Terrible anxiety triggered by moving to another state

I feel you, any changes in schedule/routine totally kick my anxiety into high gear. No place like home :) Well, if you are being forced to move and make these changes, then you will have to do your best to adapt. Maybe having an anti-anxiety med on hand for those out of control moments would be helpful??

In time the changes will become familiar to you and you will settle in and the anxiety will decrease. If you are not able to live with your family member, maybe you can get a nice little place of your own -- would that make you feel better?

Prayers for strength and confidence during this time!

God Bless -- Stephanie

Blu,

I am so sorry you are making this move that is causing you so much stress.
Picturing positive outcomes can significantly reduce apprehension, which can lead to increased levels of confidence and an overall elevation in mood. Make yourself a list of the pros and cons of the move may help you to identify the good in your move.
There is a great short book, Who Moved My Cheese, by Dr. Spencer Johnson. Reading this book is an amazing way to learn how to deal with change in your work and your life.
I read it years ago but when it comes to change I remember that little book that makes change easier for me. I know it is available from Amazon and I am sure you could find it at a library or any local book store. Over 24 million copies of this book have been sold worldwide.
Just a suggestion for you.
Kindly,
Kitt

Blu,

Befuddled is a great word and I will hold onto that word as I too get befuddled and confused as to what to do to decrease my anxiety even thow I know many ways I just freeze and break into tears .

I so agree having someone remind me that I will be OK is a huge help.
We have all the patience you need and never doubt for a moment that we are not here to help you through. You are family here in A & P.

I wish you peace and happiness,

Kitt

Last night I sat in my doorway & watched the fireflies, smelled freshly cut grass, listened 2 the crickets chirp, saw how it was basically dark but cld see the sky was still a deep, rich blue, felt the softest breeze, drank cherry crush & ate little chocolate donuts as my big, soft, warm puppy laid across my legs. I thought, despite e-thing else, 4 that moment n time how cld it b any better & I shld do that waaaaay more often.

WTG Blu. Great ways to stay in the moment and as SC said hold onto that memory. My one memory that comes to my mind - I went on a trip to Atlanta with my daughter when I was head downhill and just getting to Atlanta, renting a car and driving another 2 hours to our hotel was high anxiety for me. I did not want to upset my daughter so I hung on.

The next day we stopped at a Starbucks right by a small lake. They had benches outside in the sun and I just sat there and let peace come over me. At that moment I had no anxiety or any cares, just looking at the lake with the sun on my face.

One day at a time, one step at a time.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt

Hi Blue, yes I can relate to the up and down patterns that you describe. I think that when we get a break from the anxiety, our minds kind of expand with the beauty of things that may get ingnored when we are trying to 'maintain' and stay calm on a daily basis. I try to appreciate those nice moments and squeeze as much as I can out of them...sometimes they are few and far between.

My family and I went for a hike on Memorial Day, and the anxiety and symptoms tried to creep in. (I was having some heartburn from the lunch we had just had and sometimes that's enough of a trigger.) I forced myself to just focus on the cloud and rock formations, the wildlife and the beautiful spring flowers that were all around us. It worked and we had a really nice time. I know what you mean though, why does it have to be a conscious choice/battle to just enjoy something? Well, like you said...it just is;p

You have so much to contend with right now, and I think that you are doing amazingly well. I must tell you that I would not be managing to the level that you are. I think that your spirit and strength are admirable, and I am impressed with your courage and perserverance!

When is your move happening? And how was your latest dr.'s update?
I hope that all goes well in the near future regarding all of these things. Keep us posted:)

Take care,
S.C.

Not a good day. Incredibly sad. This is the worst thing Ive evr had 2 do, leaving. The days count down to the 18th and with each day it makes me sadder no matter how I try to psych myself up and say its ok. My bones may be fracturing but not like my heart and spirit. I know I have no choice and how there r upsides to it, all that. My head knows but my heart is aching. I cant believe Im really going to have to do this. Spent my whole life building just to have to throw it all away. I am inconsolable.

SC-My 1st "marriage", age 19, lasted 8 mos, bad, had 2move bk w/mother. Found out I was pregnant (lite of my life) til he was 2. Remarried age 22, bad,8 mos. Baby n me bk w/mom. Remarried age 25, great & had 2nd son. Div after 14 yrs, still family/close. 13 yrs on my own w/sons. Theyre grown now tho. Starting ovr young no problem. Healthy. Nvr expected ths @ 51, too old & too young. Bone death, fractured sacral bone n back, L hip-leg joint, multiple stress/prestress fractures all way down both legs 2 ankles. Dunno yet if frm Addisons, steroids must take 4 Addisons r s-thg else. Vit D levels been running below 17 a long time which is baaaad. 2out of 3 epis. Waiting on appt w/guru specialist asap. Drs say Ive so much happening its horrendously complex.

Still keeping you in thought and prayer Blue. Let us know what the specialist says, and what your treatment protocol will be. Those steroidal drugs do carry some serious SE's. It's so difficult, because you can't do without them, but then something almost as bad happens as a result of them!

My Grandmother suffered with RA so terribly. She of course found relief with steroid drugs, but inevitably had to deal with the cause and effect of them:(

Hang in there Blue. I don't know how to comfort or cheer you, I know that I would be inconsolable, I am sending out positive thoughts and prayers though, and  I am here and listening always.

S.C.

Dear Blu,

My heart breaks for you and I worry about you. I do understand how sad you feel and you have a right to feel this way. I do worry about your Addisons and I am going to ask you to pull from your inner strength to deal with your sadness. Addisons can flair when your stressing out so severely which can cause you to become extremely ill. Remember you have your sons and they need you.

Dealing with my anxiety and depression for 29 years now there have been times when I just want to give up and not be a burden to my children or hubby. That is when I think of how sad they would be if I just gave up. Also I love my family so much that if I had to I would do anything I need to get past the hard times no matter how much I was hurting.

Perhaps making a daily list on what you need to get done each day would help you. Leave plenty of time for rests in between chores and no guilt if you don't get the chores completed from your list.

I am also wondering if you are on any pain medication RX from your Dr. ?

Please know we are always here for you and would help you pack if we could.

I want you to stay well as the world is a better place because you live and serve within it.

Many prayers and gentle hugs coming your way.

Kindly,
Kitt