Dear adobbs,
Welcome to HealingWell. You have come to a wonderful site and the A & P forum members are all very kind and caring. I am sorry you have been through such a rough time. We have others with SA too so you are not alone.
Social Anxiety is a problem more common that you might think, and is often linked with serious depression. Social anxiety disorder is often called social phobia, an excessive fear of social situations.
There are several treatment strategies intended to help achieve the treatment goal of reducing social anxiety to manageable levels, including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and medications.
I am sorry you have not had luck in the past but perhaps you might consider giving therapy another thought.
My wish for you is peace and happiness. Keep posting as we are here to help you and we love new members.
Take care.
Kitt