Distressed

Dear Maz,

Some people have never read an article or picked up a book  to learn about parenting.  They are ignorant to the fact that you have feelings and still look upon you as a child and feel they have the right to comment on  your actions. Also you live in their house so they feel they have the right to speak out their opinion.

If your sick, and you called in then they should support you and instead it comes out all in criticizing.

You are now internalizing what they said, you feel hurt and angry and on top of that ill.

Temporary fluctuations in our self confidence are common, they happen to most of us. Try self talk, tell yourself you are fine. It feels to me like your parents knock you off track with their behavior.  I think your awesome and I hope you feel better. 

Talk to your Mum when you feel better and do not let in turn into an argument, just let her know how you feel when those comments were made.

Luvs and lots of warm hugs.

Kitt

Awww Maz sorry to hear you are under the weather. I agree with Kitt when you are feeling better maybe sit down with Mom & Dad and let them know how their comments hurt. I have a chronic health condition that will choose to flare at anytime, no matter how well I take care of myself. What sucks is that it is an intestinal disorder, so while you feel like utter poop on the inside, you don't look so bad on the outside. So many times I hear, "You don't look sick", but inside I feel horrible. So much like anxiety my illness can't be seen on the outside. So I really do understand what it is like when people make insensitive comments like that. Sending lots of gentle hugs and hope you get feeling better soon.

Gail *Nanners*

Maz, sorry to hear that you are not feeling well again today. I'm going to say a prayer for you :)

I agree with Lyn. . . I tend to be a bit to sharp with my kids when they are chronically doing something I feel is detrimemental to their futures, even if it is something they have no control over, because I feel bad and scared for them :)

Love ya! You better get better now and keep your chin up :)

Maz,

Isn't this rain a blessing? I'm sorry to hear your fibro is acting up, but it's such a joy to have some cool weather and listen to the rain drum on the roof.

My mother used to guilt trip me, my father would but I refuse to have contact with him so he does it through my siblings. Real mature. Now my Ma is my number one supporter. She doesn't "get" anxiety but she has seen me in debilitating panic attack mode and she doesn't question my judgement anymore (well apart from regular mum stuff!).

Fear and love does motivate parents to react in a hurtful manner. Be the bigger person..let them worry but don't take it onboard. It's your life and your decision. Anyway it's the last week of term..what can be achieved?

Hope your day improves..go dance in the rain..It'll make your hair frizz and we can be the frizz sistas!

Love, meg

Maz,

Think of the worst thing that might happen with this misunderstanding and then kick it to the curb.  You are living your life my dear friend.

It is only a myth that people without mental health issues or medical conditions are the lucky and happy ones. Why is the  person that is the one who collects all the credit for making comments that start with They say......................  Just who is They?  Lets drop kick them into a gruop of roos.

Smile, you are beautiful.

Kitt