hazelnut86
I am sorry if you felt I was being harsh in my post. I was only trying to help you find the old thread so you could review some of the great posts in that thread.
You are always welcome and encouraged to post whenever and as much as you want to. ((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))
I hate to see you hurting so much as a Mother I know how painful it is when your child is causing you so much distress.
I am borrowing the words of another very wise person, " Adolescents need to distance themselves from their parents to a certain degree, if they did not, they could not successfully transition into adulthood. So this is a good and natural progression in some repects. However, being rude, disrepectful and nasty are not acceptable ways to do this. Your (difficult) job is to give your son the room he needs to grow, while maintaining discipline and respect for you. "
My oldest son joined the marines right out of high school - he was 18 and he has never moved back home. That was the year I had my first meltdown. He went in as teenage boy and came home from boot camp a fine young man who was disciplined and very proud of himself. He had gained a whole lot of self esteem. To this day I am very proud of the years he served his country. Just the words of a Mother speaking here. 