hi there..and thanks very much for the replies.
I seen a ent specialist and i was fine...then again, i had a baby in march 2010....i've had my regular checkups, and am fine. My abcess was taken care of with antibiotics...thank god.
I will just learn to relax....and wait patiently until i see the dentist.
I found a good book from Chapters..."Anxiety free"..so i will read that...and relax.
i had ear problems in the past too..like 5 yrs ago....the doctor said its caused by a viral..and it will pass..
I am almost use to the feeling, lol.But if i think positive, and relax...and remain functional..i will be fine.
I appreciate responses...and this page is helpful and supportive.
Thanks again people.