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Posted 3/4/2011 12:09 AM (GMT 0)
Alright I know this is a touchy subject so I don't really want to get into full detail as to have my post modified or deleted...but does anyone have performance issues with their anxiety/depression?  I'm not having trouble getting into the mood, it's more of like....there's no feeling or pleasure from doing so which makes it impossible to achieve an orgasm.  I put this to the test last night a little bit and honestly I became VERY depressed about it afterwards.  Started thinking that it's an absolute life sentence that I'll never be able to get pleasure/enjoyment out of it again.  On the plus side i was thinking that a lot of women would probably love to be with me because of the amount of time I could perform....but there's absolutely no pleasure in it so it really makes me just not want to even attempt it.

I'm a single guy and my problems last night really don't help out my confidence much for meeting someone or wanting to get emotionally involved in a relationship because of that insecurity.  I know every person has their needs and if I'm just sexually (and for the most part emotionally) numb, I don't think that I'd be good catch for anyone honestly.


Anyone else deal with this?  And I don't think its from medications, I haven't taken any kind of anxiety/depression medications in the last 3-4 weeks.  That's part of the reason why I wanted off of it honestly because I was having trouble getting aroused.  Now I can but there's no point to it lol.  I know this is a rough subject for forums but it just annoyed me so bad last night and I kept dwelling on it today and feeling so bad about it.

Posted 3/4/2011 12:36 AM (GMT 0)
naww it's just a phase lol i've been there trust me, rock solid, with no sexual passion but I got over it just don't dwell on it, your passion will come back

sorry, gotta keep it vague guys, we have many members currently who are minors.

Post Edited By Moderator (Scaredy Cat) : 3/3/2011 7:27:03 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 3/4/2011 12:51 AM (GMT 0)
How long did the phase last? Cause it suuuuuucks lol
Posted 3/4/2011 10:00 AM (GMT 0)
when it happened to me, it didn't affect me so I got over it quickly, honestly if you dwell on it and let it bug you, the longer it'd stay my friend:( trust me, sex is too great of a thing to lose pleasure and desire for haha you'd get over this quicker than you know it
Posted 3/4/2011 1:46 PM (GMT 0)
Mike,  I cannot remember which medication you are on for sure. 

Sexual side effects are common with antidepressants in both men and women. So your concern is understandable. The severity of sexual side effects depends on the individual and the specific type and dose of antidepressant. For some people, sexual side effects are minor or may ease up as their bodies adjust to the medication. 

To the best of my knowledge, antidepressants with the lowest rate of sexual side effects include: Remeron and Wellbutrin.

Can you throw anxiety into the mix >   I believe that anxiety may cause many physical problems.

If your problem continues do talk with your Dr.

Kindly,

Kitt

Posted 3/5/2011 7:47 AM (GMT 0)
Mike, I can imagine this is a difficult subject to deal with.

I do know your mind can be your bump in the road. Do you know what your triggers are for Anxiety? I am not saying you want to psych yourself out, but adversity which leads to stress is huge with anxiety. I am not a Dr. But as 3 doors down said, it happens. Being overtired, anxious, your body is going to act out in whatever way it can to get your attention and it did. So what no big deal. I have been married 19 year, its happened when stress was high.

I would write that incident down, read it and say ok that was unfortunate, it is over so i am now going to tear it up and toss it in the trash it doesn't deserve any more thought.

Do you see anyone for depression or anxiety? I would find out why you have anxiety, i have it because i was raped when i was 19 but what i didn't remember until later in life when i was safe was for a year a step grandpa did some unspeakable things. I forgave them. I am not saying you were molested. All i am saying is find out what triggers your anxiety, then learn the tools to deal with it like biofeedback, diaphragmatic breathing,

Nevertheless, I can imagine the worry this brings to your mind. Do Not Give it Power.

May you stand firmly once again, against anxiety. lol
Posted 3/6/2011 4:47 AM (GMT 0)
Mike, I will say it tends to be common either frm meds or just anxiety or depression. Its difficult times to be vulnerable when youre going thru this stuff and kind of a priority in that if you r in pain or distress like your hair is on fire, its hard to feel romantic. sometimes we just have to shut intimacy down when interest in things in general is at a low. Ive heard it broken down to INTO-ME-SEE. It happens to everybody at times with this. Wouldnt worry.When we have to close down a little we kinda circle the wagons and need to work on the inside stuff first. The body follows the mind. Be patient work on you and all will be well.
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