Posted 10/9/2010 4:43 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Brizzums. You said that your boyfriend doesn't really have any friends and so you are essentially all he has and that you feel bad about possibly letting him go. Whether you stay together or not is of course your decision, but remember that it's not your responsibility to spend ALL of your time with him just because he doesn't have others in his life.
You can certainly encourage him to get involved in activities or clubs or whatever where he could meet some new friends. But as far as spending time together, no matter how "perfect" he may be eventually we all hit a point where we just need some time away. Think of this analogy. Have you ever gone outside and thought that the weather is just perfect? The air is warm, but not too hot. There's a gentle breeze, a blue sky, and just a few light fluffy clouds sprinkled above. It couldn't be any more perfect. Imagine if there were two straight months of that "perfection". You'd probably stop appreciating it and start to take it for granted. You might even think, "gee we really need some rain". By having a rainy day and then a beautiful sunny day you appreciate it so much more by comparison. Likewise if you spend too much time with someone no matter how great they are, eventually you'll feel inclined to pull away. And with some space you might find yourself less annoyed (if you feel obligated to be with him) and actually start to miss him.