love them is IMHO a very moving thing for them too and I am so glad you took this chance to tell her ........You should tell her as much as YOU feel comfy doing ya know

My Cait tells me a couple of times a day when she goes out the door and to bed .........

I remember Mom had not told me more than a few times that she loved me all my life and in that I was missing something.I knew she did BUT I had to hear it ya know..I did finally tell Mom that it bothered me and her smart alec remark back to me was why do I need to tell you YOU know .........
Because it validates the LOVE when you tell someone and they hear in your voice you truly mean it IMHO

Again so proud of you
YES this is a success thanks for sharing
LYN

Chris.........you posted "it's no longer terrifying". That is a milestone in my book and let me tell you, celebrate my friend. You are taking it one day at a time and your winning.

Gentle Hugs.

Kudos Aussie, I love the beach. An overnight sound lovely. I am proud of ya and I know you are making great strides.

Hugs at ya
Kitt

Well I wouldn't say it's particularly one of my own successes, but I'm very relieved that another member of staff is being employed at work to help me with the massive workload. I've been so busy ever since Christmas and struggling to get things done and the stress has really been getting to me. I only started this job in November with a mere 3 weeks training and have had to do it all on my own, if there's been something I haven't understood then there's been no-one to ask and it's felt like a burden/failure on my own shouders. I like to do things accurately at a measured pace and hopefully with someone new to help I'll be a lot less stressed.

I am glad you have finally gotten some help and it will ease the BURDEN and stress on you

It is about time I would say

Let us know how you are doing plz

LYN

Staying in the Moment...............I am sure a few of you have heard me use this phrase..........or as I sometimes refer to it as "Be Where Your Butt Is". I learned this in my 9 months of therapy and now I will try to make it clearer for each of you.

One of the major reasons why we fail to find happiness or to create unique lifestyle is because we have not yet mastered the art of being.

While we are home our thoughts are still absorbed with solving the challenges we face at the office. And when we are at the office we find ourselves worrying about problems at home.

We go through the day without really listening to what others are saying to us. We may be hearing the words, but we aren’t absorbing the message.

As we go through the day we find ourselves focusing on past experiences or future possibilities. We are so involved in yesterday and tomorrow that we never even notice that today is slipping by.

We go through the day rather than getting something from the day. We are everywhere at any given moment in time except living in that moment in time.

Lifestyle is learning to be wherever you are. It is developing a unique focus on the current moment, and drawing from it all of the substance and wealth of experience and emotions that it has to offer. Lifestyle is taking time to watch a sunset. Lifestyle is listening to silence. Lifestyle is capturing each moment so that it becomes a new part of what we are and of what we are in the process of becoming. Lifestyle is not something we do; it is something we experience. And until we learn to be there, we will never master the art of living well.

This takes a lot of practice for someone with A & P but I have learned to do this thow I sometimes have set back, I pick myself up and get back into the moment.

Please give this a try when you start to feel anxious. Bring yourself back to where you are and try not to anticipate an anxiety attack.
^{Reproduced with permission from the Jim Rohn Weekly E-zine}

Sarah,
Welcome to my world biker chick. Your talking to a bonafide Biker Lady, HD 1200cc Sportster. I have been riding on Harley's since I was 15 and that has been a long time. I always rode on the back until 2002 when I learned to ride. My daughter rides too.

I am so proud of you for coming so far in a year. You go girl. Great success story.

Hugs at ya
Kitt

Welcome to my world as well
I have been a Harley rider since I was young and just let those negative comments slide off your back '
There are so many different typs of ppl that ride harley's it is unreal
I envy you on the "Bikers" week ......

I go to the May 24 gathering of all the Bikers in Port Burwell......Friday the 13th was good one ....
a few yrs back

I also go to the biggest No colors no fighting "family'pig roast put on by "Big Al" a good friend of ours

Have a great trip hun............let us know all the details and hopefully some pics
Am so proud of you you have come so far


Badfish I have a few tattoos had them since I was a youngin .......I also have one I got last yr with mine cait and Hwies name in a heart on my shoulder........REMEMBER though......they are NOT something you can get rid of easily......

Great success storie my friend proud of you too
Thanks for sharing
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Hi all
Well
I am proud to say that this very severe OCD person with cleanliness and everything being inplace and balanced lol......WAS able and DID have a fantastic Easter with Hwoies grown family and their kids all 5 grandkids were here running amuck and having a blast
Made a BIG turkey dinner with all the trimmings and you know NOT once did it bother me that the kids were making a mess NOT ONCE and for me that is a HUGE step..........and NO valium til last night after all ahd gone home and I was geting in hot tubby before bed.........

Kudos to me ...Yahoooooooooo


OCD is better IMHO due to CBT and the fight .............

Hoping all had a great Easter.......

PLZ shrae if you care too

Luvs
LYN

I can empathize with so many of you here.
I posted some of this on another thread but thought it would be helpful to have it here.

When I was 13 I went through and extreme bout of anxiety. I can't tell what made it start but it started out slow and progressed rather quickly. The only thing I can think of is that I had a gynocologist exam at that time because doctors thought my body was producing to many hormones. Anyways, I remember going to have the exam and putting the sheet over my head kind of freaked out. The nurse in the room kept telling me to breath. I never thought about this till I look back at it now. That was probably the start of it without me counsciously knowing. I was sexually abused and I wonder if the exam had promted something in me without me knowing.

ANyways, it started out where I was afraid I was going to get sick. I though every little sign ment something bad was happening to me. Not too long after that I became so anxious when I went to friends houses. I would stay for awhile and then feel like I was going to get sick so I would have their mom bring me home. It got so bad that I could not leave my house. I would go to the store with my mom adn get all shaking, sweaty, and feel like I was going to pass out or something, my heart would be racing.

They were the most awful moments of my life. I had to be homeschooled because it got to the point where I could not go to school.
My home became my safety but even there I began to be somewhat fearful.
My parents had no idea what was going on and never thought to bring me for therapy, they didn't believe in it, thought it was useless. So I pretty much suffered alone with all these thoughts that I was crazy. I wanted to be normal more than anything. I wanted to enjoy life and life was killing me. I had no meds, nothing to help.

After about a year and a half of suffering like this my parents dropped the bomb. That we were going to be moving to another state. I flipped out, I am now going to be leaving the only safety I know. On top of that we were moving into a "team" house. It was a home for missionaries. Lets just say that put me on extreme edge going to stay with all these people I didn't know.

When we moved there, I shared a room with 6 other girls, we had three sets of bunk beds in our rooms. Again I suffered in silence, I could not let anyone know what was going on, they would think I was crazy. So I continued to fight and pretend I was normal. They girls would go out and I wanted to go so bad. We had a community pool in the neighborhood that they would go to. I would start walking with them and then turn around because I could not manage being away from my home.

I got so sick of living like this, having this thing rule my life. So I slowly took steps, went a little further each time. I finally made it, and realized it was not so bad. That I was going to be ok. That I was the one talking my mind into these things and my body was reacting to what I was telling my mind. I begin to take these baby steps in everything, gaining confidence. Thats the biggest thing to take those baby steps....I can assure you the more you do it the easier it will get and the more confident you will be.

It took about two years total and then I began to feel so much better I could go out and do things. I still had my insecurities but I was able to talk my mind out of these things. Telling myself that I am fine, its me talking myself into it. I realized that there was not a thing I could do to make my body stop breathing or heart stop beating etc....it does it all own its own apart from me. That in itself was so reassuring. I told myself the worst that can happen is I will pass out and my body will do its job to bring me back through.

This does not mean that I don't ocassionally have a thought of panic, but I quickly begin talk myself out of it as soon as I recognize it..
If someone were to tell me to do this back then I would not have gotten it, I had to go through things and come to realize this for myself, which I did. I had to get so sick of living that way, and want my life back bad enough to force myself to do things that made me afraid. I can tell you this it works. I even took a trip to India, 20,000 miles away from my home alone, and stayed there with people I had never met. It was a mission trip.

when I first got on the plane the thougths started, am I crazy what am I doing. I put my ipod on an began to listen to music to get my mind of of the thoughts. Then I get on the next flight and I think I can still turn around, I can go home now, but I didn't I forced myself to do it. I had the greatest time in my life, stayed three weeks, and even tried to stay longer but my ticket was restricted so I could'nt change it.

Life is worth it guys, you are worth it. You have the power to do it, it just takes recognizing that you are stronger than you think. Take those baby steps and don't turn back, I promise you they will pay off. Do the things that make you feel uncomfortable. Every little thing will make all the difference.

I know its only my experience but I know it works.
I am dealing with the sexual abuse now for the first time in my life and yes it can be overwhelming at times but I keep telling myself its going to be ok.

Believing with you
Pressing

I almost forgot to share this with everyone!! As some of you know, I am agoraphobic and I've had an extremely difficult time leaving my house for any reason - even for my therapy and doc appointments.  But over the weekend I think cabin fever struck me because I wanted out of the house in the worst way.  My husband needed to make a run to the pet store to get some stuff for my daughter's hamster.  So I decided to go with him.  I took an Ativan and I felt really good.  I went there, wandered around the store, picked out a few things and after paying we left.  It's the only place we went, but it felt so good to get out and not once did I feel panicky in any way.  Cool, huh!  Now, I need to find another small errand to do, I really want out of this house!  Little by little I guess I'll accomplish getting over this phobia (at least I hope I do); this has been a huge struggle for me - I used to be a social butterfly and be out and on the go all the time.  I'm just not sure how this has happened. Just thought I'd share this with you all.  :) Wen

Wen
Thats what it is all about my sis
Baby steps it takes a bit longer sometimes ( most times) BUT you do wind up finding you are getting where you wanted too

I am so PROUD of you

Luvs
Sis