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Posted 8/21/2008 8:03 PM (GMT 0)
My sister is in the hospital. She suffers from Paranoid schizophrenia has hasn't been taking her meds. She tried to kill herself yesterday by taking all of her meds at once. Her boyfriend stopped her. She is currently in the medical ward waiting for a bed to open up in pych. I have a POA for her so I've bascially been on standby because she gets catatonic and unresponsive when she gets really bad. I'm trying to stay at work, but my mind is not here. Also my nephews wife is pregnant (7wks) but there are problems with the babys growth and heart. They are fearing she may miscarry. It's been a bad last few days. cry I just took half a xanax to make it through this day.
Posted 8/21/2008 8:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Sweetie,
I am so sorry for what you are going through.
I think you are really strong dealing with all the stress already so hang in there.
I am sure you sister will soon get well and get all the medical attention she deserves.
I hope the fetus's condition is not that serious. At such an early stage in pregnancy anything is possible and maybe the baby will make it through.
Please keep us posted and take good care of yourself. I hope the Xanax you've taken was prescribed by your GP and that you are taking the correct dose. Please be careful with other drugs interaction as i was told not to take any medication before consulting my GP since i was put on Lexapro a few weeks ago.

Take care of yourself and remember we are here for you.
HUGS
Posted 8/21/2008 8:40 PM (GMT 0)

Samer said...
Hi Sweetie,
I am so sorry for what you are going through.
I think you are really strong dealing with all the stress already so hang in there.
I am sure you sister will soon get well and get all the medical attention she deserves.
I hope the fetus's condition is not that serious. At such an early stage in pregnancy anything is possible and maybe the baby will make it through.
Please keep us posted and take good care of yourself. I hope the Xanax you've taken was prescribed by your GP and that you are taking the correct dose. Please be careful with other drugs interaction as i was told not to take any medication before consulting my GP since i was put on Lexapro a few weeks ago.

Take care of yourself and remember we are here for you.
HUGS

Thanks for the encouragement. Yes, the xanax was prescribed by my psych Dr who also gave me my lexapro. I only take 1/2 of a .5mg pill when I feel extra stress that may throw me into a panic attack.

Posted 8/21/2008 9:14 PM (GMT 0)
ahhh man, that is rough. I am so sorry for you and your family.

Mental illness is brutal and so painful. All you can do is put some good postive energy towards this and KNOW she will be ok.

I'm sending you a ton of good vibes. Focus on keeping yourself in tune as well

Hugs

Jen
Posted 8/21/2008 10:23 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, sorry your having to go through this. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Tj1
Posted 8/22/2008 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
Dee,

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time right now. I'll be sending out positive thoughts and prayers for your sister and your nephew's wife. Try to remind yourself that they're both being well-looked after right now. Your sister is in the best place to be taken care of and get well, and I expect your niece's doctors are monitoring her pregnancy very carefully. Do try to take a few minutes for yourself, to locate a bit of your own inner peace.

Hugs,
percycat
Posted 8/22/2008 1:49 AM (GMT 0)

Dee,

I would just like to add my support to what you have already recieved here. You and your family are in my prayers.

It sounds like you are a pretty amazing person and sister, hang in there, take that xanax if you need to, there is no shame in taking care of ourselves.

I really hope your sister is okay and that she comes out of this darkness soon.

Hugs,

Meg

Posted 8/25/2008 1:07 AM (GMT 0)
OK, I'm really starting to lose it. I just found out about an hour ago that my grandma died. She was in a nursing home but it happened so fast, none of us were able to go and say goodbye. I feel terrible. Couple that with the fact that my sister I originally posted about is going to have to have shock therapy to get her out of a catotonic state b/c she wont eat or drink and is declining physically. Now, if that isnt enough, my brother emailed me to tell me that he had a heart attack last Nov and didnt tell anyone...just AWESOME mad   My oldest brother died of a heart attack in May 2007 at the age of 43yrs old. I am SOOOOO angry that this brother (age 42) didn't feel the need to tell us about this. I am the youngest of 7 (now 6) kids and everything falls on me in the family. My grandma had a pre-arranged funeral, so at least that will save us from having to make those types of decisions this time around. I want to punch a wall right now and cry at the same time.
Posted 8/25/2008 2:19 AM (GMT 0)
Dee, I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.... I 'm soo sorry for the losses you've experienced and the worry you are going through right now with your sister. Know that she is in good hands. Electric shock therapy isn't the awful thing people associate it with.... as a nurse I know it is does with barely a notice from the patient.... and it has very successful results.
I am keeping that sweet baby in my heart and prayers. ... Dee .... I can just imagine how stressful this is for you right now. Do take the xanax... This sort of stress takes its toll on the body, even when we think we are keeping it together.... your insides know and react to the onslaught. Try taking extra good care of yourself. Drink plenty of water...try to avoic coffee... eat good nutritious things.... and BREATHE. when all help breaks loose , we forget to breathe.... when you feel anxiety taking over , take a few minutes to just concentrate on your breathing.
Good luck honey.... I'm really good at giving advice but I know how hard it is to follow it. Praying for you.
Mary
Posted 8/25/2008 10:35 AM (GMT 0)
I'm really sorry to hear about all those terrible things happening to you. I can only imagine what it's like to go through all of those things at the same time. I can only advice you to also take good care of yourself. Isn't there anyone else in your family who you can share this with so it doesn't fall on you alone? It's really too much for one person! Best wishes!
Posted 8/26/2008 1:27 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry you are going through so much. You and your family will be in my prayers.
Posted 8/26/2008 1:33 AM (GMT 0)

Oh Dee,

This is really, really sad. You must be feeling so anxious and powerless. Please remember to take some time just for yourself. You need to stay sane, you need to put yourself first every so often. I wouldn't recommend punching the wall (ouch!) but there might be a nice patch of grass outside you can jump up and down on and scream (I speak from experience). My prayers are with you and your family.

Hugs,

Meg

Posted 8/26/2008 3:03 PM (GMT 0)
Dee,

You're going through such a rough and stressful time right now. Try not to let the anticipatory anxiety run wild on you. Your sister is in good hands, and even though the idea of shock therapy may sound frightening, she's in a safe facilty to have it done. Your brother may have thought he was doing the family a favor by not worrying them; try not to assume that he's going to haev another heart attack. You may feel better if you can also get reassurance that he's under careful medical care now as well. And I am so sorry for your grandmother's death. I'm sure you'll miss her. Try not to feel guilty; you've had a huge amount of things to juggle all at once, and no human can do it all.

Hugs,
percycat
Posted 8/26/2008 3:51 PM (GMT 0)

Good Morning Dee,

I am so sorry you are going through so much anxiety right now.  I would try to put the fact of your brothers heart attack into a slot for now and not try to deal with why he did not tell you and in fact I am wondering why he chose now to mention it.

I know that watching your sister go through all of this is truly difficult and I will say a pray for both of you. Use your Xanax if you need it.  Try to stay in the moment and remember to take care of you first.

One of the best simple ways to deal with Anxiety is breathing. Simple things like inhale to your lungs full capacity, hold it, then exhale imagining all of the stress to leave your body with the air that is exhaled. Getting yourself to a quiet calm place is another way to help and be able to breathe. Imagining a beautiful scene in your mind, counting to 100, counting your breath and trying to slow it are all techniques that really do help.

Do know we are all here for you.

Hugs
Kitt

Posted 8/29/2008 11:50 PM (GMT 0)

UPDATE: I got back from my grandmas funeral a couple hours ago. I was able to get through it without taking my xanax, although it was hard. My aunt and my mom were trying to fight over who got to keep flowers, the quilt in the casket and other stupid stuff.

Also, my niece miscarried her baby this morning. She still came to the funeral. She was about 7 weeks along. She was such a trooper. God bless her. My other niece's best friend ( I used to babysit them) lost her baby last night. She was 7 1/2 months and the cord was wrapped around her neck. She will be induced tomorrow...terrible. Her fiance was car jacked about 3 weeks ago and shot in the chest. He is still in the hospital and now they've had this tragedy. Man, it's been a really hard couple weeks for my family.

My sister is in ICU now. They weren't able to do the shock therapy because she started to take a turn for the worst physically. They are doing a spinal tap on her today to see if she's got an infection in her spine. I've got to call the hospital to check on her later. I'm physically and emotionally spent right now. My grandmas service was beautiful. She lived a long life and was buried with her husband at the National Cemetary in town (he was a Vet). She suffered a long time and I know her passing puts her at peace...finally. I'd just like a good amount of time with no sadness or drama for my family.

Posted 8/30/2008 2:51 AM (GMT 0)

Dee,

I'm just knocked out. I'm sorry, I don't know what to say. Here goes:

When things are wrecked in my life I take time out, sit down and write what I want to be in my future. In detail. It gives me some hope, a goal to work towards, and some peace away from the here and now.

I'm not usually an advocate of not "being in the moment" but I will make an exception in your case. You need some time away from this grief..please take it, and take care of you first.

Hugs,

Meg

Posted 8/30/2008 3:03 AM (GMT 0)

P-Fit,

I am so sorry that you are having such a run of sadness in your family. You have my sincere sympathy at the death of your Grandma.

I hope you are strong enough to avoid the fueds and stay in the moment.  Do not let what is happening around you tear you down but draw on your inner strength. It is there just reach way down and use it.

Do get rest, put all thoughts out of your head and let yourself find your own peace.

I wish you peace.

Kitt

Posted 8/30/2008 7:55 PM (GMT 0)

You guys are such a healing force for me. I tried to stay out of the foolishness, but got drawn into it this morning. My aunt left today but before she did, she told one of my brothers that MY mom told her that I stole money from my late brothers estate and spent it on my kids!!!!! I was LIVID!!! She was supposed to be the executor of all his stuff, but because she is on public assistance, she didnt want anything in her name as it would count against her benefits. She asked me to do it too because I work in the financial services industry and know a bit about estates and stuff. Well, I just about blew my top. Good thing she lives 30 miles away or I probably would've been  be on the 5:00 news tonight! I called one of my sisters and apparently my mom has been throwing this story out there to anyone that will listen to cover up the fact that she is terrible with money. I have all the receipts and bank statements from this deal and it shows that I didnt do anything wrong. I paid myself back for my brothers funeral (we paid for it upfront), pre-arranged her funeral arrangements (she has no insurance) and gave the rest to her. She blew it all in 6 months.

We're having a party for my oldest son today and at first I told my sister that my mom was not welcome in my home. Well, my mom called crying and apologizing and stuff. After some prayer and quiet time, I decided to let her come out for the party. I know that I am called to forgive her as part of my faith, but I an REALLY hurt by this. It was a blow to my integrity and I take that very seriously....UGH...DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA!!! I NEED A VACATION!! shakehead confused

Posted 8/31/2008 8:14 AM (GMT 0)
Dee.... Honey ... you are one remarkable woman. I think God put you on this earth to teach everyone how to forgive, be patient, caring and understanding. Unfortunately we don't get to choose our families. We are part of families for better or worse. It is soooo hard to get past some of the hurts we feel from people who supposedly love us... I guess we have to remember that no one is perfect ... we're all here to learn from one another... only some learn better than others... some of our family members never learn. We each have our own conscience to live with... we are all responsible for our own spiritualitiy and relationship with God whatever we many call HIM/HER. We've all been given free will...and that's where most of our problems begin...
Life is soo hard sometimes... you have so much to deal with! But what I sense from you is a very good heart, strong spirit... and a good sense of humor. That will carry you through many, many things. I hope you have some support Dee... someone you can talk to...
You know we are all here to listen... we care a great deal. Do keep us posted ok. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Hope your son had a good birthday!
God Bless
Mary
Posted 9/1/2008 12:38 AM (GMT 0)
Dee,

Honey, you've got so much sad news and tough situations to deal with right now. I hope you are able to take just one step at a time with all this. Be careful with yourself, and do what you're able to, knowing that that's your best.

Lots of love, hugs, and prayers to you,

percycat
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