Adult content: Sex and Anxiety

enjoying sex is still difficult because I am still preoccupied with being successful and pleasing my partner.

It's awful, and frustrating, and I'm not sure how I will get through it. Again, if anyone has any insight, or advice, I'd be very grateful if you could impart some words. This is embarrassing to talk about, but I am at my wits end, and I'd do just about anything to enjoy normal relationships without failure lingering on the horizon every time.

Welcome and do not be embarrassed.I edited out a couple of words as 13 yr olds are members here too and I know they read on internet all kinds of things this is family oriented

I hope you understand

'Please know you are in good hands here and the ppl here are very supportive caring and will give you input on this ..........Email me if you would like a further explanation as to edit ...

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 11/24/2008 12:28:49 PM (GMT-7)

Anxiety causes premature ejaculation as the chemicals released in the brain increase the speed at which sperm move through the tubes. However SSRIs have the opposite effect. Taking SSRIs for a long time can screw up the system. The more confidence you get, the less anxious you will be so the longer you will last. I think its just a case of practice makes perfect.

I really hope i dont want to sound contrasending here, but all women are different i have met girls who really works with and some who it really doesn't. Point is dont be too disheartened if it hasn't go with one girl as next girl is likely to be completely different.

Goodluck my friend

Badfish

 Sorry I hit wrong edit ........LOL

Post Edited By Moderator (Howlyncat) : 11/24/2008 8:48:49 AM (GMT-7)

Dear Polecat,

Hello and welcome to HealingWell. I am Kitt. There are solutions to the problem of ED so keep the faith and think positive.

Psychological and behavioural responses to ED can lead to a vicious cycle of increased uneasiness, panic and decreased self esteem.  This is a issue that affects the lives of many men, you are not alone with this issue.

ED often results from a combination of different causes, which comprise of organic and psychogenic factors.

In addition to life stressors resulting in anxiety, erectile problems themselves can lead to specific anxiety. Performance anxiety, resulting from the patient's concerns over his erectile response and durability of his ______, is always present even if at different levels.

Performance anxiety leads to increasing anxiety and increasing ED resulting in a vicious cycle of failure and escalating anxiety/panic.

Sexual anxiety counselling along with the Levitra and checking the side effects of any of your meds may break cycle your stuck in right now.

Please remember _______ are a reflex response. They  are not under the conscious control of the mind. 

What may help you best is to relax, seek situations creating desire and arousal and to focus on positive images rather than anticipate failure. This may be assisted using pharmacotherapy as success will breed success.

ED leads to frustration which may result in irritation. Psychosexual counselling is one of the best ways to deal with your feelings. ^{Resource: Hale VE, Strassberg DS}

I hope some of this helps you and please know that you are wise and brave in seeking help with your issue.

I hope that you  can break out of your cycle and remember you are a good man and this does not make you less of a man.

Take care

Kitt