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Posted 10/23/2008 5:55 PM (GMT 0)
i hate that i am so withdraw, like that in situation i am scared to try things sometimes, like we'll go to the renaissance festival and my husband can interact in character but i am completely froze up why do i do this. i see my friends trying things that i would never try, and because of this i feel like i am wasting life, if its in my comfort zone i am good but otherwise i am withdrawn.

i hate that i try to hard to please a friend, and it usely backfires by them taking advantage of me.


i hate my weight, when i was younger it was so easy to lose weight, now if i look at a candy bar i gain 10 pounds.

i hate i can't seem to make machelle time, i always feel like that i should be caring for the family.

i hate hate my shaking, i am scared one day my husband may leave because of it if it gets worse, he is really good about it, but why would he want to stay with me.

i am sorry to vent this about me, i sooo know i have flaws but i do care about people, i just don't about myself cry
Posted 10/23/2008 6:31 PM (GMT 0)

Machelle,

Alright youve told us all the stuff you hate, now tell us what you like about yourself, and your life, and we wont take "nothing" for an answer!!  Its always so much more easier to think about the things you hate about yourself, and harder to think of all good, but if you look deep inside yourself youll realize all the wonderful things in your life! give it a try and just name a few!! Take care Machelle and know that we are thinking of you!!

Posted 10/23/2008 8:05 PM (GMT 0)
i think i am a good mom, i try to keep things together like the house and family, but its hard to think of anything else, i hate how its hard to make friends, having three kids, and being a introvert , i hate being alone
Posted 10/23/2008 9:33 PM (GMT 0)

machelle,

I am going to give you a short answer as I know you to be a good, kind and loving person whom I think is having a bad day.

I think everybody gets down on themselves from time to time. I don't think you need to get over it so much as get through it. I also think if you continually say "I hate myself," it becomes a self-fulfilling kind of thing. Try to be more positive. The more you come to accept yourself for whom you are, the better you are going to feel about yourself.

Love yourself first as you are the most important person and from there you can share all your love.

You are not what you look like on the outside but who you are on the inside.

Luvs ya
Kitt

Posted 10/24/2008 3:26 AM (GMT 0)
I think that when we see ourselves in a negative way, that we see everything about ourselves in that way. If we can find one poitive, then we will start seeing more positives. And eventually everything will be positive.

You said that you think that you are a good mom. Say I am a good mom. Not I think I am. I am a good mom and I keep things together around the house. You are doing that, not just thinking you might be.

Do something nice for yourself also. Be kind to you. That is where the strength begins. Within ourselves. then it radiates throughout us and then we spread it around. You can do this,
we will help you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/24/2008 4:56 AM (GMT 0)

It's easy to fall into the trap of always looking at our negative selves, especially when we look around and see other people moving through life seemingly so effortlessly. I know you are a generous caring soul and a loving mother and wife. Don't let yourself get bogged down with self doubt. Machelle is perfect just the way she is. Now are we going to share that chocolate bar or what?!

Hugs,

Meg

Posted 10/24/2008 1:39 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Machelle,
I am so sorry you are feeling so bad about yourself at the moment.I'm just beginning to recover from a nasty episode of anxiety,and have found the kindness of the people on this site has really helped me.I hope you can feel the same.Just reading your recent posts----there are good things in your life,although I know how hard that can be to see yourself,when you are anxious etc.You look after 3 children------I take my hat off to you--that's got to be one of the hardest things to do.Your husband is still with you,and I would guess that that is because he loves you,and can see the good things in you that you can't at the moment.
You say yourself that you care about others,but not yourself----give yourself a break,and try and fit a little "Me" time into the day.The fact that despite your present problems,you can still think of others--well,you can help people on this site,with your experiences,if and when you're ready.
I really relate to everything you said in your first post.I've had all those feelings,and they really hurt if you're in a fragile state mentally.Have you talked to your Dr about how you feel?Maybe you don't need "medical" help at the moment(like medication),but maybe some talking therapy?Maybe you just need some friends--you say you are isolated,and maybe you could look into meeting people near where you live,maybe people with a common interest,or maybe something relating to your children and other moms(depending how old your children are)
Remember,you are a worthwhile person,who is going through a bad patch.Please let us know what is happening with you.I wish you peace and health.
Posted 10/24/2008 1:42 PM (GMT 0)

Good Morning Machelle

How are you today, feeling better about you?  I said a prayer for you last night and I had the angels sprinkle some angel dust on you while you were sleeping.

Hugs sweetie,
Kitt

Posted 10/25/2008 3:17 PM (GMT 0)
i am o.k. but i just feel like my problems hold me back from really enjoying life, but i so scared to step out of my safe zone, i wish i could meet more people like me, i like rock hunting, collecting stones of all sorts, renaissance fairs, beautiful parks, i like paranormal stuff, and shows, i love old movies black and white, and others, i love garage sales, flea markets i like finding things i have never seen before, i like seeing old plantations, i like history, i started making necklaces, stones necklaces with beads , i just need more people to hang out with i feel so isolated sometimes, i love all you guys for caring for me all the time your good friends too.
Posted 10/25/2008 3:45 PM (GMT 0)

Machelle,

OK, sweetie, here is an idea........go to some of the flea markets, make your necklaces and perhaps you can set up at a craft fair and sell some necklaces.  That will put you out talking to people and you may find someone you like that already has something in common with you. Have a garage sale or yard sale.

Start doing some of the things you like.  Take a step outside your safe zone, it will still be there when you need to go back to it.

Hope your day is sunny.

Kitt

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